How to overcome child-like embarassment?

[alchem]

Hi, people!
Here I would like to discuss a question: how to overcome excessive child-like embarrassment after you've done or said something in the wrong way?

I'll tell you what happened today. I've had a lot of work to do in too little time, and there was another urgent phone call I had to make which made me very upset and angry. So, I began to make this call while talking to my friend, and explained my attitude to the number owner by some angry words like "she's never there when someone needs her so much, f***!" And it seemed that she heard some of these words So, this event made me feel embarrassed and ashamed all the day long, like I felt in my childhood. In terms of personal growth, how can I get rid of this habit that brings me down so much? For I understand that I couldn't help after it had happened, and also, there was no serious damage. By the way, all the rest of our talk passed well

[The Cloud]

Originally Posted by alchem

In terms of personal growth, how can I get rid of this habit that brings me down so much? For I understand that I couldn't help after it had happened, and also, there was no serious damage.

Perhaps you feel embarrassed because you feel as if the same situation could arise again. It's not the embarrassment you have to deal with, but the issue that caused you to act out of control. Do you want to continue to be angry at people in the way that you were in the OP?

[Lioness]

Originally Posted by alchem

..this event made me feel embarrassed and ashamed all the day long, like I felt in my childhood. In terms of personal growth, how can I get rid of this habit that brings me down so much?

1. Sometimes, the person who overhears a criticism actually benefits from it. The woman you called may need to be aware that she is unavailable too much. Once I mumbled under my breath to a friend that a rude receptionist was "really pleasant, isn't she?" (sarcastically.) She heard me and immediately became more polite.

2. There's a line from "The Terminator" after Sarah Connor screws-up on her waitressing job and her co-worker says "Think of it this way. In five years, who's gonna care?" It's really more like 5 minutes that the worst faux-pas is forgotten and replaced by the next thing happening. Don't sweat it.

[Kornel]

Alchem,

When you run out of time you have to prepare your next moves
and make sure to double check the work you have just done so
you will make no mistakes will allow you to be fast and effective.

Being fast and effective takes preparation.

Figure of speech:

Your job is the CREEK (little water running, gets your shoes wet)
The phone call is the BRIDGE made of stones you put in the CREEK
The person on the phone is a VILLAGE the other side of the CREEK

Look at the lines above how important the CREEK is? You got angry
because your shoes got wet (you didn't build BRIDGE to the VILLAGE).
Now, your next phone call tomorrow will be better because you can
skip building a BRIDGE, you already prepared one today.

Practical advice:

Before the phone call, walk up to the open window
and breath in some fresh air. The people you ring on
will appreciate the refreshing tone in your voice from it.

[BulletsAndDoves]

You don't overcome a problem, there's nothing inside of you that you need to fix.

Your first step is to love your childlike innocence and naivete. In fact, being spiritual is all about realigning back to the newness and mysticalness of it all. the first **** that you sucked that you really liked ,the first time you experienced pleasure, when your perceptions weren't dulled by your mind... all that stuff.

You don't want to get rid of your childlike spirit. You want to become more like it! Getting hurt is beautiful and sexy. It's like why you're human. You want to feel embarrassed, and not let it stop you! It's not the feeling that's the problem, it's that you're negatively judging yourself that you 'can't feel bad.' No! Emotions work by you feeling them and not analyzing them.

Feel embarrassed more! HURT more.... if you always want to stay high you're bound to stay low! And neutral and depressed. Hurt. Feel the hurt and the pain and then the upliftment that comes from when you genuinely need a boost. Just go with the flow.

Pain is love and strength, and the release of happiness. That's why girls are into guys who treat them like **** and then are nice to them!!!

[russianrocket]

Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves

You don't overcome a problem, there's nothing inside of you that you need to fix.

Your first step is to love your childlike innocence and naivete. In fact, being spiritual is all about realigning back to the newness and mysticalness of it all. the first **** that you sucked that you really liked ,the first time you experienced pleasure, when your perceptions weren't dulled by your mind... all that stuff.

You don't want to get rid of your childlike spirit. You want to become more like it! Getting hurt is beautiful and sexy. It's like why you're human. You want to feel embarrassed, and not let it stop you! It's not the feeling that's the problem, it's that you're negatively judging yourself that you 'can't feel bad.' No! Emotions work by you feeling them and not analyzing them.

Feel embarrassed more! HURT more.... if you always want to stay high you're bound to stay low! And neutral and depressed. Hurt. Feel the hurt and the pain and then the upliftment that comes from when you genuinely need a boost. Just go with the flow.

Pain is love and strength, and the release of happiness. That's why girls are into guys who treat them like **** and then are nice to them!!!

Not really. Emotions are there to use as a tool. The only reason we feel anything but happiness, is because there is some deep memory, belief, or feeling that caused you to feel that way. Instead of just allowing yourself to be sad, figure out WHY you are sad. You shouldn't just stop being sad tho, as you need that feeling. It's not about getting rid of emotions, but about using them for the betterment of yourself. There is a reason she feels embarrassed. There is some belief from her past that has caused her to feel that way. A CHILD is not embarrassed, until someone gives it a set of beliefs telling it that it should be embarrassed. You ever seen a child blush at being naked? NO. The second someone tells the child that they should be modest about their body, THEN they feel embarrassment. We are not born with any emotion but love, happiness, and joy. Anything else was put into our minds by the outside world, because it was put into their minds by the outside world, and they feel the need to have everyone feel the same way. Anything but positive emotions come from the mind, and not the soul, there for all negative emotions are created.

There is absolutely no reason that a person can not stay high. Yet another self limiting belief that you have in YOUR mind, that you feel you need to share with everyone else. Just because you haven't been able to do it YET, doesn't mean that she can't, won't, or shouldn't. She can stay as high for as long as she wants. The only thing that could EVER bring her down is a BELIEF that something can bring her down. It's not about wanting to stay high, it's about knowing that being high is the most natural way for a person to be, and anything else is unnatural, in the sense that it was put into us.