Paranoid

[kay]

anyone ever felt that random people were giving them funny looks.
Dont know what it is, But lately i've been feeling paranoid.
How do you deal with been paranoid. How can i stop it.
Any useful tips.

Thanks

[introspective1]

Paranoid, like how?? you think someone is going to try to harm you? If the people don't know you then you have no reason to be paranoid. Maybe they are checkin you out cause they think you are attractive or they might be jealous of you.

I would say that you should ask yourself "why does it matter what people think of me"? I know how you must feel. I sometimes worry about people giving me funny looks but then i tell myself that "they don't know me, so why does it matter? Life is too short". Once i put things in perspective, those people start to not matter to me anymore

[InJoy]

I spent a good deal of my life in that state. Then I heard someone say that I'd be amazed to know just how infrequently other people think about me.

Armed with that (somewhat blunt) idea, I surmised that these "funny looks" probably had nothing to do with me. I further decided that there were probably just as many friendly faces out there. I started seeking out those friendly faces in the crowds.

That usually worked quite nicely, but if it didn't at any given time, I took out the big guns. I started smiling - genuinely smiling - at people in public places. I did this without expectation of being smiled back at. (Basically, I became the friendly face I was looking for.)

The results were wonderful. So much so that I completely forgot that I was paranoid about people looking at me funny. I simply don't see them anymore. And if the odd "funny looker" does cross my path, I now try to radiate love their way because I recognize that their "funny look" is likely a reflection of their own inner pain.

[Gene]

Originally Posted by kay

anyone ever felt that random people were giving them funny looks.
Dont know what it is, But lately i've been feeling paranoid.
How do you deal with been paranoid. How can i stop it.
Any useful tips.

Thanks

Are you being paranoid or just self conscious?

[AdamUK]

I get paranoid sometimes too. I think Injoy gave some great advice

[tommydykes]

I often decide that someone is thinking something, then think about it so much I forget that I made it up and believe it. Normally surounding things that are bothering me anyway. I guess that is playing on existing negative thoughts that you have, so perhaps being more positive is a good move.

[InJoy]

Originally Posted by tommydykes

I often decide that someone is thinking something, then think about it so much I forget that I made it up and believe it.

There is amazing power in that statement.

Think about it. If you have the ability to think about something you made up so much that you believe it, you could come to believe anything!

What are beliefs anyway? Aren't they just repeated thoughts?

When I realized I had this power, I got a lot more careful about what sorts of things I allowed myself to dwell upon in my thoughts. I work everyday to keep my mind full of things that contain truth, beauty, and joy. My beliefs, (and my world!) have changed dramatically since I began doing that.

[tommydykes]

I have recently begun to realise that fact. I find it strange, you can believe whatever you want, so why believe something negative? You never actually know what someone is thinking and without going over to ask them never will - what is also weird is there reality is then based on how they see the world.

Perhaps it is likely they are infact being paranoid about you looking at them, viscious cycle of paranoid androids.

[InJoy]

Originally Posted by tommydykes

You never actually know what someone is thinking and without going over to ask them never will - what is also weird is there reality is then based on how they see the world.

Exactly right. I've come to believe that what a person thinks of me is more a reflection of who they are than a reflection of who I am. (And it works both ways.)

And, if a person is in reality looking at me strange (if I notice it at all), a smile in their direction seems to have a more positive effect on them than a look of "ohmygod you're looking at me funny!"

[Brutha]

Originally Posted by kay

How do you deal with been paranoid. How can i stop it.

I am watching you. You left your bed this morning with the left leg. You have problem with procrastination, but you have goals in your life.
When you see someone who succeds you are silently jealouse of him.

Sometimes you think that nobody understands you, but you friends and famalily that love you.
You genuinely find it hard to give up your independence, when you are around other people and try to get along with them. You prefer to strike a well-managed balance between doing things alone and with other people.