Living for a purpose that is greater than we are…

[Shamou]

Living for a purpose that is greater than we are…

We have two choices… we can chose to dedicate our life to ourselves or to some purpose that we deem to be greater than we are…

I tried both… and living for a purpose was the answer for me… it has brought me satisfaction, success and happiness…

For the past twenty four years, my purpose has been to make my wife happy… when she’s happy, I’m ecstatic…

There are three thing that I decided to do to make her happy… 1) loved her unconditionally… 2) constantly build up her self-confidence and self-love and 3) make certain that she always enjoys the good things that life has to offer…

I did the things that needed to be done to achieve that and it has brought me a life of happiness and contentment…

I just hope that sharing this with you guys might give you something to ponder on…

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[Liara Covert]

This is an uplifting perspective. The more we encourage and enrich the lives of others the more our lives tend to evolve in positive directions. People are also more likely to become what you encourage them to be than what you nag them to become.

"Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than criticize." -Elizabeth Harrison

[JimC]

This is great to hear. I have always felt better about myself to know that I helped someone else and they accepted it. It makes one feel useful, like you have a purpose and something to offer. Pavlina's successful website is material proof.

This a much more ethical approach at furthering your agenda, rather than receiving large amounts of money. :>

[A.K.Light]

Shamou, is your wife's purpose to make you happy?

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by A.K.Light

Shamou, is your wife's purpose to make you happy?

She is a very exceptional and intelligent person who loves me very much... and she knows what makes me happy is for her to be everything that she could be... and, in twenty four years... she has never failed...

So, I would say that her true purpose is to be all that she can be... and that just happens to be what makes me happy...

Hope that answers your question...

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[cbreeze]

after time i wondered about seeming intelligent ppl who incorporate another person in their life to idolize in order to be happy. That's a whale of a tale. May whatever bring your the power you/someone else can provide, I suppose, is what matters.

[norbert]

Dear Shamou,

I do respect you very much for your wisdom in your posts but I don't understand this one. It goes contrary to the principle of not being attached to external circumstances. Or you aren't into that?

I just wanted to point out that I find it absolutely necessary to choose purposes greater than we are but on the other hand, I think it is dangerous to choose one that is dependent on a single human being (who might be your complete world, I understand that).

I advise you to make sure that your satisfaction, success and happiness comes from your own contribution and not from the fact that your wife is present.

I wish you both a long and very happy life and hope you'll be able to stay together until the very end. You know, I have lost most of my loved ones very early (one by one) and I just want to help everybody avoid any possible suffering.

Best Regards,
Norbert

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by norbert

I just wanted to point out that I find it absolutely necessary to choose purposes greater than we are but on the other hand, I think it is dangerous to choose one that is dependent on a single human being (who might be your complete world, I understand that).

Hello norbert...

I would like to thank you for your very good advice and concerns... that's very kind of you...

However I can assure that I am a very passionate guy... one of my motto is... "Drive the pedal to the metal... and don't look back..."

Danielle already has given my twenty four unbelievable years... driven me to outdo myself... succeed financially... and lead a life that I could not even have dreamed off... so, whatever the future brings, I will have lived more and enjoyed life more than most people...

So, no matter what he future holds... there will be no regrets from me... however, I fully agree that what works for me might not be applicable for someone else...

Very sorry that you have lost those who were most dear to you... but don't ever give up... another great love might just be around the corner... waiting for you...

PS. I always did say that we should not be influenced by outside circumstances... however, in my case, this is the one exception that confirms the rule...

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[MercuryLime]

Plus it seems like Shamou's love comes from abundance and joy serving a higher purpose, not neediness. That makes a big difference.

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by MercuryLime

not neediness. That makes a big difference.

For most of us, "neediness" is a state of mind... If you have life, food and shelter... anything else is gravy...

However, society has imposed upon us expectations... and if those expectation are not met... we feel deprived and miserable... Society has said that... but it is our decision to accept or reject it...

I have an appreciate degree of affluence... and I strongly believe that one of the reason that I have it is because I never cared that much about it... what I did (and still doing) is more important to me than what I have... so, instead of focusing on what I wanted... I kept my focus on what I was doing... and did it exceptionally well... and got the rewards for it...

You are only 16... but I hope that you can grasp the concept that you have to be... before you can do... before you can have...

That is, you have to become the kind of person that can do the things that need to be done in order to get the things that you want... that's one of life's greatest lesson...

Best of luck to you...

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