I don't have any friends...

[makessense]

Originally Posted by celestar332

Hey guys,

Friends? God have I had a hard time with this one. I have had that big "circle" of friends in my life, but the funny thing is it wasn't always satisfying. You can get lost in a big group, become the small voice among larger voices and lose all sense of your true self.

Over time I have lost friends, gained friends and only a small handful have stuck with me through all the good and bad times. I thank god for that, for I am a bit of a emotionally needy person, so the constant friend thing has always been my little overwhelming need. But the truth is, friends will come and go and If you all have ever heard their are levels to this types of friends. Some being "karmic" friends, others being the truer "soul mate" friends and then the highest level-Twinsouls. You can have many twin souls but only one Twin flame and that is the soul that is at the same frequency as you on a soul level. I believe strongly in this idea, and I found through all my lonely times and desperate feelings, that this one true friend is always with you if you look for it, if you are open to it. So if you feel alone and without any friends to help guide you...then look within, because you are your own true best friend and inside you is where you can find this twin flame-just resting beneath your own heart.

-J

I thought that was very well explained. Look within yourself and you will find what you need.

[dickjohnson]

I definintely know whats it like to not have any friends unfortunately... I'll be 28 next month, and every day that goes by I feel more and more alone... Even though I do have a girlfriend for over 2 years, I fear she might leave me one day since she knows my situation... My 'friends' from the past were low lives, treated me like garbage, put me in dangerous positions, etc.. Everything a REAL friend wouldn't and shouldn't do.. The older I became, the more I knew less and less people.. Honestly if it wasn't for my girl and my dog I wouldn't even be here.. I've been through so much negativity in my life, its taken an impact on me big time. I'm so cynical its unbelievable.. I don't like to be like this either but its all I've encountered in my life.. Even though I myself have had to distance myself from old friends because of the way they were I still felt sad and lonely that I was FORCED to make those decisions.. i don't get it.. I consider myself to be pretty easy going, laid back, funny, ya know, a decent guy.. I help alot of people, old and young, I work with developmentally/physically/mentally disabled adults, etc.. So I feel like I give so much to others that I wonder when will I be given something in return?? And I don't ask for much.. But the bad outweighs the good in my life like you wouldn't believe and I'm just tired of it..

[Mountain]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

I feel like its too late to make a close knit of friends.
I envy others who have such a big, close group of friends. why can't i have that. sorry for whining

it takes quite a bit of energy and time to nurture relationships. it's work.

[yogiclaire]

i think you have to be your own friend first and then friends will come x

[Artelus]

Hmm...I wonder how Rockchick36 is doing nowadays...

[Sajor]

Dont feel bad, i literally have 0 friends, but most of the time im ok with that, i guess it depends how you feel inside, society or atleast i was told people that are successfull have many friends yada yada yada, its not true, I am thank full i have close family , mother, father, brother and my dogs. Hang in there, life can only get better .

[The Happy Mom]

You must put yourself out there! You cannot stay in "victim" mode and self pity. As we mature our self confidence goes up and we don't worry so much about what others think and say about us. I know this is challenging when you are younger but you must tell yourself that you are worthy of great friendships and you have a lot to offer someone. I used to think no one like me when I was high school so I became the NICE girl to fit in and have everyone like me. As I matured I found it hard to say no to people, so I became the PEOPLE PLEASER. This drains you and leaves you feeling exhausted and unappreciated. Just be yourself (and if you don't really know who that person is) than start to join some groups. Groups with things that interest you and light you up! You will start to make connections with people that have similar interests as you and spark friendships from that! When my husband and I got married and only had single friends with no kids, we decided we needed to make new friends so we could do things with other families and our kids formed friendships. Some of them I have nothing in common with other than our kids and that's ok, cause I have another group of friends that I do other things with. Does that makes sense?