No negative feelings?

[Adelina]

Quite a bit of IM material says that if you have a negative feeling, to immediately get out of it and focus your attention to positive feelings.
This works for a great deal of things, to flow your energy and attention to what you do want,

but isn't there a sliver of time in between there, where we need to FEEL the negative feeling, and process it, and learn from it, THEN shift our attention to what we do want?

Does anyone else think that some of their negative feelings, though they are never meant to be wallowed in, are at least a little bit valuable, in defining what we do and don't want?

This may apply more to young people, or those who are in exploratory phases in their lives, in new environments, meeting new people, new places, things ideas etc. I have found a little bit of negative feeling to be helpful, in defining boundaries and seeing paths and finding clarity in what IS the right way.

It's a bit like a curious child touching a hot stove.. when you're exploring your environment without any definitions, a bit of pain is valuable, to learn NO. if you disregard or ignore the pain, you may not learn your lesson as strongly as if you feel your pain and remember the lesson attached to it. You have a clearer map of your environment if you can process what IS and is not right.


At the same time, after any exploratory phases, life can go on with fewer negative feelings, because your path is more clearly defined, and you more clearly know what is right and you DO want. Also using intuition helps in guiding you on your path, but I think this seems to work well in synergy with learned logic.

I wonder why there isn't more about the processing your feelings phase, which I think is valuable in IM and any part of life.

Anyone else find similar?

[Jim11]

I agree that negative feelings are important.

They show you where you need to grow. If you just keep ignoring them or shifting your attention they will probably continue to creep into your mind.

[Holistic Star]

Yes I agree. If you ignore negative feelings that in effect just supresses them and they come back and bite you on the backside later!

So yes, notice negative feelings, understand what they are saying, what you need to change or pay attention to. Then do it!

If it is negative feelings in relation to past hurts, rather than your current situation then the same thing applies. They are coming to the surface to be dealt with so use which ever therapy works for you (e.g. EFT, NLP, ho'oponono etc) and helps you to release them.