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09-03-2007, 05:32 PM
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 |  [Adult]How long should an orgasm take?
I know some guys are "one minute men".... well I'm on the other end of the spectrum and I take just about umm..... FOREVER... the ladies don't seem to mind, except when they think it's because of them, but frankly, it's just annoying. I will usually go at it for an exhaustingly long time and then just call it quits. After five or six separate times with the same woman I can start bringing in my landing times a little closer to normal. I think I have orgasm anxiety, if there is such a thing..... thoughts? jokes?
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09-03-2007, 05:44 PM
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haha.... yeah I don't feel comfortable unleashing my twisted turn ons until much later on, plus most women don't have all of the very particular features that do it for me.... i have a lot of fun with the wild ones who know how to let go but many women are a little too self conscious and just can't let go.... is it me or them? I always assumed something is up with me since all of my guy friends will pretty much climb onto anything with a pulse.....lol... i only heard of one other guy with this issue and i never met him in person. he slept with one of my friends and she told me about it. she also said me and him have the exact same personality... |
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09-03-2007, 05:58 PM
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**WARNING POSSIBLE ADULT CONTENT** It sounds like "retarded ejaculation" (by the way, that's probably my favorite medical term). It's also called delayed ejaculation: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Delayed ejaculation I know what it feels like. I've never had sex, but I've never been able to ejaculate by masturbating either. |
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09-03-2007, 06:00 PM
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09-03-2007, 06:14 PM
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haha shamou. like i said, i'm glad i'm on the other end of the spectrum, but i would like to be closer to the middle. ejaculating is overrated except when you have sex five or six times and it hasn't happened yet. then it becomes your lifes holy mission!!!! --still, no one wants to answer the question? 5 minutes? 30 minutes? 60 minutes? 487 minutes?.... |
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09-03-2007, 06:22 PM
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The link I posted has this to say about average time to ejaculation: Most men ejaculate within 2 to 4 minutes after onset of active thrusting in intercourse. Men with delayed ejaculation may be entirely unable to ejaculate in some circumstances (for example, during intercourse), or may only be able to ejaculate with great effort and after prolonged intercourse (for example 30 to 45 minutes). |
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09-03-2007, 06:22 PM
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There are all sorts of things that can affect it. Are you on any medication? Slamhot has MS, and can't always have an orgasm because of his meds. Just recently he talked to the doctor about switching it up. Before, it usually took a couple hours, and that only worked about 25% of the time. |
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09-03-2007, 06:35 PM
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The only thing I take is Klonopin on occassion but I make a conscious effort not to take it when I think I am going to have sex. I have experimented with it and it doesn't seem to have that strong of an effect on my "timing". Over the years I have become more and more particular about what I like and I must admit that I have been sexually spoiled to some extent, but why is it that most men, especially under 30, seem to be able to sleep with anyone and have an orgasm?
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09-03-2007, 07:03 PM
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Thinkingboy, have you accustomed yourself to a particular method of coming on your own? this happens a lot for guys who become so used to their own hand's pressure, speed, etc. that it's difficult for them to reach orgasm without it, even with the hottest woman or most treasured fantasy. If that's the problem, the answer is to vary things up (so to speak). Try to wean yourself off of the old trusted technique so that you're more sensitive. |
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09-03-2007, 07:18 PM
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 Don't skip your meds. If you're on meds and they're impeding the quality of your life, talk to your doctor. Slamhot was embarrassed, but once we both went in to his GC and discussed options, it was easier to come to a conclusion. Meds take awhile to get out of your system, and even Slamhot's doctor told us not to expect any major changes for a few weeks, and even to expect a bit of a crash for awhile. A good partner will not mind going to the doctor with you. And like Angela said, experiment. Don't rely on trusted and true. Experiment! | |
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09-03-2007, 07:21 PM
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same method i have been using since i started way back when. contrary to popular belief, the more i masturbate, the higher my sex drive, and the more sex i have the more i masturbate as well. it all goes together. but even when my drive is peaking, i only cum from certain turn-ons that i have gotten to "need". i think that is the textbook definition for a fetish.... having some prerequisite in order to climax. am i wrong? just a side note, i was not molested or anything strange like that. i always assumed there is a comfort threshhold i must meet before i can feel totally comfortable and expose my true turn ons, but even then, the sex is great, but the orgasm just takes forever. when i say forever, i mean sometimes almost 3 hours, and surprisingly, most women can keep up and enjoy it, but i would like to just be a little bit selfish and not concern myself with my partners orgasm. I need it more than she does..... women who communicate well are very supportive and actually love how sexually uninhibited I am... but i don't feel that way.... anyways.... rambling.... |
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09-03-2007, 11:43 PM
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thethinkingboy! I think you should read this from. "LASTING TO LONG: DELAYED EJACULATION" Here is are two excerpts... "A recent large survey found that 8% of men surveyed acknowledged having the experience of not being able to reach orgasm during intercourse at least once in the preceding year with many of those stating that it is an ongoing problem." "Never fear -- this is a problem with solutions. First, which head needs to be treated? If you can ejaculate during masturbation then there's a pretty good chance that the plumbing is hooked up and working right -- right? " The best of luck to you... and don't forget to wear some knee pads...  . |
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09-04-2007, 06:57 AM
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I try to focus on the thrust and the domination and so on but even when I get close to climax, I realize it and it's like I am almost there and then it just goes away..... then I have to start all over again. sometimes i am really into it and the woman tries to keep up and say something nasty (in a good way) but it comes out all wrong and I end up laughing and losing my mojo all together..... i have to really concentrate to finish.... like I said, the woman don't mind at all, it's just exhausting and not that rewarding until at least the 5th or 6th session.
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09-06-2007, 12:51 AM
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Though I've been not able to separate one day and the day after, but yes in separated days and a lot of time each day. I still don't get why I can't separate them every day... maybe it's too much control for me...
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09-06-2007, 12:56 AM
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Well, I don't concentrate in ejaculating but on the opposite... you lose control on ejaculation, and you have to start over... not from zero but... it's not the same. Of course it feels good, why would I do it if not? lol... The more time you're bordering ejaculation the better. |
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