Always need something to experience?

[Amatrine]

Does anyone else have this problem? I am a chronic nomad. I have lived probably in over 20 residences and I am 36. I am now again moving my family out of state. When I am somewhere a while, and do not feel I am going anywhere, or stagnent I guess I would call it, I have to move in.

I feel stuck, in the sense that progress in any way can no longer continue, I got all I can out of this place, and must move on , to learn new experiences.

I am now in the desert and ready to move to MI, for an extreme opposite.
I have come back to this city so many times in PHX, and I now just KNOW there is nothing here for me. I get chronicly bored and bordom maked me angry. I think I have a touch of ADD in that department, but its more than that. I have this need to experiecne new things, learn from them etc.
Rite now I am at a point, where I feel I have lived my life, and just cant seem
to learn anything new. Like the life experience is getting old . No, Im not suicidal, far from it, just feel kinda stuck, ... need a new situation to learn something, anything. Involving myself in things is only a bandaid. That helps
the physical mind for a while, but does not help me learn anything new.
This is hard to explain,lol I am hoping this new move will bring me to a different culture and mindset, from the west. Just something different to experience. I love learning . If I had the money, Id be off to another county,lol I did that once for a year many many years ago,..What a learning
expereince to get outside this bubble of our own country, see others views, see how history is tought different in other countries schools from thier viewpoint on something. ... I am always researching things, and that helps when I really get interested in a subject,... it helps expand my mind again, but it does nothing new to to change the feeling that I have experienced all there is that makes me who I am, and my viewpoints on humanity. When you are a kid, you see disney world the first time, you believe in magic. When you
are a teen, you experience independence . As an adult you experience responsability. You get sick, you experience fear and search your core beliefs. Once you do that, in my case, at first fear, and despereate to know the answers. Then a kind of peace that comes from understanding awareness.
Though I do not know why it brings me peace , it just does. ... So what now?
What is there left to experice ? What else is there in life that life can teach me? So here I go, packing up my bags, and off to where Ill freeze my but off,
but love the challenges that come with moving somewhere new, and again starting over. .... until that becomes mundane eventually.

Ama

[Lola]

No matter where you go, there you are. -Confucius

The first thing that popped in my mind reading your post was - what are you running from? You justify your frequent moving decisions as seeking new experience, learning, awareness but I just have to wonder what inner work you're managing to avoid or delay with the constant disruption of a new place to live.

You mentioned your family. Does that include children? If so, I encourage you to consider the impact frequent moves are having on them. From birth through my senior year in high school, I lived in 10 different cities. While I do credit a life of *non-stop new-everything* with a greater ability to bounce back, to live with flexibility; I did not learn how to nurture and sustain long-term relationships with people or places, or the value in keeping at something hard until it was done. (Those were lessons learned as an adult at the School of Hard Knocks). But more than anything, I have never in my life had the feeling of being *from* anywhere.

I encourage you to dig a little deeper Ama. Consider you're occupying your mind, body and life with the function of moving and adapting to a new place, and by doing so are avoiding the exploration of the neighborhood that's always with you no matter where you go.

I bet you'll find what you're looking for has been right there all along.

[eblight]

Growing up I yearned for experience, to have lots of varied experiences. My family have lived in the same place for over seventy years. They were content with that but not me. When I finally left home I set out and explored the world sailing, travelling, many different work experiences. There were times when I wished I was like others who could live in the same place and the same job all their lives. But I know now that I am not like that. I also know from my study of the Human Design System that looks at life as a no fault system that is without judgment of a personality that I am here in this life time for experience. You may well be like that too. Some people are designed to walk down many paths and that is okay.

[Amatrine]

Im not running from anything except mabey the heat here. I just can not stand mundane. I feel there is more to life than just sitting here and paying bills. I have been in this house now for over 4 years. I cant stand it. Mabey if I owned it at least I could remodel and that would give me something creative to do for a while, but
when it was done I would be bored again,lol My name is Wendy and I have been told that means wanderer. I fit that bill. When we move this time , we are going to buy a house. The only reason my husband agrees to the move is becaus we are buying and he hates the AZ heat . Since we are buying ,
I want to find one that needs updating, so it gives me something fun to do,lol.
The ones already done, I just look at and think pretty, but nothing to do , and want put my own personality in it anyway. .. But for the last two years I have felt like Im in a pen. Im sure a lot has to do with health issues that keep me from doing what I want to do. I even went to see a physcologist for that, but ddnt really help me . I just need that new experience , to liven me up again, for the enjoyment of the wonder of somethig new. Mabey thats my drug, but more than that, more like its what keeps me sane.

[Pegasus]

Out of curiosity, how do you and your husband manage career and finances? I guess there would have to be a lot of job flexibility to keep relocating. I’m asking as someone who has been stuck in the same place for too long. Between being a packrat, seeking stable employment, and adding up moving expenses, the logistics of moving overwhelms me.

[ScotiaCoast]

I think I have this "problem" too.. I'm always craving new experiences! I'm 21 right now and it's making it near impossible for me to even get a bachelor degree done.. I've taken semesters off, moved to the other side of the country and back.. I just love the excitement of "the new"... it's what keeps me going! I've recently been trying to think of some careers that would potentially cater to this sort of lifestyle, but haven't really come up with anything. I guess you can't be doing something completely new every day or week, unless maybe you're this guy. I guess I don't really have anything to say to you other than you're definitely not alone!

[Amatrine]

Since we had our daughter we have settled down. A year after she was born, we moved back to Phoenix so she could be around relatives. W first moved to sa small apartment, to close to the college and loud, so we moved to a condo, but to close to the reservation, and car was stolen one week after we bought it. When I became paralized, we moved to this house because of the double doors it has in front and I was in a wheel chair. ( no longer paralized) But we have been in this house 4 years. Way too long.
We are not rich. My husband works for a company that has wharehouses all over the country so we can transfer. Before that , he never had a hard time finding a job.

As far as a career, it depends what you like. Mabey you can get into district management for a company that keeps you on the road.

I know myself, I have a very real problem with boredom that is made worse by the fact I am chroniclly ill. I can no longer go out and do things that I find adventerous and fun. So I am kind of stuck in this house as a prison in my mind. Without intenet I would die. So now I just HAVE to change the location.
I have already painted, at least three times, I am always changing the decor,
just anything for change.

I used to be a packrat, and now I am opposite. I got tired of stuff stacking up, so I just started giving it away,lol I still do that now when I get new stuff.
Rule, if it sits longer that 6 months without use, it goes. It keeps things uncluttered, and makes me relax more. It was hard at first, now I can not stand any clutter at all,lol I also like to have my anual yard sale, and with the cash buy something new.

I think if I was healthier I wouldnt be so immersed with thought , on this subject of what else is there, because I would be keeping myself busy tubing down the river or something, or taking vacations, but since I can not do that,
here I am. Do not know the answer to this one. I can get lost in interesting subjects sometimes, but like I said, thats just a temporary bandaid.

[Sifox]

you've got guts. to take up the challenge of moving, (and by the way, your parents did not know this when they named you) unless they named you last night, the nomadic aspect of your life is only phasematic. you have endured an uncomfortable time in your prior tenancy. yeah! get out! move on. I believe that you are carrying tons of faith. there are many paths you could travel down. from the selection of these, any one of them will lead you to your own new front door. This is destined for you and will come as a magnetic pull. my advice? don't ignore the intuitions of wisdom over speculation. see you in the success storybook. I believe in you. Do it well!
regards, Simon.

[Amatrine]

I guess I am kind of like an explorer. If I lived back in the day, I would have hitched a ride on one of the boats of exploration. I admit it is always a bit scarey moving somewhere new, but the exitement of it all overides any fear.
I remember years ago when I moved to Reno, I made the decision to move there, I sold everything, and two weeks later hopped a plane. Not even a residence established yet. I do not have that kind of crazy nerve now,lol

I do remember sitting in a bar the night before the flight there, and watching tv, thinking " what will I be doing a week from now at this time? " That was a pivitol time in memories that I look back on that coursed for a change of life.

I was nervouse as hell, but still did it. Best thing I ever did. Met my husband up there, did a lot of growing there. I stayed at a hotel first couple of nights,
got a job rite away, and rented a room in an girls home, the rest was history.
I had $160 bucks in my pocket when I took that flight up there, I was a bit madd I guess But I did prove to myself that anything is possible.
It was funny, when I first got there, I went to a job center and had a counseler who was tryign to find me work. He did this as volunteer work,
6 months later, I was managing a bar, and was hiring, he responded to the ad, and I ended up Hiring HIM as bouncer Funny world.

Rite now we can move to three different states. Each one would be a different course in what affects our life. I am waying the pros and cons of each, and doing a lot of meditation, and trying to rely on my instinct of what feels to be the correct course. I just know my time here in Phoenix is up.
There is nowhere else for me to go here, and it hinders my health. So now I am looking at what is going to be the best for my daughters future. Staying here, shed be ok. Pennsylvania, good schools, but we could ony buy a house on the lowest end. She would be in a not so good neighbordhood, but its a small town and low crime. Michigan,.. good home, good neighborhood, and school, but we deal with very cold winter, mosquitos as large as cats, but another pro, she will have her college paid for there with the Kalamazoo promise. We are steering for Michigan . All those lakes, in fact looking at a house next to a lake. She would have childhood memories of growing up on a lake, ice skating, boating,... and rural community, but only 10 miles away from city. I get to be close to nature , like I like. So sick of desert. Give me some trees and water! I can dea with cold. Its just the lack of sun that scares me.

At least now I analize things. When I was younger, I was very spontaneous.
Now I am still adventerous, but prepared, and like things well thought out

[Maguru]

My first thought was exactly the same as yours. We change jobs, partners, homes, countries even, only to find we feel the same dissatifaction. We think it is with the situation but it is not. The dissatisfaction comes from within. Wherever you go, so do you.

Originally Posted by Lola

The first thing that popped in my mind reading your post was - what are you running from? You justify your frequent moving decisions as seeking new experience, learning, awareness but I just have to wonder what inner work you're managing to avoid or delay with the constant disruption of a new place to live.

You mentioned your family. Does that include children? If so, I encourage you to consider the impact frequent moves are having on them. From birth through my senior year in high school, I lived in 10 different cities. While I do credit a life of *non-stop new-everything* with a greater ability to bounce back, to live with flexibility; I did not learn how to nurture and sustain long-term relationships with people or places, or the value in keeping at something hard until it was done. (Those were lessons learned as an adult at the School of Hard Knocks). But more than anything, I have never in my life had the feeling of being *from* anywhere.

I encourage you to dig a little deeper Ama. Consider you're occupying your mind, body and life with the function of moving and adapting to a new place, and by doing so are avoiding the exploration of the neighborhood that's always with you no matter where you go.

I bet you'll find what you're looking for has been right there all along.

[Amatrine]

I can understand that being a cause, but it really is not the situation here.
I am happy with who I am in a spritual sense. Physically I am ill, and I can not change that, and of course that makes me unhappy, but I have been this way before I was ever ill. I really do love to explore. But the question I pose, is not in the physical sense, of exploration, but in the sense of humanity.

When I have been through the gammit, now whenever I am presented with any situation, it is no longer something new. There is always a past experiecne, where I have had that " EXPERIENCE" . There does not seem to be anything that can be presented to me, that would allow me to experience something new. Of course I have my daughter , who I can do the best I can to teach my experiences to , in hopes that she makes wise decisions,
as we all hope for our chilldren. I can show her things that open HER up to new fresh possibilities that are new and exciting to her.

Mabey I just do not know how to relax,lol I know I have that problem, but I do not cause chaos as some people do that can not relax. I do not want chaos. I just want there to be something new to experience to get excited about again, afresh. So hard to explain this,lol

Ama

[ozone123]

Originally Posted by Maguru

My first thought was exactly the same as yours. We change jobs, partners, homes, countries even, only to find we feel the same dissatifaction. We think it is with the situation but it is not. The dissatisfaction comes from within. Wherever you go, so do you.

I experiance the same thing. Is there anything we can do to feel satisfied?

[Jennihul]

Maybe the quest you are on is really an "internal" quest but you are mistaking this wanderlust for external wanderlust.

My husband is afraid to delve deeply into his own inner world. He's a wonderful man, husband and friend but it's obvious that he will seek to distract himself endlessly with new fun if it keeps him from having to be still long enough where he might accidentally get introspective. I have no idea what demons are in there but this problem doesn't affect him or us, as far as being a couple or being a productive human.

He claims to hate being "bored" too but it's really that he hates to be quiet and still.

Jennifer

[Amatrine]

When I am bored, I get angry. I get angry when I have to do boring things.
It takes a lot for me to concentrate on anything that I fond boring and it actually makes me feel ill. I think you may have something here. Doin an onernal search though to me is not boring, but sitting in a living room just watching tv, to me is boring. I can not stand it and get frustrated. Unless it is something on discovery channel or something where I am actually learning something. I hate sitcoms, and shows that are just not real. The only series I watch is House, but thats because I am interested in rare diseases and the medical field. ... I have been told I have ADHD, and Im sure I do. I refuse to take any medication. I think ADHD is just another personality aspect, not a disease . A lot of people with adhd think out of the box, and find new solutions or way to solve problems with a new aspect, and get excited about iplemnting it. ... I guess when I am somewhere long enough, it just gets boring. I find routine is nice , but it gets old. Its no longer living, but
setteling after a while. The adventure is gone, and I live for adventure.
If I were halthier, mabey I create some adventure, but its hard to do stuck in a house every day. ....When I am "still" I tend to think about how ill I feel.
Doing things an keep my mind of it,... I can end up spending a lot of money on online video poker to keep my mind off of how sick I feel for a coupke hours, but Ill go broke that way.