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Mounds 12-06-2011 01:40 PM

How to Avoid Getting Banned
 
With the recent banning of a couple active members, I think this thread is timely.

As a former moderator on this board, I'll let you in on a few secrets:

1. No one gets banned for nothing

2. Active members who get hit with the ban hammer tend to accumulate A LOT of warnings

3. When you create an account, you agree to the rules

Bans fall into several categories:

Spamming - by far the most common. There were days where I'd ban three or four spammers as I was having my morning coffee.

Chronic pity partiers - I've only ever seen one banned.

People who forget there's another person on the other end of the computer - this is where the controversy starts. At this point, please reread the three secrets and continue.

The internet has created an environment where it's easy to say things you'd have a hard time saying in person. Some of those things can be quite hurtful or offensive. If you wouldn't be able to say it in person, don't say it on the forum.

I know a storm is brewing, so keep those three points in mind. No one is forced to leave; they all leave on their own accord. Sometimes people ask for assistance in ways we can't understand.

-Tim

raykilleen 12-06-2011 02:58 PM

I prefer the Wild West but being human I understand the senseless act of wanting to control an environment, warnings are nice.

Curtis2011 12-07-2011 05:45 AM

I think it would be useful to have a thread or some sort of page that kept track of every username that has been banned, with a one-line explanation or reference to the reason they were banned.

There have been a few times when I recognize a person's username then see "banned" under it, and have no idea why it happened. In those cases, I would definitely like to at least know a basic explanation of why it occurred.

supertom 12-07-2011 05:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Curtis2011 (Post 1036169)
I think it would be useful to have a thread or some sort of page that kept track of every username that has been banned, with a one-line explanation or reference to the reason they were banned.

There have been a few times when I recognize a person's username then see "banned" under it, and have no idea why it happened. In those cases, I would definitely like to at least know a basic explanation of why it occurred.

I think the "reason" would be not being respectful to other members, I doubt the mod will be able to elaborate on what was said without breaking the rules themselves. :D

Mariana Trench 12-07-2011 07:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by supertom (Post 1036175)
I think the "reason" would be not being respectful to other members, I doubt the mod will be able to elaborate on what was said without breaking the rules themselves. :D

It would also be extremely impractical because 90% of it would look like:

Quote:

SUPERWEIGHTLOSSOMGRAW.COM banned for spam.

Cado 12-07-2011 07:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Curtis2011 (Post 1036169)
I think it would be useful to have a thread or some sort of page that kept track of every username that has been banned, with a one-line explanation or reference to the reason they were banned.

There have been a few times when I recognize a person's username then see "banned" under it, and have no idea why it happened. In those cases, I would definitely like to at least know a basic explanation of why it occurred.

I propose that we post a link to this picture next to the name of everyone who's been banned: http://www.underconsideration.com/sp...beingadick.jpg

cacheborn 12-07-2011 08:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Curtis2011 (Post 1036169)
I think it would be useful to have a thread or some sort of page that kept track of every username that has been banned, with a one-line explanation or reference to the reason they were banned.

Usually, if the ban is not for spamming, then it's safe to assume it's for breaking rules repeatedly. The ban is never for a single instance, in case of senior members.

I think the key thing to remember is to have mutual respect for other person and not to forget the main reason why we are here. To have intelligent and inspiring interactions.

Cado 12-07-2011 10:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cacheborn (Post 1036257)
Usually, if the ban is not for spamming, then it's safe to assume it's for breaking rules repeatedly. The ban is never for a single instance, in case of senior members.

I think the key thing to remember is to have mutual respect for other person and not to forget the main reason why we are here. To have intelligent and inspiring interactions.

I originally read that as intercourse.

Although it was an error I have gotten a lot of that from these forums.

wanzulfikri 12-07-2011 11:52 AM

Well...in every forum there will be banned members.

But it is enlightening to see the mods of a specific doing their job greatly. I salute you Mods.

cacheborn 12-07-2011 12:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cado (Post 1036298)
I originally read that as intercourse.

Freudian slip occurs much more frequently than one expects.

ButterflyWoman 12-07-2011 01:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by raykilleen (Post 1035611)
I prefer the Wild West

The thing is, Steve doesn't. In fact, he doesn't want this forum, which bears his name and the name of his book, to degenerate into a "lowest common denominator" type of site, like so many others out there. If you really prefer a "no holds barred, anything you can get away with, post first and ask questions later" type of discussion board, then this site is probably never going to be entirely to your taste. There are plenty of sites out there that will suit your desire for more chaos, though.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Curtis2011 (Post 1036169)
I think it would be useful to have a thread or some sort of page that kept track of every username that has been banned, with a one-line explanation or reference to the reason they were banned.

There are literally THOUSANDS. I'm not kidding. Most are spammers, of course, but there are not only privacy considerations, there is the time and bandwidth consideration involved with posting thousands of banned usernames for the general public to view.

Quote:

Originally Posted by supertom (Post 1036175)
I think the "reason" would be not being respectful to other members, I doubt the mod will be able to elaborate on what was said without breaking the rules themselves.

Exactly.

To repeat what Mounds noted, no user ever gets banned for no reason. There is always a reason. There is almost always a discussion prior to banning (not usually with spammers, of course). Generally when a well-established member is banned, there was a detailed discussion and the person has a string of warnings and misbehaviours on their record. The notion that mods just go willy nilly banning people for no good reason is absurd.

And, frankly, the idea that the forum members at large need to know the details of other peoples' transgressions and warnings strikes me as just a little voyeuristic.

BillyTheAdult 12-07-2011 02:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mounds (Post 1035586)

I know a storm is brewing, so keep those three points in mind. No one is forced to leave; they all leave on their own accord. Sometimes people ask for assistance in ways we can't understand.

-Tim

No storm was brewing for me until this. Now, I understand completely what you are trying to say. I understand the meaning as you would say in NLP, but it seems to me it is a subtle way of twisting words around. If they left on their own accord there would be no need for banning because they would voluntarily not come back, it would be their choice to do so. The fact that a banning is required to prevent the further usage of the forums is a clear indication that it was not in fact voluntary. This is analogous to the school yard bully (not comparing the mods to bullies, just a comparison of word usage) who says something like "don't make me hit you." If you don't want to hit me, don't hit me, I'm not forcing you to do anything.

moonrambler 12-07-2011 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BillyTheAdult (Post 1036380)
No storm was brewing for me until this. Now, I understand completely what you are trying to say. I understand the meaning as you would say in NLP, but it seems to me it is a subtle way of twisting words around. If they left on their own accord there would be no need for banning because they would voluntarily not come back, it would be their choice to do so. The fact that a banning is required to prevent the further usage of the forums is a clear indication that it was not in fact voluntary. This is analogous to the school yard bully (not comparing the mods to bullies, just a comparison of word usage) who says something like "don't make me hit you." If you don't want to hit me, don't hit me, I'm not forcing you to do anything.

It's not like that at all. It's a person making a conscious decision to do something he knows has great potential to get him banned. So it is indeed that person's decision to leave. It's about the individual taking responsibility for his actions.

Midnite 12-07-2011 04:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wanzulfikri (Post 1036344)
But it is enlightening to see the mods of a specific doing their job greatly. I salute you Mods.

We salute you too wonderful little forum-goer! :D

Brutha 12-07-2011 09:39 PM

Quote:

I prefer the Wild West but being human I understand the senseless act of wanting to control an environment, warnings are nice.
Than go to /b. There you find the Wild West.
Quote:

If they left on their own accord there would be no need for banning because they would voluntarily not come back, it would be their choice to do so.
This forum can be a bit addicted. We get specific request to ban people (now it's called retired) because people lack the willpower to stay away.

Cado 12-07-2011 10:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brutha (Post 1036700)
This forum can be a bit addicted. We get specific request to ban people (now it's called retired) because people lack the willpower to stay away.

In a PD context I wouldn't even call it lack of willpower, I'd call it conscious allocation of resources. Willpower is finite and thus it's unwise to use it where you don't need to. If you're banned here then staying away is automatic; the willpower that would have gone to this is free to use elsewhere.

Vaganova 12-20-2011 11:22 AM

Something else to add...
 
Something else that would be really nice: a more user-friendly method of getting your password back when you forgot it!! I spent the last hour and a half trying to track mine down... then ended up deciding to just create a new account... and THEN it gave me the option to get my old name back... gerrr....

Moriarty 12-20-2011 11:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mounds (Post 1035586)
With the recent banning of a couple active members, I think this thread is timely.

As a former moderator on this board, I'll let you in on a few secrets:

1. No one gets banned for nothing

2. Active members who get hit with the ban hammer tend to accumulate A LOT of warnings

3. When you create an account, you agree to the rules

Bans fall into several categories:

Spamming - by far the most common. There were days where I'd ban three or four spammers as I was having my morning coffee.

Chronic pity partiers - I've only ever seen one banned.

People who forget there's another person on the other end of the computer - this is where the controversy starts. At this point, please reread the three secrets and continue.

The internet has created an environment where it's easy to say things you'd have a hard time saying in person. Some of those things can be quite hurtful or offensive. If you wouldn't be able to say it in person, don't say it on the forum.

I know a storm is brewing, so keep those three points in mind. No one is forced to leave; they all leave on their own accord. Sometimes people ask for assistance in ways we can't understand.

-Tim

As a fairly new member to the boards, appreciate your tips. Have yourself a MERRY CHRISTMAS!:d

ButterflyWoman 12-20-2011 01:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vaganova (Post 1046203)
Something else that would be really nice: a more user-friendly method of getting your password back when you forgot it!! I spent the last hour and a half trying to track mine down... then ended up deciding to just create a new account... and THEN it gave me the option to get my old name back... gerrr....

The board should give you the option of resetting your password, and as I recall, it's a pretty straighforward process, though you do need to make sure you have a valid email address or it can't mail you.

But, essentially, the password retrieval is completely built in to the board software, so it's not likely to change unless there's some major update to vBulletin.

frajilthunder 12-20-2011 08:11 PM

elucidate? None of mine or anyone else's business of course, but I just noticed she was banned.

Agota 12-20-2011 08:31 PM

Okay, I was mainly away from the forums this week, but what's up with elucidate, angela and supertom, if mods don't mind me asking? I'm just confused :)

st33med 12-20-2011 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Agota (Post 1046481)
Okay, I was mainly away from the forums this week, but what's up with elucidate, angela and supertom, if mods don't mind me asking? I'm just confused :)

Look at the General Introductions thread about Angela being banned.

Acting Like Godot 12-21-2011 12:54 AM

Angela and a whole bunch of other people. :(

bluestar 12-21-2011 02:00 AM

What?? These guys got banned? (Supertom...? Angela...? Elucidate...? )That's weird, can't imagine what they did wrong, but I haven't been here for ages so lost track of stuff

Lioness 12-21-2011 02:11 AM

It's worse than that. It seriously looks like the end of these forums. Steve wants to shut it down.

st33med 12-21-2011 02:48 AM

I'm going to miss this place. It was the start of a good place of growth.

I really love all the people here, even the people flaming. It was so fun. :(

Dimitri 12-21-2011 04:48 AM

Although mods give a few warning before the ban, I have the impression that Steve sometimes bans people for one "wrong" message. Is this right?

ButterflyWoman 12-21-2011 06:44 AM

Concerning Angela and others, there\'s a long and rather exhausting thread on the topic, and Steve was posting in it, himself.

http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/g...la-banned.html


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