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04-17-2007, 02:22 AM
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 Shamou, thanks for your kind words of encouragement and acknowledgement. 
__________________ Char Slaughter Success Coach, Professional Speaker and Workshop Facilitator www.CoachChar.com Please check out my show on BlogTalkRadio: The Growth & Gratitude Hour, airing live at 12 AM Eastern time on Saturdays.      |
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04-17-2007, 04:24 AM
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05-03-2007, 06:09 AM
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| My own personal success really stems from overcoming a past full of depression, abuse, neglect and hurt and reaping the rewards of perservance, faith, hope, love, and endurance. I have developed a healthy self-discipline, confidence, patience, and control. I am much happier and healthier (physically and mentally) than I have ever been, and that is really how I measure success in my life. On another note: I empathize very accurately I am a pretty endurance runner I lift large weights that other women can't  I have been together with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years (mostly long distance, too) I have kept a diary since I was eight years old I received a 4.0 GPA this current semester I am an excellent cook! 
__________________ We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. ~Carl Jung |
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05-03-2007, 05:21 PM
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05-03-2007, 10:36 PM
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05-03-2007, 10:38 PM
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| It's inspiring to find so many happy people, and all in one place! Your accomplishments are daunting, too, but since I'm sixteen, I figure most of y'all had head starts anyway. I'm not going to sweat it now, because in forty years or so I'll be able to tell all the youngsters about the amazing things I've done. Not sure how to describe myself. I'll give you some random fun facts: 1. I'm young and I love it! 2. I love to learn; everyday the world behind me seems more explainable, and the world ahead of me fills up with questions. 3. When I think hard I have to walk or move around, and sometimes I talk to myself. It looks pretty psychotic but I don't mind. 4. I love the films of David Lynch, as disturbing as they are. My favorite film of his is Fire Walk With Me. 5. My favorite book is either the Fountainhead or Ursula K. LeGuin's "The Lathe of Heaven." 6. My favorite music to listen to is Classical, especially the wild 20th century stuff like Shostakovich and Rachmaninoff. 7. I've been playing piano for five years. 8. I'm experimenting with intention manifestation. It's very frustrating but it's so important that I don't want to give up. 9. My largest accomplishment so far is that people I meet view me as someone they can talk to and trust to be mature. I'm glad I'm compassionate; it makes me feel holy and complete. 10. I'm vegetarian, considering going vegan. |
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05-04-2007, 01:55 AM
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Keep this up and you will have a great future ahead of you… I am certainly looking forward to sharing more with you… . |
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05-04-2007, 04:28 AM
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Jezus, if I started 4 years earlier with this I'd already be a millionair and accomplished some nice things already haha. Just keep it up and great things will happen to you. hahah in fact I'm sure you'll surpass all of us and a few meters extra, so here's to a fearless future !!
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05-04-2007, 06:50 AM
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05-04-2007, 08:24 AM
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| Well... Well, I'm just 22, so there's nothing much to list here, but here it comes: - At 18 I decided to Study Translation and Interpreting in a school 50 miles from home and commute instead of moving out so I could still help at home (grandma is living with us and can't be on her own at all) which means wasting 5 hours a day on trains, buses and underground. - At 19 I got a truck driving license to help with the family business (I don't have to drive, they just needed somebody to have it to put the name on a paper, but I had to study and pratice a lot in order to past those tests) - At 20 I moved for a few months to England, I worked as an au-pair, but I was learning English! - At 21 I got a scholarship for a semester abroad in Greece, all paid. That gave me the opportunity to add a 5th language to my CV. Actually, I got 2 schollarships, one from my Uni and one from the European Union! I spent Spring semester in England again, working. "Wasted" year school-credit wise, but I learnt a lot. - Last September I decided to start Media Studies in a different school (shared campus, different schools) so on top of the 5 hours wasted going to school and back, now I have twice the normal class load. - The last few months I've worked as an interpreter in several conferences and now I'm working regularly as a freelance translator on my favourite field (TV). Also, last semester, I was in the top 3% of my year in 5 of the 6 classes I took. I've done all that while volunteering all the time, keeping my friends, a boyfriend for most of those years (not now) and, while you HAVE TO be in school for 5 years to graduate (you are not allowed to sign in for "English II" unless you have a certificate saying you passed "English I" and so on, and you need "English V" to get your degree... and they're worth 2 semesters each...) I'll graduate both from Media and Translation&Interpreting in 7 years (I'll be 24), after all the above (year abroad, etc). Statistics show that, a year after graduating, about 90% people graduated in Transl.&Int. are working, but only 50% are actually translating. I'm a year BEFORE graduation and already translating like crazy. That's a happy thought! Well, I started this thinking that's something I should be proud of, I have many classmates who will graduate with me and have needed 7 years but living on campus, not working, just one degree (again, here degrees are 5 years, diplomas 3...) etc. But now I look back and realize is not such a big accomplishment since I haven't work at 100% for a single day. I realize I've done a lot, but it makes me sad to think what could I have done if I had just made a small effort? Reading all your stories has made me want to work a lot harder so my list can grow and in a few years I'll be able to look at the actual list and not at the blanks in it. Thanks for all the inspiring stories, you're an amazing group! PS: I'm sorry for my bad English, is not the same translating from it than using it to express feelings and thoughts.  |
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05-04-2007, 08:39 AM
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I'm happy that I'm decent at dutch and english, I never really put my heart into any other languages so I guess thats why I can't remember a single sentence from them. Quote:
I have seen the changes in myself from PD, if I had this 4 years ago I'd live a different life. Don't get me wrong, this one is GREAT and I learned so much. But if I stumbled upon all this earlier than I could've made a big difference in the world already. I was about 4 months ago a average low self esteem wandering helpless through life and in those 4 months I have transformed myself into a kickass high confidence amazing energy guided missile... As everybody else here is saying, you can do it to if you want to...
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05-04-2007, 02:00 PM
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| You asked for it! Just remember, you asked for it! Psycho-cybernetics! Thanks for reminding me of that great book, and taking me back to my early days of self discovery and improvement. That book and and 'The Power of Alpha Thinking' by Alexander Everett were some of my first introductions to a whole new way of thinking, and life, some 30 years ago, roughly when I was twenty. One of my dreams then was to surf forever. One of my first greatest achievements was walking out of the drawing office, from a job that I hated, despite everyone telling me I was mad, that it would be disastrous, that I would lose my superannuation, career, everything. At the time I had also represented the state and country in basketball, and my coaches also went beserk. I remember telling a guy named Andrew Mathews, who ran 'Alpha Dynamics', the first courses I did, and to be honest, I think he was worried too! I (I convinced my wife to come too) moved to the desert of the Great Australian Bight, to a favourite place, Elliston, an isolated town of 200 people, but with some of, in particular one of the most ferocious and best waves in the world. Supposedly no work, no opportunities, no nothing! I got a job managing the caravan and camping park, one of the few places for people to stop in that stretch of coast. I surfed virtually everyday. Paradise! I also learned heaps about self reliance, and caring. I found that it was such a great thing to help campers and caravanners in need, some who were also down on their luck. It taught me that often the most seemingly insignificant, caring action can mean so much to someone, and I liked it. So next thing I was working in the tiny regional hospital. I found how good at caring I was, especially with elderly, disabled, and kids. I loved it, no that's not exactly true, the mopping, scrubbing and cleaning ************ bit never really grabbed me. More I loved seeing their happiness. I taught the local kids how to play basketball, and anyone that was interested about training, weight training, as I had moved my own gym over there (much to their astonishment). So I had it made, beautiful wife, magnificent, raw, wild place to live, surfing my brains out, rewarding job... yet something not quite right. From that tiny little remote town I made expeditions around the country to attend personal development courses and seminars and to travel the globe surfing. What a life. At one seminar by Alexander Everett, he mentioned Sai Baba. Next thing I was in India, involved in and witnessing ridiculously mind bending, amazing miracles and had several interviews with Sai Baba. I returned over the moon, straight into a divorce, as my wife was having an affair. Things were, putting it mildly, stressful and radical. I literally became the town entertainment, particularly as I always championed positive thinking, LOA, spiritualism, visualising and so on. But I believe, and deep down, I knew something amazing would happen. A disastrous accident (fell of a two story roof onto the concrete) at work left me smashed. For a while it looked as if I would be paralysed, and one hand was badly smashed up, supposedly beyond repair. After surgery, things looked a bit grim. But suddenly I wasn't paralysed, and the relief and joy propelled me into my recovery, self rehab mission. I was also made to attend rehab sessions in a town several hundred kilometres away, by the Government, in order to get work insurance. 'Who is that gorgeous, angel-like massuese'! She eventually became my wife, who I love more everyday. So I made a total recovery, my 'finished' hand stronger than ever. My new partner and I had amazingly similar beliefs and dreams, and we lived in Western Australia, more surf! Always surf, I love it. I looked for work and 'discovered' just how good I was at helping severely disabled people, and how precious life is, how lucky the average person is. But I had to get back to Elliston... that wave. That wave. One of my greatest achievments is that I have sat alone, in the wildest, but purest ocean in the world. I've sat there in awe, watching the most magnificent sunrises and sunsets. I've shared the ocean with sharks, whales, huge rays, dolphins, seals. Played with baby dolphins and seals the size and nature of puppies, all the while their mothers desperately trying to control their fearlessness and inquisitiveness. The most awesome thing was just that situation, with big fur seals, and kaboom! A huge male exploded out of the water, and stuck his massive head in my face, grunting, hissing, snarling, full on gesturing, giant canines bared, inches from my face, his stinking breath all over me. I thank my beliefs, my learning to be in touch, as even though I was shitting myself, I instinctively knew to act like a submissive dog, to bow down and look away, and after a while he slowly backed off. Talk about feeling alive! From that little town I got my University Degree majoring in Indigenous Studies. I got on the Dean's Honour Roll and finished in the top 10% of all the Universities students. I got a Diploma in Professional Counselling, one in Disability Studies, and relunctantly had to move for a while, to get several Personal Training qualifications, including the highest available in this country. We moved to the luxurious east coast of Australia, Byron Bay area, where I resumed work as, and set up a Personal Training business (giving me heaps of time to surf). I have amazing photos, and written evidence and thanks of my results, and feel awesome that I have changed peoples lives. We lived on the beach in a mansion...still something not quite right. Throughout all this moving around, I unwittingly at first, was amassing quite a deal of assets, as I always miraculously found these amazing, bargain priced dream homes, selling for a profit. A few years ago, we both got homesick, and as we had two beautiful boys moved back to my wifes home town, back to that surf, that wave. I live on the beach, (my back yard touches the water) in a dream house...something not quite right. So here's my biggest achievment, my monument to personal development, spiritualism, LOA whatever you want to name it. I suffered horrendous physical, emotional, mental and sexual abuse, for 17 years, my whole childhood and adolescence. This will seem too unbelievable to most. but it's the truth. My mother was like something out of a phsycho movie, my father was terrified of her. My hero, my main junior basketball coach was a paedophile, and sexually abused me between ages 13 -15. I was Dux of my school, and until much later never understood why I just dropped out, took any job I could get. Finally, almost unbelievably, my first boss was a paedophile too, and when I 'cracked' and reported him, I was demoted and thrown into a dead end section. I was totally alone, had no support, could tell no one. I ran amock. I came close to jail, to suicide, to being a drug addict, an alchoholic, a bikie. My weight training was a godsend, and a in some ways a curse. I decided to get so big, so strong, so bad beyond bad, that no one would ever, ever hurt me, or cross me again. I slept with endless women, dumping them one after another. I was on a radical path to destruction. Because I still had dreams of basketball, I became interested in and had success in visualisation and 'mind control', as it was sweeping the sporting world. However this triggered a spiritual part of me, and I found I had to, was compelled to change. I love to think about and enjoy the manifestations I have created, and the people I've helped. Not that long ago I began to understand, and deal with the anger that still surfaced inexplicably, and the 'somethings not right feelings'. I learned about child abuse, sexual abuse, and the damage trail, the unbelievably high rate of addictions, suicides, breakdowns, depressions and so on, even with support, family, counselling, whatever. And I revel in the fact that I made it, by myself, my-self , my Spirit. I revel in the amazement of the counsellors and social workers, and I am both proud and humble. I thank God, Spirit, whatever, that I discovered the power to choose to change, to learn about and trust yourself. Another of my greatest achievments is my family, and my two beautiful boys, who are thriving, beaming, revelling in a life free from abuse. Safe! Finally, (anyone still awake, remember you asked for it), being abused so radically gave me a gift of empathy, of understanding... no, actually feeling, others who are abused. So I have to say to anyone reading this, think about Indigenous Peoples. People react so powerfully to single horrendous acts like 911. They understand the victims suffering, their own fear, grief and loss, from one act. Yet they have minimal or no compassion for Indigenous Peoples. Everytime we celibrate 'our forefathers founding our great countries' we actually celibrate the years and years and years, and countless, countless acts of rape, gang rape, butchered children, women, men, treachery, murder, brutality, abuse, thievery, splattered families and cultures, on a horrific scale. Mindlessly beating our chests, and think nothing of it. Imagine the 911 victims being forced to witness celibrations of 911 day, Bali Bombing day, etc, and being told to get over it, and get on with it. Make the most of it. 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05-04-2007, 03:13 PM
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If you ask me, I say that you are interacting with successful people; just that you don't realise it! You yourself have admitted that Shamou's success story is something to be proud of, and it has somehow rubbed off on you. What I'm saying is this - continue in this forum - virtually interact with all through words and visualise what they comment (of course those who are successful; and discard those negatives), and absorb all the successes that these wonderful people here share. See yourself in your mind's eye, similarly experiencing those same successes that you've been dreaming about, and say to yourself, "if they can do it, I can and will too!" And repeat it, and believe it, and pretty soon you will find that you would! If you believe in yourself you can, YOU CAN!! By the way, see what positive effects you have had on your children... you've rubbed off on them the sense of empathy and so they have also shown others the empathy. You are their role model and they see you as their hero! So continue to be one to them! You're a success in your own sense! Congrats! You can, because you have it within you... you just gotta locate where within you that you have hidden your successes! ------------------ Kayceezharold The World Thru Kayceez Eyes Earn As You Learn |
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05-04-2007, 04:18 PM
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