Need help creating an affirmation

[Trilvester]

I've noticed I tend to not do certain things or feel weird sometimes when I want to do something that other people won't approve of. I want to do whatever I feel like doing without needing anyone's approval. I used the affirmation
I don't need anyone's approval, for anything
for a while but I'm wondering if the subconcious is getting the wrong message because it just see's the "need approval" part and not the other parts.
Anyone have any ideas on how to create the perfect affirmation for my issue?

[Hulbert Lee]

Yes, don't use the words "need approval" or your mind will start to think you need approval from other people. Maybe you can use something like "I am independent and capable of making my own decisions" and repeat that every time you want to do something that you want to do. Keep repeating that and eventually your subconscious will get the message. You'll start noticing yourself becoming more independent and start making your own decisions. But make sure you don't just say the phrase though; actually see it in your mind and feel it.

[Trilvester]

That's a good one. I was thinking of another one too. How about "When I feel like doing something, I do it"

[ManOfPurpose]

You need to make sure it's personal ('I am..') positive (no negative words, because the subconscious can't associate with them) and present (saying it as if you already have it).

The other two are really good. I was thinking-

'I only need approval from myself to do anything.'

[Tanja]

How about just ''I have the courage to do whatever I want to. And it's so easy and fun!!''

[davidchung]

Here's a little article by John Kehoe about the formulation and use of affirmations I think you will find very useful:

Using Mind Power - Affirmations - Learn Mind Power With John Kehoe - Create Success In Life

Definitely don't put anything in there about approval. When you really are in a state of mind where you don't need anybody's approval to do what you want, the word 'approval' probably won't even cross your mind.

I would go with something like "I do whatever I want, whenever I want." Of course if that works too well you may find yourself running red lights because you feel like it, so maybe you could formulate that a little better

[Trilvester]

What about using the word "disapprove" in their? Maybe something like "Its okay for people to disapprove what I say and do."

[davidchung]

I don't know....that affirmation sounds like you are working under the assumption that people already do not approve of what you say and do. And if you're a believer of LOA, you say that enough times and you just may attract a lot of people who disapprove of you into your life.

What I feel you should be trying to change is your own beliefs about other people's approval having anything to do with what you can and cannot do. Affirmations like "I'm free to be myself", or "I'm proud to be me" or something along those lines should work better.

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by Trilvester

What about using the word "disapprove" in their? Maybe something like "Its okay for people to disapprove what I say and do."

Why use words approve/disapprove at all?

Originally Posted by davidchung

. And if you're a believer of LOA, you say that enough times and you just may attract a lot of people who disapprove of you into your life.

I agree with this.
How about focusing on what you want and not on what you don' want?

If you say "Its okay for people to disapprove what I say and do." it just says it's okay for them to do so but it doesn't say how you'd deal with it or be affected by it, if you know what I mean

[dulaney0330]

Originally Posted by Trilvester

That's a good one. I was thinking of another one too. How about "When I feel like doing something, I do it"

i'm guessing your not married

[IamAlsoThat]

I am confident, decisive and bold.
I walk my own path.
I am the decider.
I am powerful.
I do what I want!!!

[IamAlsoThat]

Actually I just decided affirmations are not the best strategy to affect such things.

I think you are much better off applying Steve's method for eliminating negative thought patterns--or a variation of that.

Visualize people telling you what are doing is unapproved in an extremely exagerrated manner. For instance, see yourself-- you are buying icecream and the people behind you in the line all gasp when you ordered "vanilla" They look at you with the most disgusted ugly faces and come out with pitchforks and torches. And they all chant loser loser loser. You begin to cry and wail.

Now begin to visualize the exact opposite beginning to take place. You smile slightly-- a knowing smile of nonchallance and people begin to look at you confused. Then they are all of a sudden moved by your display of nonchallance and actually get on their knees and bow to you they offer you gifts and flowers and chant you're the man you're the man you're the best

[chineerat]

1) Picture in your mind what the successful end result will be like. How it feels, smells, looks and tastes.
2) Do not use the words: not , no , without or prefixes like non or un. More importantly do not include the verb or noun you are avoiding in your affirmation
for examples instead of saying:
I would not like to receive anymore bills in my mail
alternative
I would like to increase my cash flow.
3) picture yourself in this state (lucid dreaming) and your mind will come up with solutions to your statement.

[Karanime]

"It's about me."

Affirmations are beautiful, but you know you can extend them, right?

Go for some individualist reading material. As an Ayn Rand fan, I have to recommend her. After reading both The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged, I've cared a lot less about what people think of me.

Think of it another way. In the scope of time and space, what really matters? Not their approval. Not "success" in a society that will eventually die off anyway. No matter what legacy we attempt to leave, it will be wiped away.

So what matters? Your happiness. What YOU want. That's the only thing that CAN matter, in our short, meaningless lives.

If that's depressing, ignore that half of this post, lmao.

/<3