Motivation And Perspective

[aiminghigh]

Hello! I LOVE THIS FORUM!

My life has been a struggle to rise social status since about the age of 13!
here's my story:
I live outside a little place 15miles outside a city, and all the "cool people" from the city really looks down on everyone and everything from this little place(bad starting point), high school mentality at it's worst!

I early realized that if i didn't get any cool friends(know it sounds silly) from outside of my shitplace than i wouldn't ever being able to get to know hot chicks, go to cool parties and so on!
So me and a friend who is a year older, who also got the "picture" decided to ACT upon the situation! IMPROVE! (drop fat, earn more, fresh clothes, confident, successfull in school and so on)
If i look back 2 years i was : a fat physically strong guy(this is my best quality! i squatted over 420pounds at age of 15)with low self esteem and NO chance with chicks and nearly a criminal because of bitternes towards the world in general (my own failure i guess!)
NOW: i am a fit and hadsome guy who actually have managed to build my social proof and many of the "cool people" (successfull people who get ALL the chicks) greets me and somehow "respect's me" as a friend, although i still live where i started. But girls won't be with a guy who lives where i live as a couple(it's very unpractical ! and unattractive, have heard it lots of times! )


here is the deal: i am 100% dependent on my friend because he is the only guy with a car, I can't plan meeting people and so on BECAUSE I AM DEPENDENT ON TRANSPORT which only he can provide me, THIS IS SO F...ED UP he also must drive me home when we/i have been out, i hate being dependent on others, it puts me in a awful emotional state! my friend moves in 8months ! so i am on my own then.
So i seriously consider doing something drastically : what would you do in my situation!?
HOW CAN PEOPLE HANDLE LIMITING ENVIRONMENTS AS THIS,!!!? don't see any opportunities right now!
anyone been in a similar situation?
this post may be at bit whining BUT i am deply stuck and feeling needy

ALL answers are very much appriciated!!
have a great day everyone

[Brutha]

How old are you at the moment? I moving out an option?

[placebo]

I've been in the exact situation in high school. I lived 5 miles from city and had to travel all the time. Plus, here you can't drive until you're 18. And i went to school and bball trainings every single day. I used bus very often, now i can admit, i made false bus tickets. And we hitchhiked a lot.
My friend worked his ass of one summer to earn money and buy motorcicle. I believe that your school buddies wouldn't think of me as a cool guy, but i didn't care then and i don't care now. We had a lot of fun traveling to school and finding ways to go downtown.

But point is : don't change because of other people. Don't lose weight because of others, don't try being cool because of other. Do it for yourself.

[norbert]

Relax. The world completely changes every single month. 8 months is a lot. Wait until the end of February and see how everything took another direction. Go do something that you love.

[aiminghigh]

"How old are you at the moment? I moving out an option?"

I am 17,5 (18 in juli)
I have talked to a advisor at school, and she agreeds that i should move ASAP, The good news for me, is that she said that it was highly likely that I should get a scholarship to cover the expenses of a department, so I am Glad now! It all depends on how good i am at convincing the conselours that I should have one.
BUT, if i didn't have one, would a loan be a ok alternate??:S
No didn't change because of others, but because of the results that i desired, but i guess there is a truth in both statements!!

hate noticing that i have written "I" 100times i a post:P
sorry about my spelling mistakes folks;S english isn't my foreign language!
thank you for answers

[Liara Covert]

It's great you're looking into options. Speaking to a guidance counsellor sounded very useful. You might ask this person for advice on a letter you write to explain to counselors why you think you need the scholarship. I would suggest listing ideas in point form and then write it in long-hand later.

Before you assume you need another option, I would encourage you to see this one through. It sounds like a very good chance it could work for you.

Let us know how it works out.
Best wishes!

"I'm here today to urge you to keep the faith."-Mary Wells

[Dani]

Bicycle is always an option.

15 miles is a long way, but if you take your time you can do it.

I can ride 15 miles in under 2 hours. It will get you really fit too.

Not many options other than bike, public transport or your friend really.

[Liara Covert]

Dear "aiming high,"

How did things turn out? Did you find a bicycle? We would enjoy an update.

Best wishes!

[aiminghigh]

thanx for support!

didn't get any schoolarship to cover the expences of a apartment.... :/
So I must find another option.
It's impossible to bicycle 15(30total)miles for me everyday, because I am living in North europe.
the roads are narrow and goes up, down, and bends in all directions, and they are covered with snow and ice most of the year in minus 10 degreeds......!
even tough my parents are the kindest persons ever, they live tragic lives
with jobs they hate, very depressed all the time, and overall very disatisfying lives.(they are the last persons to give me economical support
Since they neglect my problem, it feels like they are trapping me in the same
depressing thought patterns, and frequently repeats sentences as:
"life is terrible, don't expect anything good"
"your situation is as it is, and you can't do much, life is poor"
and so on..... not very motivating;D
but i know they are wrong....here are a list of some (oppurtunities)
my school is very hard and I have 45+ hours a week there plus my job.
but are considering taking another job so money won't be a limiting factor.


-take a ordinary loan (rents!)
-deteriorate school and focus on work --)

[mattsonn]

I don't own a car either, and won't be able to afford one for awhile. I highly recommend reading 1001 Arabian Nights, or whatever it's called. It's pretty inspiring how the heroes in those stories often have it pretty bad, but are extremely accepting of what they can't change.