This might be borderline disorder

[themaster]

You are a good person..

cut yourself some slack..

[Brutha]

all replies are appreciated and more are always wanted.

You are welcome.

I didn't read that I was supposed to find only 3. Sorry.

You completed level 2.
You only needed to find 3 but you find 6. That's a success! Overachievement.
Nothing to be sorry about.

but these things are all normal things in everyone's life so I don't know if they would be considered as good things in my life.

The question isn't whether I consider them to be good things in my life but whether you consider them to be good things in your life.

It's no coincidence that the first thing you wrote in your list got bigger with every line you wrote. Recognising good things in your life is a skill.
It's like muscles, at the moment your skill of finding good things in your life is weak.
People who have poor finding-good-things-muscles have no ambition in there life.
That's just the way our neurons are wired. If you recognise good things in your life neurons in your brain release the neurotransmitter dopamine. Without it, there's no way to develop ambition.

In addition as you are getting better and better at recognizing good things in your life, your self confidence grows and you are finding bigger things.

I got the motivation to start working out again.

That's really great, keep us posted about how working out makes you feel better.

Now, here is something important. You have a right to feel miserable and you have a right to feel good and life a life of ambition.
Neither me nor Rei or anyone else in this thread can take your right to feel miserable away from you.
You could try to force another excercise down your throat as level 3, however that's not the thing I want to do at the moment.

So here's level 3 - The matrix question:
Make a decision about whether you want to continue to develop your finding-good-things-muscles and be happy or whether you want to continue to focus on misery.
It's your choice, with road do you want to take?

[improver]

Originally Posted by vartann

you are 19 and you have a romantic view of the world
reality will catch up with you and make you bite the dust
but if you don t give up you'll come through with the Prize: being the God you already are within

what do you mean by romantic view of the world?

[improver]

Originally Posted by Brutha

You are welcome.
You completed level 2.
You only needed to find 3 but you find 6. That's a success! Overachievement.
Nothing to be sorry about.
The question isn't whether I consider them to be good things in my life but whether you consider them to be good things in your life.

It's no coincidence that the first thing you wrote in your list got bigger with every line you wrote. Recognising good things in your life is a skill.
It's like muscles, at the moment your skill of finding good things in your life is weak.
People who have poor finding-good-things-muscles have no ambition in there life.
That's just the way our neurons are wired. If you recognise good things in your life neurons in your brain release the neurotransmitter dopamine. Without it, there's no way to develop ambition.

In addition as you are getting better and better at recognizing good things in your life, your self confidence grows and you are finding bigger things.
That's really great, keep us posted about how working out makes you feel better.

Now, here is something important. You have a right to feel miserable and you have a right to feel good and life a life of ambition.
Neither me nor Rei or anyone else in this thread can take your right to feel miserable away from you.
You could try to force another excercise down your throat as level 3, however that's not the thing I want to do at the moment.

So here's level 3 - The matrix question:
Make a decision about whether you want to continue to develop your finding-good-things-muscles and be happy or whether you want to continue to focus on misery.
It's your choice, with road do you want to take?

Misery is pain, why would I want to focus on it?
I'd rather focus on developing my finding-good-things-muscles and be happy. Who doesn't want to be happy? Trouble/Consequences = Misery and that's what I have, a lot in my life. I wish they all went away.

[Brenden Cameron]

Heh... you know... this is actually kind of funny....

Originally Posted by improver

I'm not sure.. this may sound VERY messed up.

Well... I'm currently 22 years old, I am on my third and final year of college, I have made no real friends while here (none that I'd go out with), and I don't know what I want to be!

Improver.... I've read several of your threads now and I can definitely relate to what you're going though (including that mirror thing...).

To put it simply, you've dug yourself a pit.
I know I've felt that... every year I've spent in college, doing work that didn't truly inspire me, I've just been digging myself a hole.

And let's face it, your dreams and ambitions are like objects on the horizon.... and you can't can't see the horizon when your standing 20 feet below ground level.

All you 'can' see is the dark, storm-wracked clouds above your head (hey! fancy that!)

So... what we both need to do... is start climbing. Take little steps in the right direction (joining this forum is a good one!) and eventually we'll reach a point where our thoughts are no longer mired in doubt, and we can see what we really want.

Indeed, you may actually know what you want deep in your heart, but where you stand now it's hard to be honest with yourself.


Now... one big step that both of us could take is to drop out of college (or at least take 'time off') At least then we wouldn't be digging any deeper.

I am almost through my course now and I have to admit, at this time, I lack the courage necessary to quit. I'm probably going to see it through to the end. And while I most likely will not pursue a career in my field of study, I will have picked up some useful skills that can serve me elsewhere.

The biggest obstacle for you, I imagine, is your family. I've had the good fortune to have parents who never forced me into anything (well okay... maybe piano lessons...). The point is, it is going to be very hard for you to quit your study while the threat of their wrath is looming over you. Further, I doubt you'd feel comfortable "going traveling" or any other such activity without running it by them, right?

And what if you finish school? What if you get into the medical field? Do you think it'll be easier then to say, "I don't want to do this"? At some point, you are going to have to dissociate your desires from theirs. You'll have to take full, utter, total, complete responsibility for your life.

But for now, just keep taking little steps.
Form new habits! Seek new experiences! Get out of your room more often! (that's my worst problem right now... been sitting here all day!)
In the end, just try to find those things that inspire you.
Admit to yourself what you're best possible existence would look like. No matter how strange or fantastic. We'll help you get there!

"You don't have a disorder, but you're not normal either... you're awesome dangit!"
That's what I tell myself!

[Kurtzilla]

Don't worry about it. I know people in their mid 40's, and they still don't know what they want to do and their college educated. Listen to your passions and what excites you and fuels your soul. It will come to you, you just have to listen.