No purpose, no passion - What to do ?

[Fuujin]

Hey,
Since I have posted, nothing much changed. I am still bored to tears when I'm trying to write again. I have no passion for anything last 3 months, most of the time I'm sitting in front of pc reading some stuff, playing games or listening to music. I tried making music with fruity loops, dancing again, excercising, but nothing is fun for me anymore. I just have no motivation for anything.
I know it's not about the destination, but about the journey, but I don't feel anything about the journey, not about the destination either.
Anybody lived through this, some advice ?

[Mounds]

I've had periods of my life where I felt similarly. Where everything is more-less boring. IMO, it's that life has lost it's excitement. It makes sense if your consistently doing the same things.
What worked for me was raising the stakes. Take your vanilla interests and put them aside for a while. Do a whole bunch of things that excite you, even if that excitement is in the form of fear. Especially if it's in the form of fear
The thing that got me out my last funk, two years ago, was joining a jiu-jitsu club. That was scary the first day, even the second day. What I did was made a 1-month commitment to decide if I liked it. I ended up falling in love with it and it changed my life. It's since ended up on the back burner and I've moved on other ventures. Jiu-jitsu though was an essential rung in the ladder.
I've got a couple perspectives I use once in a while. One of them is imagining life as an RPG. You have to beat some lower-level challenges to delve into the high-end content. What your doing right now isn't working so now it's time to try something new. Tangent: in an actual RPG, I'm very guilty of trying the same thing over and over and over to no avail.
Another awesome one is being a "Yes Man" (yes woman?). Say yes to everything and see where you end up.
My personal favourite though is the "ping-pong" perspective. Bounce around and try a whole bunch of different things in a short period of time. Be prepared for some fast change if you take this route.
Keep posting on this thread, I want to hear how you break out of your rut. Good learning experience for us other ping-pong balls

-Tim

[LifeFirst]

I think it's best that you should try something for 30 days. Even if it's video games, a TV show, a language...something that can get your blood flowing. For me it's comic books, Japanese, basketball, reading....you know just simple things, they don't have to be out there like rock climbing or anything. Just enjoy the simple things in Life.

[Brenden Cameron]

Originally Posted by Fuujin

I know it's not about the destination...

Well... that's not entirely true... the destination (in this case, your life purpose) is the compass by which you steer.

Did you have a destination in mind? Something you wanted to achieve?

Yes/No?

Now, if you answered yes to that one... then I ask:

Have you really, and I mean really thrown yourself into it? Have you committed yourself 110%, announced the goal to everyone you've met, and blocked out all distractions?

Even if you've got an exciting goal which is perfectly aligned with your talents, you'll still stagnate and feel bored with it if you aren't constantly moving forward with it.


Are you sure there's nothing in life that excites you? What do you think you'd enjoy doing if there was nothing stopping you?

[PerDev]

Originally Posted by Fuujin

Hey,
Since I have posted, nothing much changed. I am still bored to tears when I'm trying to write again. I have no passion for anything last 3 months, most of the time I'm sitting in front of pc reading some stuff, playing games or listening to music. I tried making music with fruity loops, dancing again, excercising, but nothing is fun for me anymore. I just have no motivation for anything.
I know it's not about the destination, but about the journey, but I don't feel anything about the journey, not about the destination either.
Anybody lived through this, some advice ?

Perceptions are not just passive observer but they are active creator.
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[escapeplan]

Originally Posted by Fuujin

Hey,
Since I have posted, nothing much changed. I am still bored to tears when I'm trying to write again. I have no passion for anything last 3 months, most of the time I'm sitting in front of pc reading some stuff, playing games or listening to music. I tried making music with fruity loops, dancing again, excercising, but nothing is fun for me anymore. I just have no motivation for anything.
I know it's not about the destination, but about the journey, but I don't feel anything about the journey, not about the destination either.
Anybody lived through this, some advice ?

If you haven't already done so, re-read the post Mounds made. He doesn't mention passion and purpose and I believe he has correctly identified the problem. Also he has suggested a few options which are well worth trying- if you are serious about sorting this, then do try them. Simply things like the yes- man approach do really work at chopping your life around, and to an extent it takes the responsibility off deciding what to do off of you for a while- you just agree!

[xfactor]

Originally Posted by Fuujin

Anybody lived through this, some advice ?

I lived through this. I think you don't want to do all those things because you realized that they were imposed on you. They aren't really "your" choice but rather the choice of your environment. What would you really like to do with your life? Answer that, and I'm sure the passion will return.

[fellow traveler]

Fuujin -
You have to get out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. .... Mounds has an interesting suggestion for you. ... You just have to 'go for it'.

There are myriad opportunities out there for you to explore and stretch yourself. You just have to feel a direction that clicks with you and push yourself to do it.

[Lifeisamazing]

Originally Posted by xfactor

I lived through this. I think you don't want to do all those things because you realized that they were imposed on you. They aren't really "your" choice but rather the choice of your environment. What would you really like to do with your life? Answer that, and I'm sure the passion will return.

Exactly. In school, I didn't enjoy writing essays. After I finished school, I started loving writing essays, articles, stories, reviews. At school, I absolutely hated to sing and listen to classical music, now I do that very frequently. There are loads of other things like this. The fact is, some people don't like to be bossed around. Some people like to make their own decisions, learn what they think is right, not what someone else thinks is good for us.

[xfactor]

Originally Posted by Lifeisamazing

Some people like to make their own decisions, learn what they think is right, not what someone else thinks is good for us.

Alas, that is exactly what society is doing to us these days.

[Shariku Onikage]

Is it too foolish to post the How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes article in the possibility you've never seen it before?

Maybe it's time for some more impulsive actions. Take a dance class and throw yourself in full force. Start a martial art and refuse to ever grade. Take night classes in both art and physics. Attend a Fresher's fair (regardless of your age(the Fresher's weeks are this month mostly). Go to quiet bars and start making conversations with people until they walk away from you and then view that as a success. Start a part time business and give whatever you have to offer, even if it's just something like cleaning services.

And i'm not saying just pick one of these and try it. I'm saying pick ALL of them and keep doing them until you find passion burning within you.

The spark is there, boy. Your fire only goes out when you're gone.

[Lifeisamazing]

Originally Posted by Shariku Onikage

Is it too foolish to post the How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes article in the possibility you've never seen it before?

Maybe it's time for some more impulsive actions. Take a dance class and throw yourself in full force. Start a martial art and refuse to ever grade. Take night classes in both art and physics. Attend a Fresher's fair (regardless of your age(the Fresher's weeks are this month mostly). Go to quiet bars and start making conversations with people until they walk away from you and then view that as a success. Start a part time business and give whatever you have to offer, even if it's just something like cleaning services.

And i'm not saying just pick one of these and try it. I'm saying pick ALL of them and keep doing them until you find passion burning within you.

The spark is there, boy. Your fire only goes out when you're gone.

Great stuff! If you can't find it from your inside, you have to explore. It's really that simple.

[Caria]

Everyone has great ideas... I mostly think that you need to find out, what made you feel so empty before approach anything...

YOu won't really believe that a couple of years ago, i felt the same.. i had to control my mind, because i was thinking of things that made me sad. I was useless... I was just watching movies and just never went to classes... and i even landed up in the hospital for it!

I then approach my life differently.. I found out what made me sad, and then i just thought about myself and beening selfish... I controlled my mind, i stayed positive... i set myself goals everyday... When i was so useless, i couldn't even think ahead, i had to take my day step by step every 5 mins...

Today i can talk about it, and i my job is to give people advice, and make their mind focus on the positive side, aswell as to be healthy, and making success in their lives...