Lack interview skills, No job- Why?

[Zoomorphic]

I m in my final year of college. Right now, most of my class mates have successfully secure a job training for next year after graduation. I' ve been to 6 interviews for the same job and I was rejected continously.
Most interviews are based on work experience and passing PERSONALITY/ BEAVIOUR test. I ve loads of summer work experience I even worked in for the past two summer. I even bought interview books and read them.

i dont know what went wrong. I m starting to doubt my PERSONALITY. Perhaps, i didnt do well coz people asked questions and realised I ve a shitty behavior?? or maybe i m just annoying?? or maybe I m just seem like a B-I-T-CH?

Any advice?? ARgh, i hate myself right now. I m the only 7 out of 53 people that didnt get a job training. I m so frustrated and really think my personality is the reason for my rejection.


Any tips for passing interivew and securing a job?
I just cant pass the interview Questions and give good answers.
How do I fake it to make it??

[mtrimpe]

My intuition is telling me it's not your personality, but your attitude! Personally I've been to dozens and dozens of interviews and I've only been turned down three times.

My trick is a certain inner sense of knowing I'm good for the company and exactly how good I am. You however seem to go into the interview really doubting whether you're good enough, deep down feeling that you're not. Given that it's no surprise that your interviewers do exactly the same: doubt whether you're good enough and decide that deep down they feel that you're not.

I always imagine the company and all the people that work there and imagine what they would expect of a candidate. Then I look inside myself and see if I can be much better than they expect for the period I'm working there. I get into a meditative state until I know with every fibre of my soul that I will be good for the company and exactly how good.

I once landed a job at a prestigious company for which I was basically underqualified at that moment with the following line, spoken with complete conviction: 'So basically, you guys have a decision to make. I'm not yet at the level which you guys expect, so you have to decide if you believe I can get up to speed in 3 months.' The look on their faces was priceless and one talk and one week later I found a signed contract in my mailbox.

Most interviews I enter simply knowing that I'm good for the company and the rest unfolds automatically.

The lesson here is: whatever you believe about yourself, other people will believe too.

[Zoomorphic]

Mtrimpe,

The lesson here is: whatever you believe about yourself, other people will believe too.

Really!? Does my body language and facial expression tell it all. I do lack the self-esteem alot. It cant be change overnight, it takes a long time to get rid of th habit of self hate and perpetuating negativity.

Is there a way to convince / fake / mask my inner feelings?
I really want to believe I m good enough. How?
I dont love myself very much. This is difficult situation.

Unless, I rid inner insecurities, I wont get the job coz people can sense UNCERTAINTY.

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

Really!? Does my body language and facial expression tell it all. I do lack the self-esteem alot. It cant be change overnight, it takes a long time to get rid of th habit of self hate and perpetuating negativity.

Whether or not it can be changed, and the length of time which it will take to change, is wholly up to you. When you tackle this issue I think you'll find life a lot easier to finagle as you'll see the strength you have in changing yourself as well as your surroundings.

[Love]

My brother was in his final year at college this year as well, and kept getting "rejected" at interviews. Luckily, one of the interviewers told him what he was doing wrong. I can't remember everything, but I know that one of the things the interviewer said was not to take notes during the interview. You know, little things that he just didn't know were considered "wrong." Can you get someone to mock interview you and tell you what they're noticing?

[Gayathri]

Maintaining good eye-contact is very important during an interview.
Have a great handshake.
Research the company you are applying for and be familiar with it.
Have a good posture and a natural smile.
Personal grooming is important - have clean trimmed nails, fresh breath and a neat hair-do.
Dress well. Make sure your wardrobe says "professional".
As Love said, try to get a mock interview.
Have a good night's sleep before interview day.
Avoid irritating mannerisms.
Have a positive, open body language - you can read up about this online.
Be polite, honest and confident.
If you feel too tensed, relax yourself with deep breaths before the interview.
Remind yourself that you are very well qualified and really are fit for the position.
Watch your language in the interview room.
Thank the interviewers for their time before you leave - always.

From the posts you have made here, your only problem seems to be that you have a low self-esteem, and I cannot guess why for the life of me. You seem open, friendly and honest. Develop a healthy self-image by reminding yourself of your good qualities. In my college, there were many brilliant students who couldn't get placed till end of our course. But now they are all happily employed. Relax. Work on your insecuirities and body language and you should be fine.

Good luck!

Cheers,
Gayathri.

[munish]

Maybe it’s not such a great idea to go out of your way to impress the HR person who’s only looking for the most submissive loser they can find to fill a position that no one in their right mind would want to do for more than a couple weeks anyway.

Quitting to Win

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

I m in my final year of college. Right now, most of my class mates have successfully secure a job training for next year after graduation. I' ve been to 6 interviews for the same job and I was rejected continously.

i dont know what went wrong.

Any advice?? ARgh, i hate myself right now. I m the only 7 out of 53 people that didnt get a job training. I m so frustrated and really think my personality is the reason for my rejection.

I just cant pass the interview Questions and give good answers.

[mtrimpe]

Well, it sounds like you have deeper issues that you want to take some more time dealing with before you say start saying goodbye to them; now .. that's fine.

In the meanwhile, as you start to focus more and more and just how good a feeling you can cultivate just remember you don't need to be amazing.

I've found over the years that virtually all of the people I once looked up to and the situations in which I thought I would be outclassed were filled with people who weren't that special at all. It turned out to be very rare to be around people who have exceptional skills and far more common to find yourself surrounded by people who 'just do what the last guy did'.

You're just coming out of college and the chances are that because you've been so hard on yourself you've unwittingly become incredibly good at what you do compared to the people who think they are on top of the world. Give yourself the chance to find out how good you turn out to be and most likely, just like me and millions of other people who set high standards for themselves you'll find that you can outperform many, many people who've coasted through life.

The thing you'll start to learn more and more over the coming years is how to set really high standards for yourself and be proud for living up to them, instead of loathing yourself for missing them. You'll find out that your way of motivating yourself has produced good results but only didn't create happiness. Now as you start to generate more and more happiness in your life you'll find that happiness also brings great results and great performance, just like you've experienced through agony over the past years.

Now let go, enjoy the interview, know that you don't know just how good you'll turn out to have been for your future employer and smile knowing that you'll get there eventually.

May the force be with you

[Zoomorphic]

Originally Posted by mtrimpe

My intuition is telling me it's not your personality, but your attitude! Personally I've been to dozens and dozens of interviews and I've only been turned down three times.

My trick is a certain inner sense of knowing I'm good for the company and exactly how good I am. You however seem to go into the interview really doubting whether you're good enough, deep down feeling that you're not. Given that it's no surprise that your interviewers do exactly the same: doubt whether you're good enough and decide that deep down they feel that you're not.

I always imagine the company and all the people that work there and imagine what they would expect of a candidate. Then I look inside myself and see if I can be much better than they expect for the period I'm working there. I get into a meditative state until I know with every fibre of my soul that I will be good for the company and exactly how good.

I once landed a job at a prestigious company for which I was basically underqualified at that moment with the following line, spoken with complete conviction: 'So basically, you guys have a decision to make. I'm not yet at the level which you guys expect, so you have to decide if you believe I can get up to speed in 3 months.' The look on their faces was priceless and one talk and one week later I found a signed contract in my mailbox.

Most interviews I enter simply knowing that I'm good for the company and the rest unfolds automatically.

The lesson here is: whatever you believe about yourself, other people will believe too.

Its been 1 month since my post. Many thanks for everyone's supports last month. Just to let u all know,
Today I was offered a training job! finally!
One hour before my interviewed I read Mtrimpe's advice. Thankx Mtrimpe. I really did get into the confidence mode of knowing I m competent for the job.
So.. Thank u all ! My life begins here.

[Love]

Congratulations, Zoomorphic!

[Gene]

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

Today I was offered a training job! finally!

Congratulations! I hope the job is all that you hoped for and more.

[Lauxa]

That's great! I have often had the same problem of not doing well at interviews, and mtrimpe's advice really seemed accurate for me. I am very excited to hear that you were able to land a job using this advice.