I am in a strange mind set

[vir_maha]

hi,

I have previously posted some thread regarding my problems but still I can't able to get over them.

I think my thoughts and my attitude towards life and other people is killing me. I have been to many psychiatrists, taken all type of anti depressants and tranquilizers but they don't have any affect on my thoughts and my attitude. My thoughts overshadows all effects of medicines(which i think).

I worry a lot, hell lot. I can't able to focus, I lost 8 jobs in past 2 years because I think I am having social anxiety disorder and can't concentrate on my work, sometimes I hate people around me specially females. When someone talking and laughing beside me I get irritated and anxious.

When I meet some strangers, I run out of my words ..I really don't know what to say..I keep on worrying what he or she would be thinking of me that i can't able to communicate.

Sometimes I think I can't able to hold responsibility of anything in Life, I don't have good sense of humor and when some girl says this i keep demoralizing myself as a dump person.

And the root cause of these problems which I analyze is family problems i faced when i was a child. Problems were sort out after five years but inbetween I lost all my confidence and filled with worry and fear.

Now these problems are rooted in my personality to such an extent that I can't able to get rid of them.

To sum up my problem, it goes like this..

what happens if i do this and it goes otherwise, what if i get a job and can't able to do my best, what will happen if while driving a car i met with an accident, on my wedding day if i don't look good than what people will say, what if i can't make my wife happy...blah blah blah....and it goes on ..day, night, 365 days a year..and still going on....

Please help...i don't know how you help by simply putting your motivational thoughts.

[directi0nallyl0st]

my name is jeremy, i'm only 24 and i've already been through therapy for the last decade (still going too)
i have a generalized anxiety disorder, insomnia, a panic disorder and the occasionally anger problem ... i worry a lot, dont sleep because of it, freak out sometimes over it, and occasionally find myself getting destructive with frustration.
from your post i'm sure you can relate to some of this. now what i cant tell you is how to make it stop, i've been working on that for years... but what i can tell you is how i personally take the edge off.

distraction, whatever it is you like to do in your off time, do it! if you have nothing to do, find a chore that needs to be done. it doesnt fix it, but not letting yourself drown in the aftermath of dwelling on your fears can help in the long run. dont let your head overwhelm you, do something to take your mind off things... wash your car, clean your shoes, straighten the house...

i've found that if i can stay calm, i tend to find more solutions... sometimes i have to focus on something, do something for a bit to let the anxiety fade, then i can logically think about things...

i know that nothing i say will make it better, i know that in the darkness of your worry, my words will hold little bearing... but trust me, staying calm and thinking clearly is a good way to handle almost anything, my hope is that later when you're feeling down, or freaking out, that you'll remember this post and take a deep breath

[Jennihul]

What would happen if you just gave up your lifestyles of dysfunction?

Basically being functional or dysfunctional is a choice. You are choosing your thoughts and your reactions to everything that happens to you. On conscious and subconscious levels.

People change all the time...consciously and subconsciously. There are many tools, as you have experienced but none of them matter until that person makes the choice to change. So I say skip the crap and make the change.

Why have you decided you should be immune to these possibilities?

Jennifer