Exciting unknown or practical safe security?

[boogiemonsta]

Hello everyone,

I have been lurking on this forum and others along the same topic lines since I was 16. Ever since I transfered to a new school and this pretty girl would always pay compliments to my bright red skater shoes when we crossed paths. Then one day I finally summoned the courage to ask her for her phone number and she said yes! Then I turned into the mens bathroom to take a whiz and my hands where shaking uncontrollably, I couldnt pee straight and the guy in the urinator stall next to me started starring at me funny. So I was seeing this girl for a couple weeks or a month then I spotted her making out with someboyd else after school and I was crushed! So I started googling right when I got home to figure out what the hell was wrong with me!

So here I am turning 25 soon in a few months and I'm at some crossroads where I have to make a decision that I feel could drastically change the course of my life. It came up about 3 days ago when I applied for a job within my company in Dubai, Saudia Arabia. I instantly got an email back right away asking me to get permission from my district manager before he can throw an offer at me and give me more details, pay, schedule, etc. So I told my supervisor and he emailed the district supervisor.

Now where I sit now is I work a 2 week on 2 week off rotating schedule in a remote location in the U.S. I've been here for 5 years and I have grown jaded, stagnant, unhappy for a while now being as I have been over looked and given the run around on being promoted for the last year. So that is why I applied for this job in Dubai. From what I understand, not conclusive yet however is that in Dubai my pay will be around the same maybe more but really attracts me is the 1 month on and 1 month rotational schedule that it will most likely offer.

Because I love to travel! Japan mostly. Nothing comes close to the amount of happiness and appreciation I feel for being alive over there eating all the wonderful food, sightseeing, drinking, playing ping pong, and chasing all the pretty girls while practicing my Japanese. I just got an apartment over there with my friend. I'll pretty much be renting the sofa in the living room so I can spend all my time over there. Because of my job I rack up tons of miles to burn through for free tickets at Tokyo. Its just that when I come back here I'm always super bummed and thinking why cant my life be like it is when I'm in japan ALL the time. So that is what drives me to read here and explore other areas of making income that would allow me to live this lifestlye and one day be able to support a family in Japan with 5 little adorable halfbreed children.

Now I have been told that I'm in next in line to get promoted if I stay here. And if I do that my job will be enjoyable again. Time will go by 10x faster cuz I have to focus 10x harder with a lot more responsibility. I will begin to grow immensly again. The pay isnt significantly any more. My original plan was to stay here until I get promoted get the experience and transfer overseas later. If I go overseas now it will be the same job but in a completly different field with big learning curve to tackle. The job overseas is only a given for 6 months and depending how good we do we might get longer contract. I figured if I worked my ass off and impressed maybe they will keep me around doing something else.

So security wise I'm safer to stay where I am. My brother says he would stay but its my life. My Dad always tells me to do what I feel. But I have learned that I'm a very impulsive person that just jumps into things. So I just wanted to get some advice from this board full of all the wonderful people who are going after their dreams.

Its just that I get so psyched thinking about working in a foreign country which where I could be positioned could be a dump however. But the 30 days off I would be stationed right in the middle of all the countries I want to see. I could go to Thailand and rent an apartment with access to a Muay Thai lessons and train to beat my older brothers ass. And I can walk across the length of Japan or other parts of the world like all the cool people I've been reading about just recently and If I wonder if it means anything like I'm being steered in this direction?

Or if I go the practible route I will stay here and get promoted, gain more experience and transfer later like my brother and some employees I respect said. If worse comes to worse and I'm jobless I could start walking across Japan living off my Savings then on over to Thailand for cheap rent and learn Muay Thai, then continue on walking until I run out of money or pickup odd jobs here and there and see the world. I could always come back to the states and start from scratch with another contract company in my field I suppose?

Thank you!

[Rauros Falls]

I don't know what to tell you man... I'm also a pretty impulsive person so I'm not sure I can help you out much. Reading your post, you seem pretty excited about all the things you can do if you take the overseas job.

But then again, I moved out of my parent's house this year to live with a couple of roommates and that turned out into a disaster so it can go both ways.

I wish you best of luck. sorry I couldn't be of more help.

[Mynder]

Twenty years from now, looking back, which would be the greater regret?

Usually it's things like "I wish I'd hit on this or that girl/guy", "I wish I had dared take more risks", "I wish I had traveled more when I was younger", etc.

Okay, those who jumped and got burned will say "I wish I'd taken that cushy job, I'd not be in the ♥♥♥♥♥♥ place I am in now if I had". It happens, too.

[badbunny]

I am a true believer in what will be will be, push the door, if it's meant for you it will happen, if not it will fail. From every failure comes new insight so its a win win as far as I can see.

[Rauros Falls]

You might find this article helpful. It may not always be right, but it might produce some new insight.

The Death Bed Test Essays Pete Michaud

[SimpleSky]

I think it's true that you don't want to live a life of regrets, so you shouldn't miss an opportunity that could be great for you. I also think that making a decision like this requires a lot of time to sit and think through. Do you know all about the living conditions and how people are like over there? What will you be leaving behind? Is there anything you will miss greatly that may prevent you from being happy over there? Are you able to be flexible if things turn out to be different then how you expect? What would the worst case-scenerio be? These are things to consider.

[boogiemonsta]

Thank you for the Death Bed Test. That helped me view my choices from different angles.

I'm anticipating an email at any moment with more details pertaining to the job overseas so I can better answer the questions you all propose I ask myself. It's just coming down to the knats ass here on time because the position I would be promoted to here might need to be filled very soon.

It has been taking a lot of time to sit and think through. I'm definantly inside my head all day. Thank you all.

[Mynder]

Step outside. Take a walk. Look around. How much will you miss what you see when you're overseas?

If the stuff overseas gets to be your everyday environment, it will probably lose much of its novelty and luster. How does it stack up against what you have here now?

All other factors apart, how do you feel when thinking about your job promotion at home, and how do you feel about the job overseas?

The perfect place for growth is often bordering on fear. When you're "almost too afraid to jump", but do it anyway, that usually is when you learn and grow the most.

Also, what do you REALLY lose if you dare move overseas? You can always fly back home, so what do you lose? A promotion? A job? Your life?

[MyEyeIsOpen]

Hah, I was going to come in here and link to the death bed test post, but I didn't want to be TOO self promotional. I do think it's relevant though.

But hey, while we're at it, you should read about how one of the top regrets people in their old age have is not taking risks.

[NewSimon]

Did someone mention death and dying? I like this article:
Regrets of the Dying