Progress? so far.

[Kahuna]

You may remember me, i started out here with 137kg, no friends, no job, no love, no sex and that on the age of 28/29. So i did alot of work.

I lost alot of weigth, i`m around 83kg +- some now. I managed to get a good circle of friends and wider circle too. I have job, after 6 month training, in security business, employed since November 1st, i got a car now. Life should be wonderfull but still i`m not statisfied.

While i look clothed ok now, nakes i`m still ugly because of the loose skin. An OP is not affordable in the near future.

I have a job now, but my bank account is zero, actually, first time in my life i have some dept, nothing major, but well i expected to get work and money would mean less financial worries, though i get my first payment around 20th december, so that is the main culprit here, it just throws me back 2 months and i have the urge to continue my life, like buying more fitting clothing (i only have very few pieces).

I work much, acutally this month i`ll have 219 work hours, only three days off this month except sundays (i`m doormen/ shop detective/ in the warehouse in a big entertaiment and houseware mall), usually working 11 hours +1 hour break. So life is a little low in the moment, i talked with my leader, i hope it gets better, but still, i want a little bit more life.

Love life is still nill, nothing, i have not managed to get sex or love. I got close once, but she dumped me for someone else. Ironically, i guess it was because i was "better" then him. She thinks she is an outside, and has alot of compassion for outsiders, so she choosed him. Funny thing, when i`m around in the club, she is always in a bad mood, even with him, after she has seen me. Anyway i have lost, and well this part of my live is undeveloped and i am very very unstatisfied with that fact, but i don`t really know how to change it. By chance i must got lucky in love, or get laid at least, having a girl really interessted in me. Well Love live is still a bad topic, and this makes me really feel bad about myself.


So i gained so much, worked so hard, and now i`m standing here, and still unstatisfied, not feeling like a winner, and i only know a few minor things to change, or did those already. So much success but i`m lacking to appreciate them.

Well that`s my status with the purpose of asking for a little bit of help, and to inspire some other that you can make something out of nothing.

[GregD]

Hi Kahuna,

First of all I think congrats are in order because I did not feel it in your post, but damn good job on the weight loss and getting friends and a job and a car. Really, fantastic! because many others in your position would end up sorry old men, fat sitting in front of TV eating junk food until they die. So awesome job!

I do think however that your self-confidence or self-esteme is still not repaired. You clearly do not feel good about yourself and believe it or not this is a requirement for many things, both in love life and financial success.

So what I suggest you is what I did myself. Become a frequent visitor on bodybuilding.com forums and if you can afford sign up for a gym or if you can not afford create a home made gym corner in your place. You do not have to buy anything, you can always find heavy things to lift in the rubbish. So start building your body so you become more muscular and look better and feel better and your skin issues will also go away for free without any dangerous operation (unless you have done something very dangerous and drastic for weight loss).

This will take time, but within few months you should already start noticing good muscle growth and start feeling better on the outside. This will help you also to feel stronger on the inside.

Next, you just got the job, so you can not have lots of money - you just got it. Keep at it but guess what? You must keep looking for a better job while you already have a job! Keep hopping from job to only a better job over time.

Forget the girl who you described. She seems emotionally damaged from your explanation and you don't want such problems in your hands. Focus on fixing yourself, because the real truth is you need to truly be happy with yourself and end up loving yourself before anyone else can love you. I know in life it happens that a beauty may love a beast but this is super rare especially if the beast has no confidence.

So to finish off - fantastic job so far!! but you are far from done!! Keep smashing obstacles! you can do it! you already showed you can, just do not get lazy now!!!!

(feel free to private message me)

[Kahuna]

I used to go to the gym, but with the workload i haven`t worked out a shedule to do both, that`s one goal for the next month.

Well i won`t be happy without the romantic/sexual part of my life, so no chance.

Looking for a better job, of course, but right now, i`m lacking a direction, maybe time will tell.

And thanks, that is a fate i didn`t want and one of the reason to change so drastically, maybe my feelings about my self need a little longer to change then a year? Who knows.

[Brutha]

Congratulation, you are making progress. That's what matters. Continue to work at yourself and sooner or later you will also reach your other goals.

[wanzulfikri]

Originally Posted by Brutha

Congratulation, you are making progress. That's what matters. Continue to work at yourself and sooner or later you will also reach your other goals.

Yes progress is the best part of achieving success. Progress is the sweetest part of success.

[Dandy]

Hi Kahuna,

you are making big leaps and big progress. The truth is that only when we are trying something really hard we have a feeling that we are not moving.
You lost 50 kg!? Man, that is a story for the local newspapers
You got a job and found new friends. Way to go! You take now everything for granted but the truth is , probably less than 5% of all people on Earth are capable of such changes.

It is absolutely normal that you are not satisfied . But you probably heard what Tony Robbins said about trying . Try UNTIL....
So just keep working and sooner or later everything will pay off.