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Old 09-29-2009, 10:24 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Forget all the spiritualist hanky panky. Go back to basics.

When you were a kid and someone asked you what you wanted to be what did you answer? That alone will probably answer the question, or give you a good place to start.

Failing that think deep down, really let your imagination go wild. What would life be like as a rock star, an International speaker, movie star, Multi-National CEO, successful entrepreneur, soldier of fortune in Africa, deep sea scientist, retired on the beaches of a tropical paradise (easier than you think), helping children in the 3rd world, tracking down Khmer Rouge leaders in Cambodia and making them pay for what they did?

Any fantasy life no matter how wild you can do, and you can start it now.

You know deep down there is something but it is too far fetched for you to believe.

But it is not too far fetched to achieve, look at me, I am a living breathing example of someone going for broke one way ticket, no plan B, no sidetracking.

From skinny, unpopular teenage to International Movie Star (almost - give it 3 months when the Bangkok Adrenaline DVD comes out International).

If I can do this then you can do anything too.
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What if you just wanna be extremely rich and power and don't care much about the starving kids or brutal dictators?

I have a question for you Conan.. I'm sure you know a lot about Schwarzenegger since his story is in a way similar to yours. After reading a bit about him I was quite impressed by his deep motivation and relentless drive to push forward despite all the difficulties he faced. What was the source of his motivation? How does one develop a "drive" like that?
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What if you just wanna be extremely rich and power and don't care much about the starving kids or brutal dictators?

I have a question for you Conan.. I'm sure you know a lot about Schwarzenegger since his story is in a way similar to yours. After reading a bit about him I was quite impressed by his deep motivation and relentless drive to push forward despite all the difficulties he faced. What was the source of his motivation? How does one develop a "drive" like that?
A very interesting question Mike, let me give it some thought and I'll get back tonight or tomorrow with my best answer. I have 15 different reasons I can give but the real reason will take a little time to track down.

I know little about Arnold's past and his struggles, I do know about his victories and some of the steps he took and he was a role model when I was younger but now things have taken on a life of their own.

I'll get back to you in a bit...
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I love it - this is a great post. Just close your eyes and GO WILD. I love how you're not afraid to blow your own horn most people nowadays are ashamed of their greatness and want to hide it away. I love it when there's someone who's not afraid to talk about his success or play it down.

As for drive it's something that's CULTIVATED over many years of struggle and hard work and pushing through barriers and obstacles
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You might like this thread too then When you were a child?

I found my purpose now though, and although it is something that's been in me since a young age, it was not in my wish list as a child. That's because it's probably not a set in stone career as such...but my passion is being an entrepreneur. I finally figured it out, this is thing that gets me going and I just love it with all my heart. It's the best feeling. Basically it allows me to combine all the things I love. Design, technology, building communities, thinking about marketing strategies, creating art, video, making something from nothing etc The only thing that's not really there is the kids thing...but that will be integrated later on.

It's funny reading back on my responses. I was in fact not quite right with my comment on design. I do in fact love design, but I like designing for myself and no one else. So my objective is to surround myself with art and design, but not under the thumb of someone else. I wont really be a graphic designer anymore, but more like a art dealer

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What was the source of his motivation? How does one develop a "drive" like that?
For me the "drive" is a sense of right. What I am doing is right for me, nothing else would be right for me, I would not enjoy it, I would not prosper.

I could go back to Australia tomorrow and fall into a comfortable IT job with good pay, good benefits and paid! annual leave. But I am happier here, in my $100 a month Asian style room, not apartment, room, living off my meagre Adsense earnings between jobs.

I cannot afford to go out and eat Western food at restaurants with friends, I cannot go out drinking (if I drink I get $2 traditional herbal rum - you Americans call it Moonshine). I am struggling financialy but I know hte next movie I do will make me more than my mates in Australia who tell me to give up these fancy dreams and get a real job.

(Yeah, I don't talk to them anymore at all).

So in a way it is arrogance. I am right, they are all wrong, and I am going to bloody well do this.

On top of this I have always had an easy life, I have always designed it that way, and working in a job or going back to start another business - - - I'd end up a drug addict or dead or in jail.

I don't fit into the standard social mold, I refuse.

All the bulldust pushed down people's throats makes me sick. The news is propaganda, the big companies pay politicians to do their bidding.

Marijuana is illegal but ritalin is forced onto kids. No money in pot, it grows like a weed, there's lots of money in designer amphetamines, and it hooks the users, sorry patients.

The crap they do to the food supply is outrageous, hormones, cancer causing chemicals, industrial waste remarketed as healthy and good for you.

I absuloutely refuse to be a part of all those lies. Which is why I live in Asia, here corruption is out in the open, well everyone knows but everyone pretends it does not happen.

One politician ran for Mayor in a MAJOR city (10 million+) on the strength of the slogan "You know I'm corrupt, but at least I am honest about it" - that I can deal with.

The drive to be me is just that. I want a career that provides lots of free time, and lots of money, lots of girls (still looking for the right one) and anything else I want, when I want it, where ever I want it.

Being a movie star would give me that, working in a job won't ever give me that. There are other careers that could give me that but I went through the list when I sat down to decide what to do with my life and crossed many of htem off, the top thing on the list of what I would like to be/do was movie star so I went for it.

I know many people on here don't lie my approach to life, they are soft and namby pamby, delusional thinking that the universe will provide if I just sit on my butt and think about it a little more.

It doesn't work like that, you need to action your ideas and dreams and things come to you. Big opportunities come every day but YOU need to be ready and able to see it as an opportunity and be prepared enough to take it and make it part of your dream/goal/life.

I heard an Amway speaker once say "It's not you waiting on God, it's God waiting on you - you can do it - you can do it - you can do it!"

I refuse to see failure. Sir Richard Branson says failure is giving up and nothing else, I agree.

Each time I 'fail' I learn something, I get better, I am slowly making it to the top of the world in a very difficult career by learning it all myself and making my own path. Sure there may be teachers who could help and beaten paths to take but in the end I want to accomplish, I want to achieve.

Then I feel good about myself. I was right all along, I can rub peoples noses in their negativity and how wrong they were not to belive in me.

Many people think I am dumb because I have a great body and am HUGE, one of hte biggest men in the world in fact. This aggravates me to no end, as people like this are always dumb, and put themselves above me.

I don't put myself above anyone, unless they need to learn a lesson due to their ill manners in which case I will put them right in their place, and certainly not someone I have only jsut met.

I have 140+ IQ and am a member of MENSA, I joined to show people to treat me with a little more respect than I was getting. In India that membership was really appreciated and I was looked at in a very good light.

Seems that the answer has been a bit of a ramble but in the end that is the answer.

I have seen friends "use the power of positive thinking" to become rich and famous, and not get off their butt, even when opportunity was knocking it was too much effort for them to answer the door and have a go.

I have seen some friends rise up to mediocre success and then give up, thinking it was too hard to go the rest of hte way.

I don't want to be like them. Shattered men, their dreams broken, in moments of solemness or drunkeness they will admit they feel like failures. Really they are not the same men I knew when they were still trying, full of life and spirit.

That is a fate worse than death.

OK my life is not stable, definitely not safe and I go out of my way to put myself in dangerous situations if my morals decree it (I apprehended and armed robber and on another occassion stopped a rape in the last 3 months - it was on the national news even). But my life is fun, no one on this forum has a life like mine.
Armed robbery foiled news video

I remember one time telling a mid level manager a little about my life and her eyes went all cloudy as she imagined it and said "wow, your life is like a dream".

Umm, yes. It is. I talk about things not to brag, I can substantiate everything I say, most is documented step by step with photos or video on my website.

I talk about the playboy bunnies I have dates, the Penthouse Centerfolds, the Millionaire business women, the International dancers, national fitness/sporting champions... the list goes on.... but it is not to brag - I am loking for the right woman, it's nothing to brag about saying I have failed so far to find her - but most men thing women like this are out of reach and never try.

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PS If anyone wnats to put me down for being a womaniser, go ahead it was a goal of mine as a teenager and I achieved it.

On top of that I am friends with most my ex-girlfriends and on friendly terms with all of them.
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Conan a lot of what you said made sense, but I get the feeling that your trying to prove your worth to other people. Mind you, proving your worth can be a big instigator in getting off ones butt

How do you get more respect by going to Mensa? Is it that you tell your people your part of Mensa?

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I love it - this is a great post. Just close your eyes and GO WILD. I love how you're not afraid to blow your own horn most people nowadays are ashamed of their greatness and want to hide it away. I love it when there's someone who's not afraid to talk about his success or play it down.

As for drive it's something that's CULTIVATED over many years of struggle and hard work and pushing through barriers and obstacles
The drive does grow stronger, I used ot listen to tapes everyday, read everynight and go to at least one lecture on anything positive or financial once a month. Now I don't need to do it. I just watch my showreel, my old wrestling tapes, or MY movie that I wrote and starred in and have right here on DVD. That is all the motivation I need today. Yes it is 'only' a Thailand cinema release (successful) and it is 'only' a International DVD release, but I am extremely proud of my accomplishment.

The reason I blow my own trumpet on here so much is that so many are giving advice when they are not qualified. My qualification is my achievements, my success in my chosen path. You cannot learn anything from someone who read the book (that you also read) and then loves to go telling people how to live. Most of these people are not experienced in the advice they are giving.

If someone asked me advice on a motorcycle, or mountain climbing, or which corporate job would suit them best I quite happily admit that I do not know, go ask a specialist, find an expert, preferrably someone who you would aspire to be like - ask them for advice.

When I worked with David Carradine I shut up and listened to him talk, I took it all in, and encouraged him to continue. I look forward to the day I get to be one on one with Jean Claude Van Damm and Dolph Lundgren, I will do the same. These are people whose accomplishments I respect and would like to emulate, to learn and adapt their experiences for my own life.

I'd never get on here and ask for advice on my acting career, yet plenty of unqualified people would give plenty of advice for free - because that is what the advice is worth = nothing. (Even if they have good intentions it is still harmful for you. Like a very good mate who recently started trying to get me to give up my dreams, he thinks I am running out of time and need to get a job and a house - he has good intentions but if he says it again I will never talk to him again)
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Conan a lot of what you said made sense, but I get the feeling that your trying to prove your worth to other people. Mind you, proving your worth can be a big instigator in getting off ones butt

How do you get more respect by going to Mensa? Is it that you tell your people your part of Mensa?
Hi Ellie,

Good point, it does read that way. It's just that I have been getting a lot of negativism recently, the closer I get to success the more I attract. I have recently lost what I thought was a good friend to jealousy, and another will probably go the same way in a day or two. Add in there are dozens of people in the 'scene' where I am who suffer the same affliction and say bad things about me behind my back, but are nice and all smiles to my face.

The Amway speakers I listened to a lot when I first started growing said this would happen, and I am glad in a way because I know what the cause is and I know it happens to many people before and it means I am on the right track.

(Yes I do cut these negative people from my life the first time they show their true colours).

I am doing this all for me, for my own sense of self worth, for my own self esteem and my confidence grows to the point now where I KNOW that I am going to make it.

TRUE confidence is the only key to success.

I don't "go to" MENSA, I am an International member and as such we don't have meetings. I get respect by being a member because the organisation is respected in some circles. It also proves that I am "very gifted" or "genius" level IQ, which I bring up when someone is talking to me like i am dumb - usually after I verbally shame them in public.

It also helps when the next movie I am trying out for a character that is a twisted genius, as the Producer said, a dumb guy can't play that role no matter what.
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Good stuff Conan, very interesting read. Wish you lots of success with your acting career!
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It also proves that I am "very gifted" or "genius" level IQ, which I bring up when someone is talking to me like i am dumb - usually after I verbally shame them in public.
You see if you did that to me, I would be like this person is insecure and they value other peoples opinion ahead of their own.

I think I am smart, not in a IQ sense, I just know I am clever and I am happy and content enough to just keep it to myself. I prove my cleverness with my actions, not with my words. I don't think you need to prove yourself to anyone, accept yourself

If people think your dumb...well then they are really not that clever are they?
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You see if you did that to me, I would be like this person is insecure and they value other peoples opinion ahead of their own.
If I did that to you it would because you were talking down to me and therefore you would deserve to be put into place. It is a form of verbal and emotional bullying, this I do not tolerate, to myself or to others.

Sometimes it is funny to destroy someone verbally when they have just placed themselves on a pedestal, it is a form of humour called irony. Much appreciated by onlookers.

Also try it in a culture with classes you are born into. Here (in Asia) if I am talked down to by an office worker, and I do not put her in her place then it shows all around that she is above me socially, which makes me as low as a menial worker - which means you get treated like dirt. Living in a modern Western culture you would not understand this.

This is BAD in a work situation, when I am onset in 104 Fahr (40 celsius) heat and require assistance as I cannot leave the set. Meaning no one will get you food, no one will help you, no one will make any effort for you and they will see it as OK to treat me bad (steal money, etc). This is reality and this is why you have to put yourself above anyone who does this.

This also happens to a more subtle extent in the West.

Considering my job and career depend upon me not being typecast as a stupid person it is VERY important to my career that I do not accept this kind of treatment.

Last I would just like to say that anyone who does not stand up for themselves deserves what they get. I will not be bullied in any way, and I detest those who bully. I guess I read to many stories of Knights and Chivalry and the legends of Aussie soldiers we were brought up on and I have had these morals installed in me.
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What if you just wanna be extremely rich and power and don't care much about the starving kids or brutal dictators?

I have a question for you Conan.. I'm sure you know a lot about Schwarzenegger since his story is in a way similar to yours. After reading a bit about him I was quite impressed by his deep motivation and relentless drive to push forward despite all the difficulties he faced. What was the source of his motivation? How does one develop a "drive" like that?
I have nothing but bad things to say about arnold. I wouldn't look at him for inspiration. I know he's successful, but success doesn't outweigh the bad things he has done.
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Connan, you sound a little angry and insecure to me. It looks like the whole topic was started so that you can show off your ideal body and achievments.
What's wrong?
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I have nothing but bad things to say about arnold. I wouldn't look at him for inspiration. I know he's successful, but success doesn't outweigh the bad things he has done.
what bad things has he done?
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You may or may not believe this, but he is racist. There have been many reports about him using the N word to disrespect black people. You can look it up if you don't believe me. To me, that's huge because I am a black man. Some people don't care but when a person is that overtly racist and holds a government position I find that problematic. That automatically tells me he is not interested in helping people like me (minorities). His dad was a big time racist so it's no mystery how he became this way (look it up).

Arnold ordered for the execution of Tookie Williams. To make a long story short, Tookie Williams was a former gang member who killed people and went to prison for life. While in prison he rehabilitated himself, wrote children's books, was nominated for the nobel peace prize five times, and organized gang truces. He was doing all of this while in prison. Letting him spend the rest of his life in prison was fine but killing a man who was clearly an asset to society served no purpose.

He also sexually harassed women. Many have come forward and some have even sued him. Again, you can look this up
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Yes I am insecure and I need to come to this forum to get a few hundred people look at my signature. These few hundred people help my ego so much when all I have to do is walk outside abd there are about 100 million people in the region who recognise me, then another billion Indians who recognise me as soon as I say the movies I worked in. I don't need 100-200 people for my ego. In fact I spoend 95% of my time in daggy clothes in disguise so I can go about my life without hassle.

Yet I have 2000 people a day come to my websites, many emailing and thanking me for inspiration and for showing that you can make an "impossible dream" come true.

Vasillia, it would seem to me that you are insecure. I already am very successful and my website tells in step by step detail how I hcnaged myself from a insecure child to what I have become today.

I am sorry for trying to tell people they can make it too (Note that is sarcasm). I think you have work to do working on your own self esteem if I am a threat to you in any way
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I think nay big star will attract people looking for free money, also Arnold's "sexual harrasement" and any beliefs have nothing to do with my seeing him as a role model in certain aspects. His drive and ambition and achievements are an inspiration especially since he came from nothing.

If you dig deep I think you'll find many people are not perfect, myself included.

Last I would just like to point out that the biggest users of the "N" word are in fact black people, even Chris Rock says there are two types of African Americans - Black People and N'ers. So to an outsiders point of view it is all rather silly.

I am not defending anything Arnold may have done that is offensive but he shows that you can come from nothing, from a foreign land and still live the American dream - and that is inspiration.
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Nice idea - I do sometimes ask my clients these sorts of questions if they are having trouble identifying their goals, values or whatever - what would you do if you were ...

I'm going to give your site a thorough read in a few days time when I'm not travelling.

Meanwhile, I did just read your Eat Dog Meat post - reminds me of Harlan Ellison's A Boy and His Dog - there is another way
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Last I would just like to point out that the biggest users of the "N" word are in fact black people, even Chris Rock says there are two types of African Americans - Black People and N'ers. So to an outsiders point of view it is all rather silly.

I am not defending anything Arnold may have done that is offensive but he shows that you can come from nothing, from a foreign land and still live the American dream - and that is inspiration.
That's a very ignorant thing to say. Either you really don't know what you are talking about, you just don't care, or you agree with Arnold's actions. The word itself isn't the problem. The overtly racist tone that he used with was the problem. The fact that he used the word to show dominance over another race was the problem. Lastly, the fact that he now holds a position in office and has never been publicly scrutinized for this (at least to my knowledge) is the problem.
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Old 10-09-2009, 08:43 AM   #22 (permalink)
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That's a very ignorant thing to say. Either you really don't know what you are talking about, you just don't care, or you agree with Arnold's actions. The word itself isn't the problem. The overtly racist tone that he used with was the problem. The fact that he used the word to show dominance over another race was the problem. Lastly, the fact that he now holds a position in office and has never been publicly scrutinized for this (at least to my knowledge) is the problem.

And correct me if I am wrong but don't many African Americans greet each other with "Yo, what's up N'er?"

And how do you know if or how Arnold used that word?

Get over it, I am called a "farang" or "The farang" everyday, it is a derogatory word in S.E.Asia and refers to all white people who are seen with suspicion and often contempt as invaders in their lands.

So yeah, I do know what I am talking about, more than you I guess. I am a white N in a land of coloured people.

I get charged more for everything, including entry to Goverment parks because I am white. There are no laws on racism here. If I get into trouble the Police will take me away as being White I can most likely pay more to keep out of jail.

Yeah, I'm ignorant on racism.

Get over it and grow up, stop looking for excuses, and stop worrying about other peoples lives. If it really concerned you you'd be less like a whiner on a Internet forum and more like Martin Luther King.... if you really cared.

I have prospered and done well despite the daily challenges of overt racism, so can anyone.


* Sorry if that comes off a bit strong but I spent the last week travelling and having hte locals try to screw me over on every point every step of the way, then you telling me I don't understand racism
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Old 10-09-2009, 10:21 AM   #23 (permalink)
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If you don't like other people coming down on you and being bullies do you think that retaliating by being a bully and destroying them in front of other people is an enlightened way to go about things? Just wondering...you seem to have contradicted yourself there.

Can I also ask, do you stand the way you do in your website picture normally? That must be exhausting...

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Old 10-09-2009, 05:13 PM   #24 (permalink)
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And correct me if I am wrong but don't many African Americans greet each other with "Yo, what's up N'er?"

And how do you know if or how Arnold used that word?

Get over it, I am called a "farang" or "The farang" everyday, it is a derogatory word in S.E.Asia and refers to all white people who are seen with suspicion and often contempt as invaders in their lands.

So yeah, I do know what I am talking about, more than you I guess. I am a white N in a land of coloured people.

I get charged more for everything, including entry to Goverment parks because I am white. There are no laws on racism here. If I get into trouble the Police will take me away as being White I can most likely pay more to keep out of jail.

Yeah, I'm ignorant on racism.

Get over it and grow up, stop looking for excuses, and stop worrying about other peoples lives. If it really concerned you you'd be less like a whiner on a Internet forum and more like Martin Luther King.... if you really cared.

I have prospered and done well despite the daily challenges of overt racism, so can anyone.


* Sorry if that comes off a bit strong but I spent the last week travelling and having hte locals try to screw me over on every point every step of the way, then you telling me I don't understand racism
Black folks do use the N word. The use of the word is not the problem. The way he used the word and the fact that he intended to show dominance over another race is the problem.

Look it up if you don't believe me. It's not hard to find. I have heard white people use the word and have known they meant no harm. It's about the intentions behind the word.

So I'm a whiner? Ok if wanting a governer who doesn't have Nazi ties and thinks of his race as the dominant one is whining, so be it. I'll whine all day.

Don't tell me to get over it. That's not your place. You can speak about yourself. That's fine. Leave it at that. Don't be an internet tough guy. The keyboard can't fight you back and chances are, you wouldn't say a thing like this to the face of another black man.

If you are ignorant on racism don't speak on it. Ask questions when you don't understand.
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My understanding of the N word used amongst other african americans is the same as the way people from the homosexual community use the word queer or f*g with each other...it's a way of reclaiming a word that has been used against them in a harmful way and by reclaiming it they change the meaning of it, thus removing the power from the oppressor and taking the power back!

I'm white and I'm not a member of MENSA and even I knew that!
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My understanding of the N word used amongst other african americans is the same as the way people from the homosexual community use the word queer or f*g with each other...it's a way of reclaiming a word that has been used against them in a harmful way and by reclaiming it they change the meaning of it, thus removing the power from the oppressor and taking the power back!

I'm white and I'm not a member of MENSA and even I knew that!
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No problem amj.

There's nothing quite as amusing as an ignorant "genius".
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If you don't like other people coming down on you and being bullies do you think that retaliating by being a bully and destroying them in front of other people is an enlightened way to go about things? Just wondering...you seem to have contradicted yourself there.

Can I also ask, do you stand the way you do in your website picture normally? That must be exhausting...
Stopping bullies stops them from harming others. It's called chivalry. Sort of like catching the armed robber and stopping a rape - but then you may call me a bully for that. (it was on the National news here and is verifiable).

So on a personal development site you put me down because I am physically successful, have mastered my training priciples and control my diet to an EXTREMELY healthy degree. Is attaining ones goals no longer a thing to aspire too?

Out of interest can I ask, please don't be offended, but I am curious - are you on of the 30% of Australians now classified as obese? To me that could explain a few things.

It is nice to see steves site deteriorate to flaming rather than intelligent discussion, rebuttals and respectable debate.

If you don't like what I write you can always move on, there are many other people who take inspiration from people who are very successful from their own labours, such as myself.
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Actually...I'm a hottie never had a weight issue, never will...it's in my genetic structure to be slim and petite, so, sorry to disappoint you there, but you'll find no jealousy from this end, believe me! Unfortunately Australia is following in Big Brothers footsteps with growing numbers of obese people living on junk food...it's a sad, sad state of affairs...but I'm not one of them thank goodness.

It seems like you don't have a problem putting anyone else down but you don't like it when it's dished up to you is all I'm saying...which I find contradictory. Do you beat bullies by being one and calling it 'chivalrous''? Also, it's nice that you stopped people from getting hurt, but what do you want...a man of the year award? Why do you need to prove that to strangers if YOU know it was good that you did it? It just seems like you want your ego stroked, and I'm not the sort of person that is into stroking egos!

What I'm talking about is the way you are speaking down to this other person amj and trying to intellectually bully him with your argument. You firstly don't seem to have a very good understanding about what you are stating and secondly, the guy is free to not agree with you and not get his head bit off for saying something contrary to what you are saying. I don't see much 'respectable' debating from your end, or intelligent discussions either. I see you throwing flames at anyone who doesn't agree with or questions your intentions, which only tells me that your ego is so fragile that it can't handle respectable debating or anyone with an opposing position expressing it.

I don't have a problem with successful people. I'm quite a successful person in my own right...and have inspired quite a few people in my time as well, so you don't threaten me at all if that's what you are getting at. Inspiring people is great, and I liked how your post started out, your challenge was great for people to remember what they wanted to be when they were kids...it deteriorated somewhere along the way when you started getting all hot-headed with some of the posters who challenged some of the things you wrote about, and not in a very respectful way either. I also don't see why you feel the need to mention things like your level of intelligence and your chivalrous activities? And if I see someone else getting hassled on-line by someone I'm gonna step in and say what I observe.

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Conan,
I'm not sure why this thread seems to be drawing such negativity when you have only tried to be helpful and inspirational. You have a big ego, but there is nothing wrong with that, especially since you can back it up through your accomplishments.

I'm looking forward to seeing you in a mainstream American film soon. I can see you as a villain or supporting actor in a Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson film, an updated version of the giant in the 007 series, or a lead in a sci-fi or action flick; the possiblities are many.

Your original challenge was for us to recapture the vision we had for ourselves as children and this is powerful, because a lot of us let disappointments, hardships, and other distractions deter us from our true purpose in life.

You have been willing to do whatever it takes and refused to let anything stop you from achieving your dream and now it's a reality. We can all learn from that.
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