Restlessness leads me to do nothing...

[Livgivare]

Grrr, I feel like such a big fat failiure.

Right now I am under a little stress (I am no good at handling stress I know). Soon me and my boyfriend will move in togehter in hopefully the appartment we took a look at some 10 days ago. And I want that appartment like mad right now.

I also wrote a letter as you can read in another thread.

And I try to set up a deadline on things so I get them done.

Then Mr. Restless comes into my life, mess it up, makes me feel good in the beginning and bad in the end when I let him dictate my life into doing nothing because I feel so nervous and something blocks me from doing the things I set up.

I so want to get ridd of Mr Restless, now my question. Is the question meditation, more excersize or both? Is there food that calms you down and makes you focus better? Is cutting out on sugar the answer or what is it?

Anyone out there having a totally restless life where everyting just blocks and you become a nerve-wreck?

Love Leelene <---who knows guilt is the least thing she needs now!

[tefaroko]

IMHO from past experience, during periods of restlessness any action at all beats inaction, and dwelling.

Sugar is a stimulant, it might help you calm down. You might try Chamomile tea. Physical exercise is excellent for improving the mood, take a long walk or a bike ride.

Give any problems you have just enough mental time to see if you can come up with a solution. If its a problem you can't solve, or have no control over, let them go and realize what will be will be.

[Livgivare]

I will do more excersize each day, once in the morning and once in the eveing if I might handle it...and then probobly start to listen to some classical music and trying to meditate to that...since that is so calming too...I tried that today and it was really good...well...I will try out many things when it comes to this...so keep the ideas coming in...

Love Leelene

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Livgivare

Grrr, I feel like such a big fat failiure.

urgs, that hurts even me when I read it about you! Please don't say such things ever again! You know that you attract what you think of... you don't want to attract such a big fat failure anymore, do you? Please think loving, nice things about yourself, you'll feel much happier (and attract them).

Originally Posted by Livgivare

Anyone out there having a totally restless life where everyting just blocks and you become a nerve-wreck?

yes, me, sometimes I know what you're talking about! When I have many things to do, and everything (seemingly) equally urgent and important, I get totally restless. I start one thing, but feel so nervous for not doing the other things that I break up in the middle, start a second thing... go back to the first, start a third one... and end up sitting somewhere, short circuited, with an ambos instead of a brain and doing nothing at all - or even worse, playing WoW

You already have good ideas to solve this problem. I can recommend moving a lot, it makes me feel much better and more stable.

Avoiding certain foods too. You seem to be as sensitive as I am, so it could really help you to cut down some substances. In my case it's coffee, tea, chemical stuff in food, sugar, meat, grains and onions (lol, yes, onions... I eat them sometimes because I love them, but they make me nervous). As it's different for each one, cut down one food at the time for one month and see if you feel better. Sugar calms you down on a short term, but makes you even more nervous on a long term, as you get nervous any time your sugar level goes down again. So, if you're not enthusiastic about eating sugar every 15 minutes all day long, you'd better avoid it.

What helps me a lot when I am in such a state or restlessness is just saying STOP and taking some time for myself to decide what's really the most important. It's hard to take some time when you feel you haven't enough of it.. but do it. Sit down, take a paper and a pen and try to find out what is really important to you now.

And meditating 15-20 minutes two times a day is great too. Take some time for yourself, shut down your computer, turn the music off (or listen to that classical music or to some guided meditation), close the door, be unreachable for everybody, and just take some time for yourself, breathing and feeling that you exist. I tend to skip it when I'm under pressure, but that's a big mistake. This daily meditation helps me a lot, even better if I do it three times a day for only 10-15 minutes. It also structures my day and gives me energy.

Some helpful tip I got from a book also is to structure your day in segments (episodes), like before breakfast, breakfast, commute, work till pause, pause... and so on. When a new segment starts, first of all take a few seconds to ask yourself what you want in that segment.

Hm, I didn't suggest anything else than what you already know, but maybe it'll help you to know that other people have this problem too?


edit: just a thought... just take the pressure out of what you want to do might help too.