How can I stop talking like a tiny mouse!!!???

[lightthecandle]

My voice is so soft, I HATE it. The thing is when I’m with my friends, I’m my hyper-fun-loving and have a normal –loud voice. When I’m with people I just meet, or professors…I hide in my comfort zone of a low whisper-soft voice.

Is it because I may have self-esteem/confidence issues??

Like today…I went to see my prof at his office hours, and I was soooooooo tense, and nervous, and I couldn’t talk with any emotion..it seemed as if my dog just died, and I was talking to him…and there was absolutely no reason to be…he’s incredibly nice. And then there was another girl who came into see him, and she spoke completely normal.

How do I stop this!??

p.s. please don’t tell me my soft voice is a good thing…I can’t stand when people talk softly to me, yet I have the same problem! When I here someone with a softvoice and who’s nervous and tense I can immediately tell they’re a shy/reserved people who care way tooooooooo much of what others think

can this be me?? ahhh

[Jim11]

sounds like that is you. At least you're aware that you're doing it and that you want to change it. You need to practice walking into a room or a crowd and speaking out like you have something to say that everyone WANTS or NEEDS to hear. confidently.

Try and think of everyone as your equal (obviously people who seem to be below you as well). I am fairly junior in the office i work in, and there are a lot of partners/seniors I deal with. I try and talk professionally, but with a voice level and confidence that I would use talking to a good friend of mine

If you talk confidently you can just say a bunch of garbage and people will listen lol
If you are timid and shy your pearls of wisdom will be ignored.

These things are easier said than done. However, if make a conscious effort you will improve quickly.

[Chado2423]

Actually it's quite easy to talk in a way that sounds more confident, whether or not you are doesn't matter.... just speak from the diaphragm.

[Brutha]

Join Toastmasters. It's a matter of practice.

[Christian223]

Hi, i changed my tone of voice with EFT, its a great tool for self growth you should also try it. The issue here is that your mind somehow puts you into this state of mind of fear when you are with people, its really ilogical when you feel that even when people is so nice, istn it?, our minds work like that, do you remember the first time you felt this way?, your mind does and it tries to keep you away from danger by reviving this emotional memoires, its very ilogical but thats how the mind works. To get rid of this ilogical response, and overcome this mouse voice problem you have, try EFT and TAT, visit the link at my sig and also Tapping.com - Free EFT Videos - Emotional Freedom Technique.

I used to have my throath very tense/clenched (sp?) when talking to some people, that made my voice sound like if i was an old man (im 24), but after some eft rounds i speak more relaxed and clearly, the problem is gone and in just a few minutes! (incredible, but truth!). Try it for a couple of times, you wont be dissapointed. Good luck.