Disagreement with a brother

[Konfucius]

I am dealing with a fraternity brother on campus that has said many times to other people that I am cocky and can not be worked with. I have been avoiding a confrontation because we almost fought 1 1/2 years ago over another issue. I feel like there are other issues that not been resolved.

Over the past year I have grown a lot personally and feel that possibly past experiences were misinterpreted on his side. I deal with the fact that he does not congratulate me on any accomplishments yet gets upset if he hears me mention them to others or in front of him.

I have been fortunate at my school to have been cited as the Student of the Year and Greek Affairs Scholar of the Year. On the fraternity level I am president of the chapter and a national officer.

So basically I want to know how people feel about the situation. How should I respond to him? Should I just avoid him all together?

-K

[The Cloud]

I'm in a fraternity, and one thing that I've noticed is that burying issues never makes anything better, and usually will end up creating schisms in the chapter. You need to confront this brother, but without anger and willing to listen to his arguments, using logic to counter any of them that you can. Also keep in mind that he may have some valid points, and be willing to listen to them if they are. At the very worst, you'll just have to agree to disagree, which at least will eliminate the animosity. If he is truly intractable and will not be worked with, then hopefully the rest of your chapter is not in agreement with him and you can safely ignore him. A brother that doesn't fit in, as you may have noticed in your time in the fraternity, usually ends up going inactive. Your fraternity voted you president, so obviously at least a majority of them like you well enough that things won't be too disrupted by this rogue brother. Good luck.