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09-30-2007, 12:19 AM
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| Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Chicago, IL
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 |  So what if you have a nice butt?
Don't sweat it when they look at you. It is your judgment of yourself that is bothering you when they look at you. Whether they want to think about you during masturbation or they just want to witness a fine female form for aesthetic reasons, it doesn't matter. Our society is so offended by other people looking at us because it forces us to judge ourselves by what we look like trying to decide how they are judging us by how we look. So don't worry about what you look like to them, because it is who you are that matters and they won't see that by just staring at your butt.
__________________ We must conquer ourselves, and allow our selves to conquer the world. |
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09-30-2007, 03:53 AM
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yeah, I guess all of you are right. I need to stop being all weird about that stuff. I guess I wasn't sure if you're supposed to look them in the eye, to show that you acknowledge their look or just walk away, ever so casually like you didn't even notice. |
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09-30-2007, 03:56 AM
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"""No matter what popular media would have you believe, sweetly innocent beauty is what most guys find to be the most titillating. I won't explain all the reasons for this now, just trust me on this.""" you should explain, hehe  any good guys out in Connecticut? I kid i kid, i swear |
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09-30-2007, 04:42 AM
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Dharma's really cute and in CT I think.
__________________ <jamariquay> I never understood the need for people to kill for their religion. Then I remembered, "Wait. If Optimus Prime tells me to gack someone, that ****er's going down." |
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09-30-2007, 05:08 AM
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| Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Germany
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| What should you do?
Hey there! Difficult question. Being a red blooded male I can only really give you a guys perspective. If you are gorgeous (which I am assuming you are, given that fellas keep oggling at you) then there will be nothing to prevent men from looking at you and experiencing sexual thoughts about you, unless you join a convent where there are no men. Understand also that the men cannot prevent what they are feeling either. In fact, the response from men is automatic and happens even before they become consciously aware of it. The only thing you can change unfortunately is the way you deal with it and interpret it. I learned that its OK for a girl to look at me like Im a sex object, she cannot help herself and it doesnt make her a bad person - nothing else has to happen - us humans cannot do anything about the way we respond to the opposite sex. Good luck with it. It sounds like you have some issues that need to be dealt with - try if possible to find someone that has had similar experiences to you and has successfully got through them. The Landmark forum as another member suggested may be good for you, but my experiences with them a few years ago were absolutely terrible - I would rather stab myself repeatedly with a fork than use them again. |
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09-30-2007, 06:01 AM
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if you're not attracted to him, and you don't feel like talking, then yeah.. you can walk away or just ignore it. if you're actually attracted to the guy, then you could acknowledge it by making eye contact. (i'm sure you know how to be a subtle flirt, right?  )generally, i think the best thing is just to ignore it... act nonchalant like you hardly noticed.  it's really not a big deal, anyway. | |
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09-30-2007, 05:47 PM
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