tired of making descisions in life

[lespauldude]

i'm in college right now and there are just a ton of decisions to make every day. from what classes to take, what to study at the particular moment, if i should study or go to a party, what to pick up as a hobby (if only i could ever keep with it), etc... does anyone feel this way too? every damn day, hour, minute, etc... i have to figure out who i want to hang out with, what to read, what website to go on. **** it.

Does anyone else here feel the same way sometimes?

[Holistic Star]

Send me a check for £10,000 and I'll make your decisons for you:

The classes you take tomorrow, are maths, geography and chemistry, whether you like them or not. You will go to the party on Saturday night, but you are not to talk to Sarah or Donny, and will spend the night in the kitchen talking to Jeff and later dancing to Dancing Queen by Abba. The next day you are going to go for a 8 mile run and read The Unbearable Lightnes of Being in the afternoon.

Does that sound like for a deal!


Seriously speaking though. It sounds like you are over analysing every decision and worrying about the consequences too much. So you read a duff book. Doesn't matter, choose better next time. So you waste time on a website. Don't we all! So you're worried about studying, remember it all or even if you are doing the right course. Nothing is irreversable, nothing is wasted. You can always study new information later on of you want to.

Instead of seeing each decision as the be all and end all, try to have fun with them. Does this one feel good, no? Ok, what about that one. How can I get both or all three options if I rearrange things? How can I make time to study AND go to the party?

[ZHereford]

Hey lespauldude, it sounds like you're a bit overwhelmed.

Everything you do on a daily basis results from choices or decisions. What do you expect? I guess you could just lay down and do nothing, but even that would be a decision.

[Eric Roosevelt]

It looks like you may be trying to make too many decisions at the same time. Try to take it slowly, and figure them out one by one. No matter how much we want to achieve, we only have a limited amount of mental RAM. Start by focusing on one decision, and one decision only.

Then make sure you reach absolute certainty on that particular decision, before you move on. And instead of thinking so much about future decisions, try to focus on the decision you have to make here and now. Bring back your attention to what you're doing.

Those are my tips for a situation like this. Is it hard to implement in practice? Yup, really hard. But if you just keep moving, and don't be afraid to make some mistakes along the way, you'll probably soon be on a roll again.

[ArthurHung]

Try this.

1) Whatever decision that comes into your life, just say (outloud, or in your brain), "brain, take care of this", then move on to enjoying the present moment.

You'll find this works quite well when it comes to things that require logic, like deleting people off your phone but not so good when say, driving.

2) Whatever decision that comes into your life, just say (outloud, or in your brain), "heart, take care of this", then move on to enjoying the present moment.

You'll find this works quite well when it comes to things that require dealing with people, like driving, talking to strangers, or friends, then focus on doing what you want to do that requires logic.

3) A combination of both.

[MillenniumMike]

I am in college aswell and all I have to say is the alternative of people make all the decisions for you is a lot worse. Write out a general focus or policy of what you want to general focus on, and things will become much easier. If you want to focus on, you should a have a major and that will help you decide what classes to choose. An overall goal will help decide on who to hang out with and what hobbies to take.

[nhaasch]

I wonder if you could make a single decision about your attitude towards decisions that would make the rest of the decisions easier to make.

I'm not saying this just to be silly or mean, I really do mean it. You seem to hold a belief that making a whole bunch of decisions is tiring. I wonder if you could find a way to make it exciting!

You might want to examine this belief a little more clearly as to what about making decisions is making you tired. Are you trying to analyze every possible outcome from each decision? Are you worried you'll make a wrong decision?

Weather you realize it or not the decision are always there. You can choose to ignore them but that will merely leave you less opportunities to act. Take control of your life! Find a way to make decisions more quickly and find a way to make it enjoyable. Be alright with making a poor decision. It happens. Just make sure to learn when you do!

[Asmoday]

Originally Posted by Eric Roosevelt

It looks like you may be trying to make too many decisions at the same time. Try to take it slowly, and figure them out one by one. No matter how much we want to achieve, we only have a limited amount of mental RAM. Start by focusing on one decision, and one decision only.

Then make sure you reach absolute certainty on that particular decision, before you move on. And instead of thinking so much about future decisions, try to focus on the decision you have to make here and now. Bring back your attention to what you're doing.

Those are my tips for a situation like this. Is it hard to implement in practice? Yup, really hard. But if you just keep moving, and don't be afraid to make some mistakes along the way, you'll probably soon be on a roll again.

I agree, this specific form of apathy is caused because you're grouping ALL these decisions together in one to-do list. One day, one choice at a time, mano.

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[Power]

Originally Posted by lespauldude

i'm in college right now and there are just a ton of decisions to make every day. from what classes to take, what to study at the particular moment, if i should study or go to a party, what to pick up as a hobby (if only i could ever keep with it), etc... does anyone feel this way too? every damn day, hour, minute, etc... i have to figure out who i want to hang out with, what to read, what website to go on. **** it.

Does anyone else here feel the same way sometimes?

It's good that you've come to realize that there are heaps of decision to be made. Making no decision at all is a decision in itself. And not embracing your power to make decisions can lead to regret down the road.

Every decision leads to a certain future. "The cause (decision) and the effect (outcome)." When you get older, sometimes you tell yourself that you wish you've made certain decisions when you were at a certain age. Often when you go with the flow, you end up where you don't want to be.