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04-28-2007, 02:02 AM
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Excerpt from the book "Dumbing Down our Kids" by educator Charles Sykes. Rule 1. Life is not fair - get used to it! Rule 2. The world won't care about your self esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. Rule 3. You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone til you earn both. Rule 4. If you think your teacher is tough - wait til you get a boss! Rule 5. Flipping hamburgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for hamburger flipping: it was called opportunity. Rule 6. If you mess up its not your parents fault, so don't whine about your mistakes; learn from them. Rule 7. Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes, and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rainforest from the parasites of your parents generation, try delousing the closet in your own room. Rule 8. Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but LIFE HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they will give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the SLIGHTEST resemblance to ANYTHING is real life. Rule 9. Life is not divided into semesters.. You dont get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time. Rule 10. Television is not real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs. Rule 11. Be nice to nerds. Chances are you will end up working for one Bill Gates' Life Rules (High School Speech) . |
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04-28-2007, 12:14 PM
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Although some of those advices have a point, I think the first one is quite dangerous: Quote:
Not a good advice to children, IMHO. | |
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04-28-2007, 04:14 PM
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 However, instead of saying, "just change" I would say "adapt"... (I like to nitpick...  ). | |
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04-28-2007, 07:20 PM
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I don't know ... I think one can choose to believe the advice or not and it will come true. All my life I was told to be realistic and have something to "fall back on" and stop dreaming ... Now I live my dream, and it is by no means "realistic". It did and still does take hard work, but there is so much joy. Your list sounds so joyless.
__________________ It is my birthright to express myself creatively in ways that are deeply fulfilling to me. It is my birthright to live fully and freely. I am worth loving. I now choose to live life fully. All my needs and desires are meet before I even ask. All is well in my life. I am beyond group beliefs or the calendar. I am free from all congestion and influence. It feels safe to be me. I express who I am. Louise L. Hay Free Hugs Switzerland |
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04-28-2007, 07:35 PM
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04-28-2007, 07:42 PM
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I think it is in peoples social conditioning to believe that life is hard, that way when you "inevitably" fail, you can always say...oh well.. lifes hard right? It was never gonna happen anyway right? Meh whats on TV.
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05-02-2007, 10:42 AM
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I think when it says "Get used to it" it actually means "accept it". As Steve says, "Acceptance means that you perceive reality accurately and consciously acknowledge what you perceive." It doesn't mean you have to be happy with it or agree with it. You just have to know exactly how it is so you can lead your steps where you want. You're more likely to have a good trip when driving on a bumpy road if you know its cracks and bumps than if you just look somewhere else thinking the road is perfectly ok. Last edited by Xieta; 05-02-2007 at 10:43 AM. Reason: my English is so bad I can't quite explain myself... |
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05-02-2007, 12:46 PM
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Nice, all good advice and still relevant for some of us adults with a few words changed... I don't have a problem with the advice "life isn't fair, get used to it" because I think reading it as a justification for people stepping over one another is a very narrow interpretation. There's many times life just doesn't feel "fair" such as falling in love with someone who just doesn't love you back, training for a marathon and after months of training and two weeks before the race you pull a hamstring muscle, throwing your hat in for a promotion and your co-worker gets promoted instead. Anyhow, just my thoughts.  |
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05-02-2007, 05:42 PM
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I agree with the general direction of the 'rules' and for some people it might serve as a great 'WAKE UP *BITCHSLAP*' to me its a bit to synical of a world view.
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...otherwise...for the minority of kids out there...awful.
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05-19-2007, 02:35 AM
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05-19-2007, 03:55 AM
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Originally Posted by Shamou Rule 3. You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone til you earn both. I guess Magic Johnson, Shaq, Leighton Hewitt and plenty of other kids were lucky... they hadn't met Shamou. |
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05-19-2007, 04:06 AM
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For everyone of those heros there are tens of thousands "could have been..." I said it at least one thousand times... "There ain't no free lunches..." You want something... you'll have to work to earn it... Those guys can be great models for kids... but the kids also need a reality check... not everyone has the talent... sad but true... . | |
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05-19-2007, 05:01 AM
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I believe that everyone can become a champion or star of themselves, in their own unique way, and that they deserve just as much, including money should they desire it, as any other champion or star. Imagine if Roger Bannister, or Tony Robins, or Oprah Winfrey were convinced, or accepted that they never had the talent to succeed, or that they weren't worth much. Self belief, self worth and hope is what all kids need to be fullfilled. If they stumble, make mistakes, or change paths on the way to becoming fullfilled, in their own unique way, they need to feel that it is not a crime, not failure, not bad, but just a part of the journey, to be valued and enjoyed. Where there is a will, there is a way.
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