Taking myself too seriously

[breakthestatic00]

I take myself and life in general way too seriously. It affects everything from my small thoughts to my existential core. I just can't lighten up

How can I stop? Any tips?

[Vee]

Hi,

Just try and think nothing really matters! You give events their meaning - you can choose how u feel about them.

Also, time passes - when i am going through a bad patch i comfort myself with the belief that soon i'll be going through a happy phase in my life.

[unwastedyouth]

You could try making a list of all the things in life that are REALLY important to you, then a list of all the things that worry you or you take too seriously, then compare them. For example if wearing fashionable clothes wasn't on the first list but you get stressed over it, why bother? I personally just look at how little I care about lots of things other people do, and it helps me realise that the world won't end, people won't hate me if I do little things wrong or aren't perfect. Hope that helps a little

[norbert]

You may want to learn to quiet your mind.

Understand the difference between your true self (the "empty" baby you came to the world as) and your ego (the person you've learned to be since then).

Understand that all reasoning comes from the mind, and is based solely on the things you've learned and the experiences you've had in your life until now.

Imagine a life where you have no fears but have the curiosity, peace and happiness of a baby.

You can have that as soon as you learn to quiet your mind and instead listen to your intuition / 6th sense / heart / whatever you prefer to call it.

Remember this: If you have a reason for something, it came from your mind vs your heart and that's only something you made up based on the experiences you had since you were born (your "story").

There's nothing wrong with coming from your story, except that it usually doesn't really serve you. I'd seriously suggest everybody to live from your true self (who you really are) vs from your conditioned mind (social conditioning, things you've learned, bad experiences etc) to have a more peaceful and happier life and to be truly content and at peace with yourself.

[Dusty]

Originally Posted by breakthestatic00

I take myself and life in general way too seriously. It affects everything from my small thoughts to my existential core. I just can't lighten up

How can I stop? Any tips?

quit trying to grab onto laughter. I feel like you've got a scarcity mentality going on.

like norbert said, your authentic self is eternal laughter. You just gotta remove the walls around your heart. (ego)

You won't take **** so seriously when you have an open heart.

So, how do we get there? How do we come to a point of feeling safe enough to be vulnerable?

Love more.

Most people try to resist fear and then cultivate love. This leads to forcing down emotions with food... lol and artificial forced "love" that triggers most people's phony alarm.

Learn about how to create that open, beautiful, spontaneous, yin state.

As always, I recommend meditation. Start questioning why you are so serious. Where did you learn it? What am I afraid of?

Keep going deeper and deeper.

My mentors that I recommend for this:

Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Ideagasms Forum (ideagasms.net)

Once you learn how to see the illusions your ego constructs, you're in heaven

Namaste

[Angela]

What do you mean, you take your yourself and your life way too seriously?

What does that feel like? How does that look to you and to other people? Why would you like not to take yourself and your life way too seriously; who would you be if you were not taking yourself and your life way too seriously?