Emotional we all have problems

[mansell]

ok so lately i have sen alot of posts saying how people fail in thier life goals and in result feel lost and meaning less.I persoanllay agree you can feel like that sometimes but all should carry on. without definition the human life has no particular goal apart from to live it how you would like it really, and this shows that the possibilities of things to reach for are endless.As if we where only set to a few certain things we would all have soon realised how bleak life , and as long as there is hapy people out there who have nothing this cant be true. i just wondered if you guys could share your opinions on the whole " life failing" issues that arise. this thread is not a dig at those people its more of a help for them to see answers for questions or situations they may have

thanks

[TheFlyingMan]

I'm not sure what you're asking?

Perhaps the whole fact that we are striving to be anything other than what we are is causing the unhappiness. I'm not saying it is, but could it be a possibility?

Perhaps self compassion for everything - including the goals you have / have not met - is the key, rather than the endless striving.

We can never not be anything other than what we are right NOW. Perhaps if we accepted ourselves and that fact , that is the time we can go out and set/achieve goals.

there is a difference between a man who polishes his car because he loves it, and a man who works constantly to improve his car because he's ashamed of it.

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[Niki]

Originally Posted by mansell

ok so lately i have sen alot of posts saying how people fail in thier life goals and in result feel lost and meaning less.I persoanllay agree you can feel like that sometimes but all should carry on. without definition the human life has no particular goal apart from to live it how you would like it really, and this shows that the possibilities of things to reach for are endless.As if we where only set to a few certain things we would all have soon realised how bleak life , and as long as there is hapy people out there who have nothing this cant be true. i just wondered if you guys could share your opinions on the whole " life failing" issues that arise. this thread is not a dig at those people its more of a help for them to see answers for questions or situations they may have

thanks

Emotional we all have challenges

[Giggles]

I'm not an expert but I think problems arise because of wrong choices being made. TV and the media make a terrible impression on some peoples minds. Alot of people and especially young adults have not had much guidance in their upbringing so possibly they are watching TV and are following what they see the people in these shows do, which a lot of the TV shows are about living without any moral (or standards) in their lives, therefore they make wrong choices in their relationships.

Goals.... maybe sometimes we set our goals to high and we can't reach them so we fail. I believe we have good intentions when we set our goals but maybe we are not thinking the proper possitive thoughts to accomplish our goals. There is a very good thread on this blog about a guy who set a goal that he wouldn't eat any sweats for the year of 2007 and he is keeping it. I will find it later and post it so you can read it, it's very inspiring.

Motivation.... if we are not motivated to do anything we would never get up out of bed in the morning.

I guess there are many things that can cause failures in our lives. Becoming a more possive thinker helps.

Maybe someone else can add to this....

Nancy

[ozone123]

I have heard somewhere that we shouldn't set goals that are outcome orientated; but we should rather set goals that are action oriented.

This is because the successful completion of the goal should be under our control. For example if you are a salesman and want to make more money...your goal should NOT be "get more sales this month" because whether you get more sales or not is not under your control. What is under your control is your own actions for example a better goal would be "to make 200 extra sales calls this month" this is a goal that you know you can accomplish.

Making more money is just the target, but the goal is the action you have to take so that you have a better chance of hitting your target.

If we set goals this way we have nothing to fear about being a failure because you cannot fail as long as you perform the action that you set out to perform.