why I want to kill myself

[lightthecandle]

1. I'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs
2.I feel ugly, even though people tell me I'm not
3.I'm about 20 years old and I still have absolutely noooooooo self confidence or self esteem
4. I keep thinking about the abuse I went through when I was younger
5. My dad puts too much pressure on me to be perfect
6. I CONSTANTLY wish I could go back in time and fix all the stupid mistakes I made

tell me life gets better and is worth living..or is it?

[Soony]

I feel for you. I understand because that is how I used to feel. What do you do about it? Well, you know you can't change the past. So for every question you put on your thread, ask yourself "so what?" It's not meant to sound harsh, just try saying that after each negative thought you have. It brings light to everything. Sometimes your mind is your worst enemy, but it is always your best friend.

[bbox]

Yeh Soony is right hey.. I used to feel the same way - in my last year of high school i was cutting and considering suicide.. and the only way things changed was when I realisied i had a choice i could either keep thinking about all the negative things in my life or i could start noticing all the blessings, the oportunities which are in and come by my life everyday and realising nothing changes unless I actively change it.. for every action there is a reaction, and instead of putting negative thoughts and acting on negative things in my life i turned around and started putting my thoughts and actions into stuff which was making my life better.. trust me i know it's hard and you feel like your life isn't good but bit by bit things will get better if you choose it.. some advice/ ways you can look at things positively on the points you put up

1. I'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs- hey your passing, and I know allot of my mates who would feel great if they were getting B’s. Allot of people don’t even get into college..
2.I feel ugly, even though people tell me I'm not.. then your probably pretty cute.. Don’t worry about what others think of you, you are valuable just cause your alive.
3.I'm about 20 years old and I still have absolutely noooooooo self confidence or self esteem.. this takes time to build up. Get out of your comfort zone, and you don’t need others permission to feel good about yourself. You are special and unique everyone is.
4. I keep thinking about the abuse I went through when I was younger – well you can’t change the past but you can use it positively as motivation to make damn sure those people who abused you will not steal your ideal life which you deserve off you. You can’t change the past only can change your future and how you are living now..
5. My dad puts too much pressure on me to be perfect- your dad at least cares about you to push you to good things. But if its too much don’t worry, its your life not his. You don’t have to bow to anyone’s vision of your life.
6. I CONSTANTLY wish I could go back in time and fix all the stupid mistakes I made- well sorry but you can’t. but you can make sure you don’t do them again.

Ultimately it’s YOUR life and the CHOICES are yours. You can either focus on the past and negative stuff or you can start taking action now to move towards a better future. I feel for you, you will be in my prayers.
Blessings
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[anamoly]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

1. I'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs

That's okay man! Although, I understand that you may feel that college or grades are super important. However, in reality - they are not. Your dad puts incredible amounts of pressure on you, but don't buy into it. Drop out if you don't like being in school or stop investing so much of yourself into it.

You are not your grades. Get in touch with your deeper feelings. Let your emotions be, watch them - don't judge them. Let them pass through you. Engulf your emotions in your loving welcoming true-self. You are not your mind. You are not your thoughts. Read the Power of Now. I used to be depressed, and I diagnosed myself with Bipolar Disorder. I have been trying to stay in constant presence as the watcher of both my thoughts and emotions. This helped me become peaceful and care-free about everything. Your true self is peace and you will realize that only when you learn to listen to your thoughts non-judgementally (and not mistake them for who you are), as well as allow your emotions to be (also without mistaking them for yourself).

Reading The Power of Now (and a New Earth if you wish) and practicing presence will help you reconnect with your true self and find peace. You will learn more about presence and how to constantly stay present if you choose to read that book.

Well, you think you're ugly?

Your outside nature doesn't matter. Even if other people perceive you as ugly, it doesn't matter. They are limiting themselves by labeling you. Our face is only a mask. You have no self confidence of self esteem? That's simply because you think and you believe that what you think is who you are. That is easily changed by the simplest practice of listening to your mind.

When you catch yourself thinking about the past, observe your attachment to the past.

and if you off yourself, you'll simply need to relearn the lessons that you have to learn. life will keep going! but most of all, you'll be depriving the world of yourself - right now you may think you can't offer much to the world. that is false. i know because i have been extremely depressed before too. you are simply cut off from the energy of life that will sustain you once you reconnect with your true self. i know this sounds like psycho banana babble, but these are just the words i chose to express something that i cannot.

[kalyan]

ya.i saw your message,but i felt exactly same when i was at my college ,allways thinking about my past and planning about how to commit suicide,reasons are same as u mentioned them for yours

1) i'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs i too failed to do great things in my college days ,beacause my problem is i can't logically think for making better decisions but i have surplus amount of memory which is my asset and my friends use to do things in a innovative way ,but i failed to do to them because i couldn't understand what really they are.but with time my logic got improved.

2.)I feel ugly, even though people tell me I'm not
beauty is a comparison and depends on ones imagination ,no one in this world is born ugly unless u can't see the real beauty in them and whats bullshit is this beauty ,it doesn't stay for much amount of tme ,after crossing age of 30 plus ,every one looses it.just don't care about your external appearance beacause it is not permanent ,one who give importance by seeing ur beauty are just idiots and feeling that your are ugly is due to magic played by your brain,believe that mind can do all stupid tricks because it is a highly educated monkey with complete freedom in creating all sorts of nonsense.


3.)I'm about 20 years old and I still have absolutely noooooooo self confidence or self esteem
i too felt the same way,when i was 22 ,but things get changed now after 2 years ,even there are people who loose there self confidence at the age of 25 ,30,35.
there is no age limit for depression .anyone at any stage can get it,its due to your life style and the way in which you receive the things happening around you and brain is a adpative machine which gets trained in the way in which u allow it ,if u train it with negative thoughts ,eventually it looses its stabilty in doing things and starts opposing ur actions as a protective and cautious measure for forcing u to rethink that ur in danger,that is the special thing protecting people,otherwise most of the people had already died ,if the brain doesn't warn them about depression.self confidence is just like a muscle which u acheive in the gym .if u train ur body to solve(lift) small problems (small weights) and after a breif period increasing the problem level to bit high (increasing the weights lifted to a bit high level) ur brain stamina gets increased (like the muscle for a body builder) and if u stop exercising your body or stop giving problems by escaping it ,than the muscle or your brain stamina gets reduced and falls to the normal level .so u have to start increasing your brain stamina (strength) by training it to face small problems first and folowed by bit higher one and followed by bit higher one,don't become overconfident after solving a small problem ,its a brain trick ,if a person in a gym lifts a small weights for 10 days and after that if he fools himself that he got the strength and tries to lift a larger weight (because of his overconfidence) than body can't support that and he fails lifting that huge weight .so do it in a progressive way forr increasing your brain stamina(strength).

4). I keep thinking about the abuse I went through when I was younger .
this is the function of brain when it is filled with negative thoughts and if the depression becomes high ,this klind of problem makes u even sleep less.according to psychologists only one idea(or thought) can stay in the brain at a time,if u want to remove the negative thoughts then replace them with positive ones ,this can't happen in one day or 1 week and not allowing the negative thoughts doesn't mean that trying the suppressing them ,the moment they arise in your brain .just see what ever enters in your mind and when a negative thought comes just jump to some good thought that makes u feel happy or start doing a thing which is your hobbie.this kind of opposition which u give in a indirect way definetely cures your problem of generating the negative thoughts ,it worked for me ,than why not for u but patience only pays ,don't with draw in doing this kind of procedure at any step because it fetches u noting at the end if u withdraw for some time and take a gap for few days and if u continue it....just try and try doing the same procedure (practice makes man and also women perfect)and take enough amount of sleep escpecially during nights than only u can recover quickly..


5.) My dad puts too much pressure on me to be perfect
In every family ,same thing stays if u really can't bear that and if your dad or mom stays friendly with you, say about your condition and take there assistance beacuse depression can be cured in matter of months(or less that ) if u have the support of the people around you .

6.)I CONSTANTLY wish I could go back in time and fix all the stupid mistakes I made
i too thought of same if there is way of correcting things,but unfortunately there is no way,but this is a brain trick ,just u have to do is to develop self-forgiveness for the mistakes u had done in the past and also towards others ,when you are in deprseeion brain zooms even a simple mistake as a big blunder though it is not supposed to be,in fact a person looses his judging capacity and his observation skill and his idea of thinking beacomes narrower and narrower that itself forces a person to see a small mistake as a very bigger one .i really undergone this .just do this when u get this idea or when ever your brain jumps to past asking u for a explanation about the mistakes u had done ,than repeat this in your mind saying that "ya i accept that i done a mistake ,just what i can do now , it is my past and i can't really change it".
and develop self forgiveness on yourself and all other people who do things which hurt you, this only stops u thinking about your past ,patience only pays in doing this.

these are some of the ways ,which helped me ,but it took long period for me coming out of depression ,beacause i don't have support from my family and second is i didn't take any medical assistance and third one is, i failed to take healthy food and good amount of sleep, when i was in depression.hope u will get of out of this depression soon and i can see smilling face after that,bye friend

with lots of care,
Kalyan

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

1. I'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs

You DO understand this, don't you. Three years after you finish college, almost ........ no one ........ will remember ..... what grades you got in college. And absolutely no one will ..... care ....... what grades you got in college.

Five years after you finish your college, most of the people around you at that time will not even know, or will barely remember, which college you attended.

Me, I graduated from university ten years ago, and I swear I cannot even recall offhand the titles of all the modules I took. Let alone my grades .....

And so it will be for you. Assuming you don't kill yourself first, of course.

So don't be daft. Please do not kill yourself over something of such minor significance that one day, you won't even be able to recall the details of it.

[Trezker]

Grades mean nothing. When you apply for your dream job they probably wont care about that and more about your personality and how suitable you are for their purposes. If you make your own business, what would you need grades for?

Remember perfect is an impossible concept unattainable to mortals like us, just like infinity. Focus on what's good, work on nothing but your ability to enjoy life because that's all that matters.

[Jamie]

I'd consider writing a letter to your mom/dad. Along the lines of telling your parents that you love them, but you're finding life very difficult right now, in lots of ways, and that your dad's pressuring you to be (what he thinks of as being) perfect, is actually counter-productive right now, and making matters worse. You unserstand that he's just trying to help, because he loves you, but that he's not going about it in the best way.

Jamie.

[Sylvia]

Its admirable that you are here getting advice and support! Thats a good start already

[uberinquisitive]

Reasons not to commit suicide:

1. Your family will, until the day they die, blame themselves. Basically, you will put them in hell on earth. My fiance killed himself last year - for the rest of my life, I will suffer for his actions. I didn't deserve it. And your family doesn't deserve it, either.

2. No one will remember your life. They will only remember how you died. Your legacy will be "oh, that person...the one who committed suicide."

3. Suicide isn't glamorous. It's painful and messy. You literally sh*t your pants, vomit, and many times, you stay (painfully) alive for a while.

4. What about the person who finds you? You will give them post-traumatic stress disorder. How would you feel if you stumbled onto a dead, mangled body?

5. Trust me - you don't want to die. Not really. You just want an "easy" way out of your pain. But suicide is actually the hardest way out. Karma will follow you, and nothing creates karma like suicide. Do you really want to screw yourself up in the next few lives, too?

Suicide is a messy, stinky (literally and figuratively), non-dignified way to die. Killing yourself is complicated, and the aftermath is complicated. There is nothing easy and glamorous about suicide. And...you're gonna die anyways. No one lives forever.

Suicide is, to be honest, the silliest way to die.

There are people in Africa who want to live, even though they are going through genocide and starvation. They want to LIVE even though they are in poverty, without education, sometimes without a single friend or family left on earth.

Maybe these people know something you don't: that life is pretty damn precious. And that it's already too short as it is. Suicide would be a real, real shame and a waste.

[Erki]

@uberinquisitive: I know you have first hand experience with suicide and all, but somehow I still see a lot of blame in your post. Or maybe not blame as such. It's hard to describe. You say "Maybe these people know something you don't: that life is pretty damn precious" and other things. They make me feel that you're basically saying that a person who commits suicide is just really really dumb. And I'm not sure the person to whom these words are aimed at takes it much differently.

I don't know how the reason #3 somehow relates to this thread. Has she said that she wants to kill herself because that's glamourous?
I don't know what to say about reason #2, some people want to be remembered, some maybe not, so I'll just leave it at that.

#1 and #4 are in my opinion the biggest shame and guilt inducers. At the end of the day, who do I live for? Myself or others? Sure, I don't want to hurt anyone (except myself occasionally), but should I let myself suffer? Should I just live a life that I don't want to live, just so that I can be alive and other people won't get hurt?

And anyway, what happened to the "take full responsibility for your life" thingy? You say "My fiance killed himself last year - for the rest of my life, I will suffer for his actions. I didn't deserve it." Isn't it yourself who puts all the suffering onto yourself?

Actually I don't think lightthecandle really wants to kill herself. But I don't think she's merely attention seeking or playing with it either. I think she's just really tired of her life (as it is right now).

[Tigerlilly]

Originally Posted by Erki

a person who commits suicide is just really really dumb.

Well, the person who commits suicide can be really smart, let's face it Virginia Woolfe and Hemmingway both killed themselves. Still, committing suicide wasn't the smartest decision they ever made.

I believe, suicide is a stupid decision, cause there's always a better choice out there, with the only exception maybe when being tortured to death is imminent and one chooses suicide over it. I considered suicide in the past, especially when I was younger, and when I look back at those moments, I think of what a horrid mistake I would have made had I actually gone through with it. And I don't think anyone ever looks back and thinks: Oh bother, if I only had killed myself back then, I'd be better off now.

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You are trapped in the now....and that is all you know at this time,

But good trusted wisdom will tell you that there are many many opportunities to come your way, and the results of these opportunities will be entirely up to you, they will not be controlled by your father, or will the past have any power or this future i am speaking of........

The future is yours and yours alone.... the past has no power in it


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[uberinquisitive]

Originally Posted by Erki

You say "Maybe these people know something you don't: that life is pretty damn precious" and other things. They make me feel that you're basically saying that a person who commits suicide is just really really dumb. And I'm not sure the person to whom these words are aimed at takes it much differently.

There are people in wheelchairs who run triathlons, while I eat take-out Chinese and sit on the couch. They obviously know something I don't know: that the human body is an amazing and precious machine and shouldn't be wasted.

My reply is much more "tough" than others. So, I'm sure no matter how I phrase the idea, it has the potential of coming off as "you're dumb."

I don't know how the reason #3 somehow relates to this thread. Has she said that she wants to kill herself because that's glamourous?

Just like neatly packaged meat in the supermarket shields us to the fact that animals are slaughtered in disgusting, smelly and humiliating ways. People who contemplate suicide "clean up" the act in their minds.

In actuality, suicide is very undignified and messy. The police initially mark you as homicide. They interrogate your family, and anyone in the vicinity. They put your body in a bag and wheel you into a fridge in the morgue of a hospital, with a tag on your toe. You wait in a queue for the technician to do an autopsy.

Once they're sure it's a suicide, and not a murder, your family is exonerated. Yup - instead of being given a shoulder to cry on, they are treated like murder suspects. They may be fingerprinted, tested for gun powder residue on their hands, etc.

I know of a family where the landlord wouldn't pay for the biohazard clean-up. So the family, in their rubber gloves, had to clean up toxic spinal fluid from the carpet.

Someone needs to clean up the sh*t, piss, vomit, and noxious gases your body will emit. It's expensive to hire professionals. Probably your family will be called to pick up the disgusting mess left behind. They will probably vomit while cleaning up, because it's disgusting.

Or, if you do it in some public place, some innocent, minimum-wage janitor will have to clean it up.

#1 and #4 are in my opinion the biggest shame and guilt inducers. Should I just live a life that I don't want to live, just so that I can be alive and other people won't get hurt?

Psychological books put surviving a loved ones suicide in the same trauma category as surviving a concentration camp.

The grief after a suicide or murder is called "complicated grief." I know people who have gone through the natural death of a parent, and then the suicide of a spouse. The suicide grief is very, very different. There is a layer of guilt, shame and self-blame that complicates everything.

- It takes 3 generations for suicide to leave a family legacy.
- If you have children, your children are something like 70% more likely to commit suicide if you have committed suicide.
- It's more likely that other members will kill themselves. It's not rare more than one sibling to commit suicide.
- Families of suicide have higher incidences of crippling depression.

I know of families where parents killed themselves after finding out their child committed suicide. Of siblings who remain suicidal themselves for the rest of their lives, because they can't handle the pain of their loved one's suicide.

MAKE NO MISTAKE - suicide affects other people. Trying to argue that it shouldn't is like trying to argue that war shouldn't exist. It shouldn't, but it does, and it is horrible.

And anyway, what happened to the "take full responsibility for your life" thingy? Isn't it yourself who puts all the suffering onto yourself?

Yes. I cause myself suffering. I am like 99.9% of people, who are not perfectly enlightened. Reality is, this suicide will crop up and challenge me all my life - the feelings of guilt, the feelings of being a murderer, the feelings of being abandoned, the feelings of regret. My responsibility is to live with it and transform it.

Anyone who is at the point of non-suffering at age 29 (I am 29 years old, but I was 27 when it happened), please tell me how you overcame intense, unusual suffering at such a young age.

I have more resources than the average person. My suffering will probably be much less than the average survivor. I am filled with compassion for the survivor - the mother, father, spouse, child ... who doesn't have the money or the opportunities or the mindset to have the level of therapy, books, and healing that I have had.

Every single suicide survivor I know blames themselves (even when everyone tells them "it's not your fault at all!"). If you haven't been in my shoes, you can never know just how strong this feeling will be. It's as if I had asphyxiated my fiance with my own hands. Thing is - I have moved on from this feeling. But most of my survivor peers in my group - they have not.

I know many, many survivors (both online, and in my support group). People who have been going through this for YEARS. In a perfect world, people will be able to realize that it's all ego and mind causing suffering, and move beyond it. But, again...it doesn't happen that way.

Actually I don't think lightthecandle really wants to kill herself. But I don't think she's merely attention seeking or playing with it either. I think she's just really tired of her life (as it is right now).

Now, after hearing my experiences, and really confronting the realities of suicide...if it's still an option...then free will comes to play.

It is my experience that most people who contemplate suicide have a "fantasy" of what suicide looks and feels like. It's like someone going to France, thinking it will be filled with accordian music and people making out on the streets and only stuff they know from reading books and watching movies. And once they get to France, and see the Americanization, they're realize that maybe they should have gone to Brussels instead.

I've been in the trenches. After my fiance killed himself, I wanted to die, too. I didn't think I deserved to live. I felt like a murderer - I felt I deserved to die and be punished. I was almost committed to a psychiatric ward.

I spent months thinking of ways to minimize the pain for others. I wanted to be responsible in my suicide. I have heard of old men committing suicide so their widows could live out a comfortable retirement.

Then again, a woman I know, her father jumped out a window because he didn't want to burden the family with hospital bills from his cancer. This woman told our group that she would have given up her life for him to not commit suicide.

There is no responsible way to commit suicide, just like there is no responsible way to bomb a building.

Anyone who wants to commit suicide - it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you still want to go ahead - make sure you know the reality of it all. Make sure your eyes are open.

[Joely]

Originally Posted by uberinquisitive

Anyone who is at the point of non-suffering at age 29 (I am 29 years old, but I was 27 when it happened), please tell me how you overcame intense, unusual suffering at such a young age.

I'm 29. Somebody I loved more than anybody else in the world killed himself when I was 26.

I feel, and have felt, none of the things you described in that post. I felt deeply, deeply sad to have lost somebody I dearly loved, but I also respected him and myself enough to move beyond it. At the time it happened I worked in a psychiatric prison surrounded by people who had worked with survivors of suicide for years. My boss took me to one side and said that I should see it from his perspective, and understand how he felt, but I already did. I didn't need him to live or be any particular way in order for me to be happy. I didn't need to keep punishing myself for what he did - his act was his choice and his choice alone. He took responsibility for his life, I took responsibility for my reaction. I didn't see it as dying any differently to any other means of dying, but then I've never had a problem recovering from grief.

The many people I've loved and lost over the years are still with me in my heart. I don't feel as though they're gone at all. As my boss said, I couldn't know without walking in his shoes the pain and agony he was in. The strange thing was I never felt any anger towards him. Just sadness. It made me think, given what he would have given to society had he lived, how much I would do in his stead, and in his memory. But that's just me. I know how it feels to truly wish to be dead, so I understood how he felt. It's a pain I don't feel the need to hold on to.

To the OP (in case I'm accused of thread derailment) - life looks harsh now, but to be honest, as the other posters have said, grades don't really matter, and this is your life not your parents'. You find that generally, you struggle and struggle and struggle and then one day you wake up and realise all that time you spent struggling to be somebody else so people would like you, running from the person you are because you don't feel that person has any worth, was a waste of time. When I was 20 I was suicidal. I'm still here, and I'm still living. I decided I would work through the pain and make my life better. And I'm doing it, one step at a time.

[Ian Smith]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

1. I'm not doing as well as I want to in college ( I had to drop a class due to my relapse of bipolar depression), I'll probably get a C and two Bs
2.I feel ugly, even though people tell me I'm not
3.I'm about 20 years old and I still have absolutely noooooooo self confidence or self esteem
4. I keep thinking about the abuse I went through when I was younger
5. My dad puts too much pressure on me to be perfect
6. I CONSTANTLY wish I could go back in time and fix all the stupid mistakes I made

tell me life gets better and is worth living..or is it?

Excuse me. I'm sorry if I'm being blunt, but you need to wise the **** up.

Life is a gift, stop acting like it's a chore. Almost a year ago, I almost died, and I don't think you fully understand what you're saying when you say things like that.

1) You're not doing so well at college? Are you putting forth the proper effort? Are you really doing the best you can do? Do you see some way to fix your not doing well at college? Perhaps like, asking for help from others or any other dozens of ways.

2) Think you're ugly? List the reasons why. Are you overweight, bad posture, mouth breather? What is it exactly that you find unattractive? How can you change it? Gym membership? Personal training? Asking a friend to help? Stop acting like such a victim and do something about your problems.

3) PUALifestyle.com Forum - Powered by vBulletin is my personal forum, a men's self-improvement website focused on things just like this. Check it out and see what answers you can get to those problems. Or, start testing yourself. Adversity creates confidence from the success that you will have if you dedicate yourself to self-improvement. Every trial and tribulation (like getting good grades in college) is a boost of confidence. Confidence will not come to you by sitting in front of the mirror reassuring yourself that you are confident, it comes directly from COMPETENCE, being able to accomplish things.

4) I am sorry to hear that. We all face terrible things in our lives at one point or another. I have my own crosses to bear and scars to hide, but whats important is HOW YOU COME OUT OF THOSE TRAGEDIES. They are a part of the past, and they will only continue to haunt you unless you do. If anything you should take up some form of Martial Arts or self-defense (Krav Maga) and make sure that never happens again.

5) **** him. Live life how you see fit, not by his guidelines. So long as you are living righteously, morally, productively, and effectively, you don't need to be worrying about his standards. We're all different, remember that.

6) See #4.

Hope this helps buddy.

[SunnKali]

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[Ian Smith]

While PUA material won't directly help her, we're in the process of becoming a self-improvement magazine. I wasn't aware of her gender, nor do I care. Lessons can be taken from people all over, and we have plenty of women on the site who participate actively in our discussions of life, self-improvement, knowledge, and confidence.