Quit university after two years?

[Peter Toth]

Hi really quick:

1. After high school I got great job as a programmer, but my family probably won't ,,survive" If I don't go on university . So I find some easy looking field of study which has something to do with computers. I found one which doesn't take me much time. From start me and all other students studying this field new that this field of study wasn't good quality, but it cost nothing and I was relatively easy. Anyway most of stayed because of our families/employers/society rules, which are not good reasons in my opinion.

After almost two years I quit job as programmer because I felt that computers are not for me and my real passion is Personal Development. I still go to school, but now I feel is totally pointless for me to spend my energy and time because:

1. It is not aligned with identity I want to have. When I tell people what I study they mark me as programmer/computer guys and I have to explain them that I am not into this no more.

2. I want to help people make more conscious choices and part of it is choosing right kind of study. Study school which brings me no useful knowledge at all and study only to satisfy family, doesn't feels to me like the right choice.

3. It doesn't help with helping people at all.


My parents and family have the vision that I will find job and some employers still look at what kind of school you have. Plus people in general look at what school do you have in their opinion. There are few this kind of people BUT I don't want to have job, I want to help people make more conscious choice, I don't want to spend with people which look at what I studied and not what I really know. I want to study NLP, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy and I want to learn it from the best people of world. I don't need school to help people I need knownledge/practice/experience and few other qualities of course to help people but in my area schools doesn't bring this qualities.

Only reason I am still in school is because of my family.

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by Peter Toth

Study school which brings me no useful knowledge at all and
I don't need school to help people I need knownledge/practice/experience and few other qualities of course to help people but in my area schools doesn't bring this qualities.

I agree that formal education (university) is not the only way of learning something and it doesn't necessarily mean people graduating from it know how to put theory into practice. But what it comes down to is your own personal choice, what you do with any kind of knowledge and how you make use of it. No knowledge is ever useless

Originally Posted by Peter Toth

study only to satisfy family, doesn't feels to me like the right choice.

I agree.

Originally Posted by Peter Toth

I want to study NLP, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy and I want to learn it from the best people of world.

How do you plan to do that? Have you already done some research about what courses you'd like to take and where ? How would you pay for it?

Originally Posted by Peter Toth

Only reason I am still in school is because of my family.

What would happen if you left school? If you showed them you were serious about what you want to do, they would have to find a way to eventually accept it.

[JMonkey]

I don't know much about the educational system over in USA, but here in the UK you will find more and more people who went to university but found that it hadn't benefited them in their line of work. There are many exceptions to this of course, but I believe these days employers are equally likely to employee someone with high school qualifications, and experience as someone fresh out of university.

And of course one of the key teachings in personal development is that to truely make a decent living you should be doing what you want to do. It seems quite obvious really, who really wants to work hard in a job they don't like?

In your position perhaps you should be grateful you realised higher education isn't what you want to do, to know sooner rather than later, even if a day, is still better than finding out a day later. Take some time to work out what you truly wish to do, you'll find a way to make it work if you really want it to.

My advice is don't bother following a path you know doesn't suit you, it may seem selfish but then...a happier person is better equipped to help others.

Best of luck.

[Peter Toth]

Thank you guys for answers, I don't think there is anything else to say I just want to respond to your posts.

Tanja
No knowledge is ever useless

True, so true.

How do you plan to do that? Have you already done some research about what courses you'd like to take and where ? How would you pay for it?

1. Yeap I am already in contact with principal of NLP/Hypnosis/TLT school in UK + I have plan where to go study then.

I got job as salesman which helps me understand people, their needs, behaviour and it helps me build compassion

What would happen if you left school? If you showed them you were serious about what you want to do, they would have to find a way to eventually accept it.

I will probably have this ,,talks" from my mom, dad and rest of family. They will try to change my opinion and even later my mom will throw me quiting school in front of face as I know her. But yeah I will probably survive that

Thank you again

[Peter Toth]

Originally Posted by JMonkey

I don't know much about the educational system over in USA, but here in the UK you will find more and more people who went to university but found that it hadn't benefited them in their line of work. There are many exceptions to this of course, but I believe these days employers are equally likely to employee someone with high school qualifications, and experience as someone fresh out of university.

And of course one of the key teachings in personal development is that to truely make a decent living you should be doing what you want to do. It seems quite obvious really, who really wants to work hard in a job they don't like?

In your position perhaps you should be grateful you realised higher education isn't what you want to do, to know sooner rather than later, even if a day, is still better than finding out a day later. Take some time to work out what you truly wish to do, you'll find a way to make it work if you really want it to.

My advice is don't bother following a path you know doesn't suit you, it may seem selfish but then...a happier person is better equipped to help others.

Best of luck.

Thank you for your kind words and your opinion

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by Peter Toth

Thank you again

Good luck then and just be persistent!!

[Brutha]

What do you study at the moment?

[Peter Toth]

Originally Posted by Brutha

What do you study at the moment?

I would translate it as Computer science in industury.

It is new, it was open when I applied to school, so me and my classmates are first which are studying this. We got subject from all of industry like electroenergetics, cars, little programing(1 semester of C), etc.

Basicly they are trying to learn us little from everything but in the end we don't know anything good. Another problem is that this field of study wasn't prepared, it is changing while we are studying. This means that we got subject for example where we need to understand electronic but we didn't have electronic in first place.

Anyway even if I wanted to continue as programmer( I was doing web applications, especially Java, Ruby on Rails and PHP a little) this study of field will not help me at all.