I want to express my femininity more!

[Angela]

Andrew, would you consider taking an improv class? It might be a fun and freeing way of practicing getting your unconscious barriers out of the way so that you are freely and joyfully self-expressed, yin, yang, and all! Or even a non-improvisational acting workshop, although improv is probably faster.

[Andrew Gubb]

That's a cool idea Angela. I'll keep a look out for something like that...

[brendannz]

Hey Andrew,

I'm watching an Alex Grey DVD "Art Mind" at the moment, and it's by Sacred Mysteries Productions, they had an advert for a DVD "Awakening the feminine" advertised in the pre-film adverts

So maybe if you google "Sacred Mysteries Productions" you might find what you're looking for..

peace..

[ssandra]

Something I am going to do today, and is always very very nice:

Take a nice long shower. Shave (i´m not sure you want to go that far, but for me in a female body it makes me feel more feminine).

Use sea-salt scrub on my entire body. Wash with a very nice smelling soap. Dry, and put on luxury bodycream. Put on a nice facial mask.
Sit in my bathrope in a nice chair or lie in bed reading a great book.

Maybe it is just spoiling yourself, but for me that is also very feminine.

[Andrew Gubb]

Thanks guys

For your interest I thought I'd share something that's been inspiring me. Whenever I read this site, dedicated to spiritual women, I feel a lovely warm gooey feeling inside me

Goddess Guidebook | Your Guide for living a Creative & Soulful Goddess life...

[Beuford]

I have a bit of a feminine side myself. Though I did not properly understand it until I read this thread. Thank you for sharing.

[Andrew Gubb]

I'm glad. No problem, Beuford

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by ssandra

I am wondering... how do you know that you are a male or female soul?

Hi Sandra,

when I discovered my psychic abilities and met my higher self, he always appeared to me as a man. Later I learned to connect to my spirit guides and asked them. They confirmed this. You can also ask any Soul Realignment practitioner. I'm still in training, but even I can tell you if you PM me your full name, full name at birth, and birth date and place.

I'd like to stress that souls have no gender. They just work predominantly with certain energies, and we humans label these energies as "male" or "female" because we associate them with one gender or another. But all energies are available to everybody and as we evolve we learn how to integrate them all equally anyway.

Originally Posted by ssandra

This is great!! I thought it was just part of my own very special crazyness.. but there are actually more people like this!

Oh, yes. There are lots of them.

I'm totally surrounded with "feminine" men and "masculine" women, which is why I never understood those gender stereotypes and found them very stupid and very limiting. It especially pissed me off (and still does at times) that men are being told they have to be "manly", dominant, goal-oriented, blah, blah, blah... and so many lovely guys feel inadequate and beat themselves up for not matching that stereotype. Which is so unnecessary, because they could be just as strong while using other types of energies.

Anyway. I don't want to derail Andrew's thread.

Andrew, I'm going to do like you! I want to express my feminity a bit more too. If you know how to do that, please let me know, 'cause I have a hard time with that one!

Love to all. xx

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Hi Sandra,

when I discovered my psychic abilities and met my higher self, he always appeared to me as a man. Later I learned to connect to my spirit guides and asked them. They confirmed this. You can also ask any Soul Realignment practitioner. I'm still in training, but even I can tell you if you PM me your full name, full name at birth, and birth date and place.

I´m taking you up on your offer... you have a pm

[yamayama]

I'm an adrogenous female. When I was younger I acted and dressed like a boy, but that came off as weird. Later on I decided to become much more feminine and that felt fake. So now I'm just myself, and I'm a bit of both. I think you should just be who you are. Inside my head I'm not female or male I just am (ya know?)

But definately play around with feminity and find what works for you. Pamper and groom yourself nicely. The girliest girls I know are all about looking their best. So manicure your nails, do your eyebrows, I know guys that do this and it makes them look clean not feminine. Their eyebrows are just neatened up and their nails are trimmed and clear polished. Go shopping for clothes that make you feel good and make you look good. In your home, decorate it with an eye for comfort. Your bedroom for instance, buy a new comforter and lots of pillows (or whatever feels right for you). Have a movie night and watch sappy love stories just to see what that does for you. Find something to nurture, a plant a pet but take care of something that's living. Hang out with girls and just be yourself.

No matter what, you are who you are, you just have to find your comfort zone.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

when I discovered my psychic abilities and met my higher self, he always appeared to me as a man. Later I learned to connect to my spirit guides and asked them. They confirmed this. You can also ask any Soul Realignment practitioner. I'm still in training, but even I can tell you if you PM me your full name, full name at birth, and birth date and place.

Can you tell me if I send you the private message?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by brendannz

Can you tell me if I send you the private message?

Sure Brendan, go ahead.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Sure Brendan, go ahead.

Thanks very much! PMed you.

[Andrew Gubb]

Originally Posted by yamayama

I'm an adrogenous female. When I was younger I acted and dressed like a boy, but that came off as weird. Later on I decided to become much more feminine and that felt fake. So now I'm just myself, and I'm a bit of both. I think you should just be who you are. Inside my head I'm not female or male I just am (ya know?)

But definately play around with feminity and find what works for you. Pamper and groom yourself nicely. The girliest girls I know are all about looking their best. So manicure your nails, do your eyebrows, I know guys that do this and it makes them look clean not feminine. Their eyebrows are just neatened up and their nails are trimmed and clear polished. Go shopping for clothes that make you feel good and make you look good. In your home, decorate it with an eye for comfort. Your bedroom for instance, buy a new comforter and lots of pillows (or whatever feels right for you). Have a movie night and watch sappy love stories just to see what that does for you. Find something to nurture, a plant a pet but take care of something that's living. Hang out with girls and just be yourself.

No matter what, you are who you are, you just have to find your comfort zone.

Nice tips. I love nurturing things... I plan on starting up a sprout business, which would involve looking after seeds for the first few days of their lives (before sending them off to be eaten, but oh well )

Not so good at taking care of my looks though. I like looking good, but I'm so perfectionist I often prefer to go unconscious and not look at myself in the mirror than accept the stress of taking up the responsibility. Not that smart, I know

I could definitely watch more good chick flicks, I used to be embarrassed that I liked them

Bad ones are as bad as crappy action movies though

[Andrew Gubb]

I thought I'd write something to bump this thread, as it was generating some interesting discussion.

So I've decided that my next steps are to start really caring about my appearence! I've always been a bit lacking on that one, one of the aspects of myself which is definitely not feminine. Thing is, I do like to dress well and look good when I overcome my mental blocks and actually do it. Maybe it'll make me feel more feminine too

I tried going to a gay bar the other day but there wasn't much going on. I'm still not sure if I'm bisexual, it really confuses me...

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

I tried going to a gay bar the other day but there wasn't much going on. I'm still not sure if I'm bisexual, it really confuses me...

What helped me when I was having these issues (gay, bi, straight etc) was just stop caring about the sexuallity of people. I fall in love with people. Not with men or women, but just people.

It creates some breathing space where you can just find people you like.

With regards to your personal appereance... have you tried the body shop (http://www.thebodyshop-usa.com/)? They are all over the world and have an online store. Against animal testing, great for real women (don´t have sticks figures as models) and for human and woman rights. They have a great line of products for the male skin, which is different from the female skin. They also have great body butters and stuff like that.

[rei]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

I thought I'd write something to bump this thread, as it was generating some interesting discussion.

So I've decided that my next steps are to start really caring about my appearence! I've always been a bit lacking on that one, one of the aspects of myself which is definitely not feminine. Thing is, I do like to dress well and look good when I overcome my mental blocks and actually do it. Maybe it'll make me feel more feminine too

I tried going to a gay bar the other day but there wasn't much going on. I'm still not sure if I'm bisexual, it really confuses me...

glad you found something to try, the appearance stuff. yes, primping generally has more of a feminine feel to it. (EDIT: primping may have a negative connotation. oops, my issues are showing so, replace 'primping' with 'spending time on one's appearance'.)

Andrew, i dunno if you remember one of my first posts on this thread. i shared about how i actually thought i might be a lesbian, so i played out the whole intimate process to see. in my own case, i don't think i'm a lesbian and probably not bisexual either (would still enjoy making out with a woman though). these things can get complicated and confusing... my own take is that our internal sense of masculine and feminine is not necessarily the same as sexual orientation. gender identity can be related to sexual orientation, or it can be more of a spiritual issue. not every tom boy is a lesbian, not every man who loves the theater is gay. see what i mean? being interested in revisiting a greater expression of feminine energy doesn't necessarily make you bisexual or gay. sometimes it's an issue of balance. i have no idea if i'm making any sense.

[blossom]

I was reading over some pages in a good book I own by a rather great healer IMO, by the name of Wayne Perry. The book is called "Sound Medicine", and I thought of you, when I read a section regarding both genders wanting to get more in touch with their feminine or masculine energy through the use of sound, that is, primarily using your own voice to tone sounds that are healing and can remove blocks or transform just about anything. It's a great read, and I think you might find it interesting if you ever stumble on it?

[Andrew Gubb]

Originally Posted by blossom

I was reading over some pages in a good book I own by a rather great healer IMO, by the name of Wayne Perry. The book is called "Sound Medicine", and I thought of you, when I read a section regarding both genders wanting to get more in touch with their feminine or masculine energy through the use of sound, that is, primarily using your own voice to tone sounds that are healing and can remove blocks or transform just about anything. It's a great read, and I think you might find it interesting if you ever stumble on it?

Wow! I use sound in my energy healings. It just came to me spontaneously. I didn't really know other people did it.

I've bookmarked that book. I think I'll buy it next time I have some other books to get, so I can ship them together. Thanks

[Andrew Gubb]

being interested in revisiting a greater expression of feminine energy doesn't necessarily make you bisexual or gay.

Yes, to be honest I'm not that attracted to the male body. I have been turned on by a man before, but it seems to be mostly only gay men who can do this to me - I think I just respond to them sending sexual energy my way

But I'm really turned on by the idea of being penetrated and playing the submissive role in sex. I think men would be generally better at helping me do that.

What I'd really enjoy when having sex with a man, though, is to imagine that I'm a woman. I wish I had a vagina

Though I have talked with a lady online who likes to do men with strap-ons, so maybe if we meet up...

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

But I'm really turned on by the idea of being penetrated and playing the submissive role in sex. I think men would be generally better at helping me do that.

Never heard of strap-ons?

What I'd really enjoy when having sex with a man, though, is to imagine that I'm a woman. I wish I had a vagina

LOL... maybe if we wish on a falling star or bumb into each other on a friday we will change bodies? I sometimes wish I had a penis... that would be so interesting! Not always and not forever, but just for a day or 2...

Though I have talked with a lady online who likes to do men with strap-ons, so maybe if we meet up...

Trust me... there are more of those out there. The right term for this sex act is "pegging".

[blossom]

Oh yeah, there are heaps of people who are tuned into the power of sound vibrations...I've been onto that for at least 15 years now, and knew some women who teach about it. I've also met 2 different people who use the didgereedoo with intent to heal...and I remember an interview I read with John Frusciante from the red hot chilli peppers who said that all the band members felt that they were somehow healing people with their music...sound is very powerful and very healing. It's kinda my special thing

Let me know how you find the book if you get it? It also comes with a CD of his toning exercises, which I find very good for cleaning and aligning the chakras.

Oh, and if I'm ever in Spain, we might cross paths and swap roles...as ssandra said , there are plenty of peggers out there...we are just as curious about what it would feel like to have a penis as you are with vaginas.

[Andrew Gubb]

Originally Posted by blossom

Let me know how you find the book if you get it?

OK!

Oh, and if I'm ever in Spain, we might cross paths and swap roles...as ssandra said , there are plenty of peggers out there...we are just as curious about what it would feel like to have a penis as you are with vaginas.

Deal *blush*

[Beuford]

I'm not sure if it has been suggested yet, but aside from pretending to be a female while having sex, you could try wearing womans panties. I wouldn't mind giving it a go, many men claim them to be more comfortable anyway.

[MichaelMaxwell]

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[Andrew Gubb]

Originally Posted by MichaelMaxwell

You ever read Jung? Anima and animus - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Very interesting! I'll see if I can look into him more. Thanks.

[Andrew Gubb]

Originally Posted by Beuford

I'm not sure if it has been suggested yet, but aside from pretending to be a female while having sex, you could try wearing womans panties. I wouldn't mind giving it a go, many men claim them to be more comfortable anyway.

I might try, but I think maybe the reaction I'd get if... say, my girlfriend saw it would make it not worth it. She knows I'm bi and I don't think she'd judge me, but can I really be bothered to explain?!

[aelle]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

I might try, but I think maybe the reaction I'd get if... say, my girlfriend saw it would make it not worth it. She knows I'm bi and I don't think she'd judge me, but can I really be bothered to explain?!

If there's anyone you should be trying this with or explaining this to, shouldn't it be your girlfriend?

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

I might try, but I think maybe the reaction I'd get if... say, my girlfriend saw it would make it not worth it. She knows I'm bi and I don't think she'd judge me, but can I really be bothered to explain?!

Why not ask her if she minds if you use her panties to try? I use my husbands boxers all the time as shorts in the house. They are very comfy! If she would not except... is she really the one for you?

[aelle]

Originally Posted by ssandra

Why not ask her if she minds if you use her panties to try? I use my husbands boxers all the time as shorts in the house. They are very comfy! If she would not except... is she really the one for you?

I think it's fine if she doesn't accept (I wouldn't let my boy do it cause he'd kill the elastic straps and my lingerie costs enough to buy a small country - if you want to wear lacy stuff, dude, go buy some your size!), but it's another deal if either of them think it's something they cannot discuss.