Help me to overcome betrayal of my most intimate friends

[mazhar]

i'm stduying BBA at a Public university, i had built up a good circle of 5.
YEsterday My friends told me not to hang around with them anymore.
i think the main two reasons r
1. i'm not co-operative at political activities,
2. i'm having a relationship with a girl of our class but haven't confessed to them & my class.

now i'm fearing my x friends will try to humiliate & beat me.
please give me some words of hope & confidence.

[Brutha]

They probably also felt betrayed by yourself, if they decided to take that step.

Labeling yourself as a victim probably isn't the most empowering choice you can make, even when it is an "easy choice".

1. i'm not co-operative at political activities,

What kind of political activity's do you mean?

2. i'm having a relationship with a girl of our class but haven't confessed to them & my class.

Why did you make that choice?

[Ernie]

Individually, ask them in humility what they see and truly be open. Only THEY know what they SEE in you.

[mazhar]

YES, They can also feel betrayed by me cause

i am not supporting them in unethical political practices, like showing power, controlling others, making troubles.
i just wanna study & get a certificate.

& i don't confess about my affair because that can't be successful for some unavoidable reasons, so i decided not to disclose, but i guess it is shown in my eyes that i like her.

Asking them will not help, cause i think if they were to explain, they could do it before.

Please continue ur support, i need it badly.

[Brutha]

It's a bit hard for me as an European to understand the cultural implications of both political activity and of not telling your friend about a girl that you have an relationship with.

i am not supporting them in unethical political practices, like showing power, controlling others, making troubles.
i just wanna study & get a certificate.

If you feel that the your friends moral exceptations are so different from you, why do you want to be friends with them in the first place?

People who gather themselves around a more extreme political idea, center there life on that idea.
Causing trouble to a few people is probably one of the main parts of political activitismn anywhere.

In general I think that you and them have evoled a different idea of how to deal with the world.
That doesn't make it anyones "fault", but it ends the friendship.
Framing it as a fight were they betrayed you, won't help yourself. On the other hand it might create tension between yourself and them in the future.

Make the decision to have different values then them and move on.

[mazhar]

Originally Posted by Brutha

If you feel that the your friends moral exceptations are so different from you, why do you want to be friends with them in the first place?

In general I think that you and them have evoled a different idea of how to deal with the world.

Make the decision to have different values then them and move on.

Thanks Brutha, for these greatly true lines about my circumstance.

Pray for me that i can restart from zero agian.

[mazhar]

Recently i figured out that the leader of my group had decided to exclude me from the group some months earlier of the exclution in reality.
And he used my habitual action-reaction pattern to make me do such things that caused the other members of my group and also the people surrounding them to see me like a hypocrite vilan.

Now should i consider myself as a fool donkey?
or i should consider it as another mistake of dealing with another cleaver guy.

p.s. they have not yet caused any trouble in my life after that,
and i have successfully restablished my self on my real path.

[Brutha]

they have not yet caused any trouble in my life after that,
and i have successfully restablished my self on my real path.

That's great to hear.

Now should i consider myself as a fool donkey?
or i should consider it as another mistake of dealing with another cleaver guy.

Nobody is perfect. Everybody does mistakes from time to time.
The only question is whether you grow through your experiences or whether they pull you down.