Why Women Gain Weight After They Get Married

[impaul99]

A friend of mine wrote this excellent article. As a man, I found it really interesting.

Why Women Gain Weight After They Get Married | Lightworker World

Thought you might find it interesting.

[Cran]

The aticle should read: Why American Women gain weight after marriage.
This is no universal phenomenon.

[Trezker]

Originally Posted by Cran

The aticle should read: Why American Women gain weight after marriage.
This is no universal phenomenon.

Seconded. Err, wait. I think most women around here who marry do get fat...

But women who make families and all the same stuff as one who does marry don't get fat.
My three sisters are perfect examples. None of them married but they've settled down and built families with children and a man and everything but none of them are getting fatter.

So what is it about marriage itself that makes women fat?
Maybe it's the ring on the finger...

[m0vingon]

Where is the article about why men gain weight after marriage? This is not a one-sex phenomenon.

[jawillie]

Very interesting. Thanks for sharing! I agree, though.. where is the article about why married men gain weight?? Or, is it just accepted to be "okay" if a man is overweight?

I was always my skinniest when I was single. Even when my now husband and I broke up for a few monts I lost a ton of weight. And, it wasn't because I was tying to "snag" another man, either. I was just busy doing things I enjoyed. Then we got married and I felt "tied down" again. (and I think, secretly, that depressed me big time)

Now I have been steadily losing again. Not because I am single. I am still very much married. Not because I am dieting. I don't believe in diets. But, because I am taking responsibility for my life. My moods, My emotions and my actions. I am owning them all.

When my dh says he wants pizza, fine... we order a pizza. I don't eat it though.

If he wants to stay home and do video games, that is fine. But I Don't have to. I go out and kayak. Or bike.

Yeah, we end up doing things separately now, but I figure he will either join me or not, but I am not going to feel guilty for getting out and doing things I love to do.

I think for some women, maybe their husband brings them DOWN and they allow it??

Interestingly enough, we are getting closer and closer now. He sees me getting out and enjoying life and he is asking to join now. So, clearly it's a good thing all around.

I think women lose themselves too easily for their families. Get out and do what you love with no guilt. This will put food on the back burner for good. I am not even tempted to eat out of emotion anymore, and I used to "own that story" like crazy. (Claiming that I am an emotional eater) I just decided one day that I am NOT an emotional eater. Turning inward (getting in touch with spirituality) and getting out of the house thins a person right up!

[impaul99]

Originally Posted by m0vingon

Where is the article about why men gain weight after marriage? This is not a one-sex phenomenon.

Maybe I should write the follow-up. However, it would probably be a mostly humorous article since everyone knows that men gain weight before, during, after and in between marriages. However, we also do have the ability to lose 16 lbs ( HealthyFitGuy.com » Lost 16 lbs ) in 49 days, whereas most women probably have to work 18x harder to lose 5lbs...

... and then of course they gain it all back plus 10lbs more the second they look at a piece of chocolate.

[cliffski]

I was skinny when single, but its because I was young, and had a manual job that burned serious amounts of calories. like many people, I got a desk job as I got older. Plus I had more money and could afford to drive (less walking) and eat more.
So its possibly more age than getting married? Most people I know my age are fatter than when they were in their twenties, even the single ones.

[PerDev]

I dont think majority of woman gain weight after marriage, It could be after baby comes ..

[Jennihul]

They forgot this cause: Your husband cooks for you and obviously wants you fat because he sabotages every single diet you ever try.

Jennifer

[Vasilisa]

That's all possible. But I don't understand why women's judgement is so poor, that they will follow whatever their men are doing. And why do they feel guilty when other men pay attention to them?
I mean just those nice compliments or slight flirting can improve self-esteem significantly if a woman doesn't get what she needs in her own house. And it won't harm anybody either.
I can tell if one spouse is kind of lethargic and slow it's hard for another spouse not to become the same way. But that's when we can excercise our will power and still move, meet with friends, do something we love, keep going. And at last a lazy spouse will become more active too. Because in the family people influence each other. And a person with the stronger will usually wins.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by impaul99

Maybe I should write the follow-up. However, it would probably be a mostly humorous article since everyone knows that men gain weight before, during, after and in between marriages. However, we also do have the ability to lose 16 lbs ( HealthyFitGuy.com » Lost 16 lbs ) in 49 days, whereas most women probably have to work 18x harder to lose 5lbs...

... and then of course they gain it all back plus 10lbs more the second they look at a piece of chocolate.

Thank you for the compassion, Paul. Lately, as I listen to Danger Man complain about the half-pound of belly fat on his otherwise perfect body, as he sits there drinking a cocktail and scarfing half a pizza, my thoughts they turn to mayhem.

[Lauxa]

Nice article. I have not gained weight after marriage, but I do recognize some of the patterns you have mentioned in the article.

[Patpre]

most of the culprit why woman became fat after pregnant is hormonal imbalance , the metabolism is getting slow and needs some extra work to burn fat.

[Ninja]

Marriage does not make women fat... pregnancy does. Some women still believe they really need to 'eat for two' and that exercise somehow hurts the baby (lol!). Doesn't take a genius to figure out where those pregnancy pounds REALLY came from.

[dulaney0330]

I have actually lost weight

[Daffy Duck]

Interesting article, impaul. I think it's true that many married people "settle down" and stop having as much fun with each other. When they were dating, they did all sorts of stuff. Football games, go-karts, rockclimbing, movies, dinners, you name it. When Americans get married, and get older, they tend to start staying inside more. Less activity. So naturally they won't be as fit or even as "fun" if they don't stay conscious.

Relationships are like a fire. You can't just get one going and then leave it alone. It will burn out. You need to keep throwing more logs in! Focus on the fire and enjoy it. A marriage is probably the most important relationship one will ever have (besides the relationship with Self).

[Indiana]

Okay. More than 60 percent of the Western world is overweight or obese. I don't think women have any monopoly on that. Weight gain is a human problem, not a female one, so why is the focus so much more on the woman?

That aside, if we accept the proposition that women gain more weight after marriage than men do in general (which I would like to see evidence of), rather than attributing it to women's propensity to talk in riddles and their husbands' failure to understand them, how about this:

- People tend to gain weight as they age, women more so than men owing to their muscle/fat body composition. Women tend to continue aging after marriage.
- Women bear the brunt of the physical responsibility for pregnancy and childcare. Children cause stress and lack of sleep. Lack of sleep and stress have been linked to weight gain.
- Women's jobs in general are more sedentary than men's, and people in general take on more sedentary jobs as they age.

I'm not saying the fact that the cupboard now has more Doritos than it used to, or the fact that you'd rather take the kids to the mall than on a two-day hike through the mountains doesn't make a difference sometimes, but in general the article seems very airy-fairy and self-pitying.

Also: kissing does NOT burn 26 calories a minute, I can assure you of that.

[Daffy Duck]

Originally Posted by Indiana

kissing does NOT burn 26 calories a minute, I can assure you of that.

Obviously you're not doing it right!