Finding Your Purpose From A Successful Movie Star

[ang569]

Conan,

Just an FYI, for what it's worth, your site is far too distracting. I can't enjoy the pics because of all the annoying advertisements. They pop up everywhere. Just overkill, in my opinion.

[C33]

Conan,

I really like your non B.S approach to personal development and often go to your site for inspiration.

You might have a big ego but it's helping you achieve your dreams, and I personallly don't think one can achieve big by having a small ego.

Besides, big as you are, I do not see having a small voice and retiring personality as serving you.

I can't imagine Sylvester Stallone or Arnold apologizing for their success and speaking with a Minnie Mouse voice.

I am really not into action movie stars, by the way, and do not drool over big muscles. My boyfriend had to drag me to see Terminator 3.What I drool over is the drive, discipline that it takes to actually get that kind of body and becoming a household name.

Tomorrow, when I won't feel like doing my 45 minutes of cardio, I will not let some lazy, overweight person who wants company in his/her misery( I am overweight myself) convince me that I should lay off the cardio and eat something that tastes really good, but I will look up to people like you.

I do not care if your ego is the size of Australia, but I very much care that one of your biceps has more muscle than my entire body when it comes to getting motivated to actually exercise.

If people, instead of questioning and ridiculing what you say here because they see it as looking for ego stroking, modelled what you did to get the type of body you have, or get their script produced, their energy would be spent in a more positive way.

I share your impression that this site has become about starting fights with posters instead of sharing views on personal growth and about weak wishing and magical thinking instead of goal planning and action taking.

I hate the Secret and all the manipulative:"the universe is magic and will bring me my million dollars because you are buying my book that is telling you you can have anything you want by sitting on your arse."

[sagspiimp]

bookmarked and b back l8er, bro, :-)

[Conan Stevens]

Originally Posted by ang569

Conan,

Just an FYI, for what it's worth, your site is far too distracting. I can't enjoy the pics because of all the annoying advertisements. They pop up everywhere. Just overkill, in my opinion.

Hi Ang, thanks for visiting. Unfortunately it takes a lot of my time to run the site and I do rely on it for my monthly income between jobs. The current configuration is pretty heavy on the ads but it is the one that produces the most revenue that I have found so far.

TV has ads, Radio has ads, magazines have ads, ande so do I.

Most people accept this, though some find it annoying, checking my stats often though I find I do not lose any significant numbers of visitors.

Pretty much all the major sites have similar levels of advertising or more than I do (I use less than the maximum allowed by google)

[Conan Stevens]

C33 and Lioness - thanks for being voices of reason, it is a pleasant diversion.

Anyone who knows me knows that I do not have a huge ego, but online I do push my accomplishments as they show that I am not one of the crowd.

If I say something or give advice it means little, but if I give advice or say what has worked for me and I can back it up with more than just words then the people who are ready will be able to learn from me.

C33, you are spot on. I ready many, many books by successful entrepreneurs, most of them I have little in common with, most I do not aspire to in a business sense. But I do aspire to their tenacity and drive and their ability to stick with it "against the odds" and against all the naysayers.

Sometimes I just got inspiration from these men, sometimes I also learned something that I could adapt to my own life/goals.

The funny thing with these people thinking I need ego stroking is more a reflection of how they see things rather than how I am. If I needed ego stroking I could go out to everynight club in the city and get free entry, no waiting in line, free drinks every night and have my ego satisfied in REALITY, not in some virtual reality.

On top of that when I go out and am not immediately recognised I tell everyone I am a computer programmer - which is enough to stop most people asking more.

I do believe "The Secret" has been damaging, telling people to wish for something and they'll get it. Though looking at it from a marketing angle it was brilliant - they were selling the modern day equivalent of the Genies lamp - who wouldn't want that?

Brad Sugars has a business/self development company in Australia (though grwon much now) called Action International. As he says "It's called Action for a reason not 'yeah, I read the book once International'"

You need to be actively looking for you opportunities, you do also need to believe in them and "The Secret" can help at the start of your life changing, but it goes a lot deeper than that you really do need to do something everyday to get ahead.

Again to quote Brad Sugars "The opportunity of a lifetime comes along everyday" but it depends if you are prepared, have done the ground work, are actively looking to spot it, and if you are mentally ready to take it on.

Perfect example, I look up to Brad a lot, he is often seen as harsh, but I see him as a realist. He is in a completely different field but I have learned a lot from him and I have adapted many of his ideas and teachings to my own work and my website.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Conan Stevens

Get over it, I am called a "farang" or "The farang" everyday, it is a derogatory word in S.E.Asia and refers to all white people who are seen with suspicion and often contempt as invaders in their lands.

Firstly, the word is not a Southeast Asian word. It is a Thai word, and Thailand is only one of several countries in Southeast Asia.

Secondly, "farang" is simply the Thai word for "foreigner". It may be used in a derogatory or non-derogatory fashion, just as the word "foreigner" in the English language may be used in a derogatory or non-derogatory fashion.

So yeah, I do know what I am talking about, more than you I guess. I am a white N in a land of coloured people.

I get charged more for everything, including entry to Goverment parks because I am white. There are no laws on racism here. If I get into trouble the Police will take me away as being White I can most likely pay more to keep out of jail.

Yeah, I'm ignorant on racism.

I think that your words are very unkind to the Thai people, whom I find in general to be very warm, hospitable and welcoming to foreigners.

[blossom]

I agree that it is good to be able to say good and nice things about yourself for reasons of self-esteem, and I think that there is a strange and damaging cultural belief in most places (in Australian society anyway) which dictates that people must never say anything nice about themselves in front of others for fear of being percieved as being "conceited" and it keeps everyone at the same level-DOWN on themselves...which needs to change, but it's deeply entrenched from centuries of inferiority complexes and the fear of success passed down from god knows where?

However, when you start going on about how you're a member of MENSA and then start spouting incredibly ignorant statements about different cultural linguistic trends...well, in my world, you are just asking for it! Besides, we are all geniuses in our own way...don't need MENSA's approval for that fact!

Maybe you need to actually make sure you know what you are talking about before you start sharing it with the rest of the world...because you are only making yourself look silly!

You can read all the inspiring books you want and have the best of intentions, but when you start telling other people that they don't know what they are talking about...when it's actually YOU who doesn't know, and coming down on them for not agreeing with you or not seeing a person in the same light as you, then it just comes off as bullying, which isn't cool...not here, not anywhere!

And don't assume that everyone who questions what you say here is in the least bit jealous of you...all I see are people trying to point out to you that the way you are coming across is that you need to prove yourself to us, maybe to get approval, who knows? It's not a bad thing. As long as YOU know what your achievements are...thats what is really important in the end!

I admit that my comment about your website pose was going too far, and apologize if I hurt your feelings.

All the best

[Conan Stevens]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Firstly, the word is not a Southeast Asian word. It is a Thai word, and Thailand is only one of several countries in Southeast Asia.

Secondly, "farang" is simply the Thai word for "foreigner". It may be used in a derogatory or non-derogatory fashion, just as the word "foreigner" in the English language may be used in a derogatory or non-derogatory fashion.

I think that your words are very unkind to the Thai people, whom I find in general to be very warm, hospitable and welcoming to foreigners.

Farang is also used in Laos, Barang in Cambodia and I believe, though I may be wrong the Vietnamese have a name too. So I am afraid it is a SE Asia word.

Speaking Thai, living with Laos speaking people, and having a Khmer girlfriend for over a year plus living here for 5 years with many friends living here up to 20 years all share similar views.

It is not negative, it is just reality. Looking into Thai history more closely you will see that there are definite reasons for this racism, besides the fact it is a pretty much universal trait amongst different races, especially the under-educated.

The way farang is used is the indication of whether it is derogatory, when you work with someone for a month and they still call you the "white guy" rather than your name then you can be guaranteed it is derogatory - I do know the difference.

The fun part of living here is actually understanding what is going on, when the locals assume foreigners can't understand Thai.

[Conan Stevens]

Thanks for the kind words Blossom though everything I say is based in experience and fact as I have seen it personally.

I don't listen to rumours, nor do I spread them, if Arnold said something I was not there. I do not know if it was reported correctly, or if it was reported in context. So I don't listen and don't repeat rumours, it is something I was taught as a child that I believe in.

I have heard rumours spread about me that were really nasty, some were based in reality but generally they were embelished. Others were totally fabricated so that the liar could try to gain some advantage as he/she felt inferior. I have had this happen several times that I know about when I was younger particularly in regards to dating.

If I want approval I walk out into the street and talk to any group of Thai people, someone always recognises me if I dress well, if I dress shabby and go 'in disguise' I get away without notice a lot more often. Real world approval is about 99 times more valuable than Internet forum approval. But I do see how I could come across as such. Anyone interested could watch the recent video interview on my website and see how I am in person - the questions are all 'cold', no preparation at all. You see me trip over my tongue a few times trying to find the correct words to say something negative in a nice, non-damaging way.

To support my claims there is a major world wide release movie coming out soon and several hundred million people will then see me, chasing approval here is not why I came I assure you.

Though I do get a good feeling when someone emails me (usually from my site) and thanks me and tells how I was able to benefit thier life. When I was young a few mentors helped me change the way I thought about the world and taught me how to help myself.

I was helped, now I help others. In fact I have a personal dev book in rough outline that I will finish, telling how the teachings fit with my experiences, and what I htink works and what doesn't that I will release to sell once I become Internationally famous - this will help a lot of young boys probably with similar problems I had, and they'll relate to me better than most other self help figures. (why boys? well they are a major segment of the target market for action movies).

When I am famous I want to be a role model of sorts, this fits in with my plans after film success. Not everyone will like me, but that is an unrealistic goal anyway.

Finally I would like to say thankyou for apologising, that is very emotionally mature and something that is not often seen. My feelings are OK, they are about as strong as my head

[CroMagna]

Conan,

Congratulations on your success.

If i had to dream BIG I would say that I would like to become an activist and public speaker about women's sexual liberation. I would like to also work in the adult entertainment industry, most likely as a stripper. A BIG dream would be to work at an upscale establishment like Thee Dollhouse (has a spa, built in car wash, and lobster dinners). A HUGE dream would be to pose for Maxim (Playboy appears impossible). Another big dream is to be a 75 year old who looks like she's about 40. The goal in all of this is not really money or fame, but to inspire young girls to not care what people think and to eliminate the sexual cartel a la Johnny Soporno, another trusted voice here.

Any insight on how I can go about getting involved would be highly highly appreciated.

Again, congratulations

[Conan Stevens]

CroMagna - playboy is not impossible. An ex-girlfriend was offered to shoot and declined (I introduced her to the photographer). I have known 3 or 4 playboy centerfolds and a few other playboy models. One girl I know used to be a playboy bunnie at the Playboy club in London.

Obviously there are many girls doing it - why not you?

Remember it may be easier to get printed outside of America if you don't fit the current look there. My ex for example was Asian, the photographer said Playboy Germany would take her photos no problem.

There is always a way to make your dreams come true. Always.

[Daffy Duck]

I'm having a relaxing Saturday morning. I just spent about 20 minutes reading your web site, Conan. You seem like a good guy. Anyone who gets up and stops a rapist is very good in my book. Though I don't think I'd choose all the same things as you -- visiting countries where drugs are legal just to try them? -- that just doesn't sound healthy, man! But it's your body, your experience. Of course I say this because I am very much of a straight edge, so I avoid drugs.

What I like most about your site is that you speak from experience. For me, this is what makes a site interesting. There are so many personal development sites out there (heck I even thought about starting one), but most of them regurgitate old information and have a "been there, read that already" feel to them. Really, how many more blogs do we need to teach us to think positive and how to make a to-do list?

And that's okay, I mean, I'm sure the people have good intentions, but it's just not very useful (ditto for most published books too). Yours is unique. I enjoyed reading your personal stories.

Keep up the good work!

[CroMagna]

Thanks Conan.

[Conan Stevens]

Originally Posted by Daffy Duck

visiting countries where drugs are legal just to try them? -- that just doesn't sound healthy, man! But it's your body, your experience. Of course I say this because I am very much of a straight edge, so I avoid drugs.

I like to live life to the fullest, and i have had many experiences most other people will never have, this is part of the fun in life for me.

I don't just visit for the sane drug laws, I also visit many countries to experience them. If their culture allows certain drugs besides the Anglo-American approved alcohol and tobacco (and prescribed amphetamines, downers, anti-depressants, ritalin for kids!) then there is a reason that their culture deems these drugs approved.

At least I admit that I smoked Marijuana, and I did not just take the smoke into my mouth, like some liars claim - I inhaled very deeply, next day I ate a couple of boxes of magic mushrooms - all legal over the counter in Holland. I was even stopped and searched while high on Gunja by police, they looked at the bag of gunja I had purchased at the shop and they looked at my friend who could not stop laughing (he'd had mushrooms - we'd just been to a big outdoor summer concert) and the policeman shook his head at us, smiled and told us to be on our way.

I also drank the psychadelic/hallucenagenic Absinthe (the export version does not have the hallucenagenic compound) when in the Czech Republic. Vincent Van Gogh drank this and painted under the influence for certain. I have tried it and I know the effects. Though I am not one of hte worlds most famous painters I could still get a taste of where he got his inspiration and style from.

Why not? Who is to say American lawmakers are right with their drug policy. Studies in Holland show that their sane drug laws have actually lowered usage and related crime and with free testing at clinics people know exactly what illicit drugs they are buying without prosecution, leading to less injuries and fatalities.

That is a heck of a lot better than filling kids full of branded prescribed designer amphetamines, then when they get speed psychosis putting them on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. No wonder Americna kids go loopy and go violent and do school shootings and the like - this does not happen anywhere else in the world with such alarming regularity(yet).

[CroMagna]

Hey Conan,

How often do you work out and for how long? What do you do when you do work out?

[rei]

hey Conan,

just a friendly observation in case you care. in your signature it says something about the adaption it took to get to your ideal life.

"adaption" is not a word. do you mean adaptation?

[blossom]

Hi Conan,

Well you do sound like a good guy, and I'm glad we could clear the air.

Your views about drugs seem pretty balanced. I think it's good to try everything once (or twice) A person can be healthy and take drugs.

Whatever damage is done can be repaired in most cases, as the body has a wonderful ability to regenerate and heal itself every day infact, new cells form and replace old ones.
Yes, some braincells are lost forever...but there are trillions more to work with, and we have barely scratched the surface of the potential within our brains. Drugs can help with that to a degree...but you need to know your limits, as with anything in life. But it's not for everyone.

It's good to enjoy life and explore. It makes for a well rounded individual.

[MichaelMaxwell]

Conan, I'm liking how you manage to be rational and over the top confident at the same time . There are many forces in this world that would see us all emasculated and full of doubt, but I think that people often overcompensate once realizing this and become arrogant and stubborn.

Personally I think my purpose is to heal minds. I'm pursuing a degree in social working in order to do so. I would also like to be a musician and make music that would help people achieve a better perspective on life. (I'm still researching how to do this),

No doubt man.

[Daffy Duck]

Originally Posted by blossom

I think it's good to try everything once (or twice) A person can be healthy and take drugs.

A person can be healthy and have sex with sheep, but I wouldn't recommend it for "living life to its fullest".

Of course, we all decide what "living life to the fullest" means for ourselves. For me, that doesn't involve trying out drugs like E, cocaine, etc. It also doesn't involve sex with sheep or donkies or anyone over the age of 90. It doesn't involve climbing Everest. It doesn't even involve eating raisins.

Conan, I agree that America has some stupid drug policies and especially that too many kids are said to have ADD and put on drugs. Some people tried to put my nephew on drugs because he wouldn't do his homework or focus in class. They even held him back a grade. This was a few years ago. Now they tested his abilities and found that he shouldn't have been held back and not only that, he is far beyond his grade level so they are moving him up a grade and putting him in GIFTED classes. I talked with him recently and he said, "Yeah I'm not very good at listening in class. It's just boring to me because I already know it." So I think many kids are too SMART and need to be CHALLENGED but instead of encouraging them, some fools want to drug them up instead.