What does it mean "to love"?

[MichaelMaxwell]

I didn't read the whole discussion but back to the original point. I think it's in our best interest to care about others and thats why you should love. Love to me meaning a genuine desire for others to be happy.

I think there is a connectivity between people emotionally. If you constantly engender negative feelings towards people, you will get the same back, and when people have negative feelings towards you they sometimes act on those feelings and do bad things to you. So learn to geniunely wish people well and less bad stuff will happen to you.

Also, as much as you might not like it, we are social animals and need people to be happy. I'm sure you know that on some level, and hey man, I genuinely want you to be happy, so give it a try.

[vartann]

Originally Posted by nin64

Seriously, what does it mean?

just means staking your Life for what feels real, real good
staking, hey, NOT sacrificing

what feels real, real good ?.
you tell me

[Kathe76]

This is my belief and I am simply sharing another point of view. Science says that love is a chemical reaction to another person, kind of like pheramons. (I dont know how to spell that, please forgive me) As I have also learned, love is a common connection of shared interests and beliefs that solidify those chemical reactions, which help to hold your attention focused on the belief that you love someone. (This is relationship based) So take chemical reaction, attention, and belief and you have the idea of love that so many people want. In the end, those expectations usually do not get met because what you are looking for in someone else is biased on how you choose to focus that attention. You could "fall in love" with someone and feel it is forever, but if you were to focus soley on the negative qualities of that person, you would soon fall out of love because of your focus and lack of attention. And the same applies to the positive aspects as well. Now for me, love is free of expectations. i choose to be with someone and choose to love them, choose to share my love with them, to nurture them with love, happiness and so on. But, I also choose to not have expectations on there love in return. I love to love, not to be shown love in return. I also feel that loving someone means allowing them the space to grow and if that means without me, then so be it. I want what is best for the person I am with, and I want them to explore life freely and without judgement. Even if they left me, i would still love them. Children however, are a different situation. I love my kids, they are a part of me. I love me and therefore love them. I also want them to grow, and support that no matter what. I hope as they grow up to teach them as much as I can about life and growth, and then give them the space to expierence as much as they want. I hope that in some way I clarified something for you. Giving you space to grow!!

[joelyle]

true love/charity is an attitude of having no complaint about time/money towards a person/thing. No clock-watching, no account of investment. A desire for another (or ourself) to improve but, at the same time, having a contentment with current situation. Love is independent of situation and action....

[ArthurHung]

Love is a beautiful thing. It is an expression of your being to existence. It is finding in your reality, whatever it may be, of your surroundings, of the people around you, your mind, your eyes, all of that - can you find the beauty?

Love is gratefulness.

Love is growth.

What is love? It is something that cannot be labeled or defined by words. Love is... magical. It is a miracle. It is finding the miracle in every moment, transforming everything into what is beautiful to your very soul. Love is a vibration, a mystery. Love, love, love...

What a beautiful thing, it is deeper than feeling, deeper than thought.

[nin64]

OK, I've been away for like weeks, and what the hell, I never thought this thread would get this far. Seriously.
It seem to me that this thing "love" is actually more complicated than it seem, and some people are actually trying to make it sound more simpler that it really is.
Fine, if you believe I need counseling then that is up you.
I think I got wrong about da Vinci killing people to get accurate human anatomy but Michelangelo seem to be guilty about it.

But, after some time of watching human, I think they are more complicated than they seem. I was foolish to think they can be known just by words or formulas. Oh well.

3 weeks ago, I found a missing cell phone left there one whole night, I guess. I ignored it at first. Other people there noticed the phone but then left it on the ground acting like "it's not mine, so I will not bother with it. Why do I need to tire myself just to get it back to its owner?" They aren't selfish, just perfectly neutral. Welcome to Malaysia.
Me? You guessed it. I picked up the phone and return it back to the owner. Took around 2 hours, because I found no personal data inside the phone, just a list of other people numbers (his friends, I guess). God damn it, I can't believe I took the trouble of contacting his friends one by one to ask where this owner might be.
But, the way that guy said thanks to me is kind of... disturbing. I don't know, maybe I'm not used to doing this kind of thing.

Come to think of it, I should have just dismantle the phone, take any valuable electronic components and throw the rest into the dustbin. That seem more normal...


hmm... what the hell is happening to me? Must be the love energy from this forum creeping into my vein. I'm starting to sound new-agey myself!

Oh, I still don't know much about Jimi... whatever his name. Never listened to his song, old men of this forum :P
Still, to die at the age of 27 is kind of