Six Tasks Character Development

[KevinG]

I want to kick off this forum with the first post about character. I am an Olympic Taekwondo instructor and we have five tenets that we live by, train by, and teach our students. They are:

1. Courtesy
2. Integrity
3. Perseverance
4. Self Control
5. Indomitable Spirit

In 2005 I attended the martial arts super show in Las Vegas. I got to sit in on a seminar given by a great instructor, Tom Callos. Tom has a program that he uses with all his students, adults and kids a like, called "The Six Tasks Character Development Program."

Each student must do six tasks per day strictly to benefit others. Whether it is holding the door for someone, donating time, etc. I think this is one of the greatest programs to teach kids, and it is great for adults too. For all of you out there with children, perhaps you can consider integrating something like this into their life and then lead by example. You will be surprised at how good you feel at the end of the day!

[Trina]

What a great program! I wish more people did stuff like that on a daily basis. Definitely something I am going to get my nieces and nephew doing!

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by KevinG

Each student must do six tasks per day strictly to benefit others. Whether it is holding the door for someone, donating time, etc. I think this is one of the greatest programs to teach kids, and it is great for adults too. For all of you out there with children, perhaps you can consider integrating something like this into their life and then lead by example. You will be surprised at how good you feel at the end of the day!

What are some of the tasks you most commonly perform Kevin?

[KevinG]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

What are some of the tasks you most commonly perform Kevin?

I do any of number of things daily. I try to do many of the things while I teach such as letting kids stay after class so they can get some extra help from me, meeting them on the weekends for no charge if they are having trouble learning something or they need extra help on something.

As far as in general public I just watch for situations where I might be able to do something nice for someone. I always hold the door for people, when I go through toll booths on the highway a lot of times I will pay for the person behind me; sometimes I do this if I'm getting fast food as well, or buying movie tickets. I'll stop to help people that are having car trouble, etc.

But most importantly, I accomplish thousands of tasks through others who I teach the program to. That is the magical thing about it.

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

What are some of the tasks you most commonly perform Kevin?

Dan! Let's not put this all on Kevin.

What six things do everyone do to benefit others daily? Post six things you did today, and six things you plan to do in the future!'

Today I:
Complemented a bunch of people (genuine complements, not just flattery.)
Held the door for a bunch of people
Helped someone pick out cigars at my client's office
Provided free service for a client (although it was in my best interest as well, to keep my name in high standing)
Gave my uncle a massage without his asking. (he thoroughly enjoyed it)
Shared a video of my baby cousin to a couple people in a bad mood (the smile of a child has a contagious effect!)

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by KevinG

As far as in general public I just watch for situations where I might be able to do something nice for someone. I always hold the door for people, when I go through toll booths on the highway a lot of times I will pay for the person behind me; sometimes I do this if I'm getting fast food as well, or buying movie tickets. I'll stop to help people that are having car trouble, etc.

Right on, thanks Kevin.

Originally Posted by Dave Kaminski

Dan! Let's not put this all on Kevin.
What six things do everyone do to benefit others daily? Post six things you did today, and six things you plan to do in the future!'

I try to leave situations a little better off than I find them, I guess I don't really think about it much beyond that. Let me try to remember today though...

- I helped about 40 people fix their computers over the phone today at my job. But that's just daily stats.
- I switched shifts with someone who needed Saturday off.. but he and I always trade so that's just more of a mutual convenience than anything.

I can't think of much else..

I wasn't trying to "put something all on someone" BTW... I thought Kevin might actually have a daily routine he followed that I could incorporate..

Generally, the people who need help the most don't seem to want help much... for example, the best thing I could do for my roomate would probably be to smash up his home PC so he stopped playing WOW 6 hours a day - but *shrugs* that's not really my place right? I could probably uninstall his network card drivers though, he's not very technical... hmm....

[Adam]

Six things, eh? Here's today's.

• Stayed after I was finished teaching to help a couple of students who were struggling, despite having to grade quite a few tests.
• Taught another teacher how to get information off of the network, rather than doing it myself (which would have been faster and easier).
• I almost always hold the door for people, but I'm listing it now because I'm having trouble coming up with more things.
• Counseled one of my students who was over-stressed (thankfully, not stressed about my class ).
• Did the laundry for my wife.
• Cleaned before my wife woke up, which is a new habit for me.

Here's what I want to make habits out of (or are already habits):

• Help students first.
• Teach people how to be independent.
• Continue to keep the apartment clean for my wife without her asking me to.
• Be the best moderator that I can be.
• Honestly compliment others as often as possible (Easy, but very effective).
• Be creative with ways that I can improve people's lives.

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by Adam

• Be creative with ways that I can improve people's lives.

So you're sayin' to smash stuff.... Good to know we're on the same page.. =)

I wonder how making fun of WOW is going to go over with an ex-game developer.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

You're sayin' to smash stuff.... Good to know we're on the same page! =)

I wonder how making fun of WOW is going to go over with an ex-game developer.

If you are wondering how Steve would feel, well, considering that all of his games were non-violent, I don't think his opinion of WOW is very high to begin with...

As far as a creative method to stop your roommate from playing WOW, editing his hosts file to redirect all of the WOW server's DNS entries to 127.0.0.1 is extremely effective, even though it is very devious. Asking him how much he accomplished at the end of each day, though, would probably be a lot less traumatizing.

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by Adam

Asking him how much he accomplished at the end of each day, though, would probably be a lot less traumatizing.

Agreed on all counts... that etc folder will get ya.

Sadly, I think he's too busy staring at the screen to conversate much though. Or he would just tell me what he accomplished was leveling up.

I'm just trying to do the whole "set an example" thing. Which is rough for me, because I like having people to do things with more than I like setting examples.

Steve, what *do* you think about someone playing WOW six hours a day? He just works, and plays..

[Trina]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

Sadly, I think he's too busy staring at the screen to conversate much though. Or he would just tell me what he accomplished was leveling up.

LOL, when Adam was telling me about this thread I said the SAME THING! Haha.

I don't know if I can think of six things for today, but I'll give it a try...

1. I had a conversation with someone about her dad's terminal illness having gone through the same thing with my own parents and helped her to feel better about it and let her know there is someone out there that understands. She seemed to benefit so I felt like it was a good deed.

2. I helped my sister-in-law clean her apartment and fold some clothes. She has three small children and gets overwhelmed at times.

3. Uh... I opened the door for someone. LMAO. Does that count?

4. I let someone know how proud I am of them today.

5. Offered support to a military wife who is having a hard time dealing with her husband's deployment.

6. Yeah, I am grasping at straws here. I barely left my house today... LOL.

I promise I will look for six things to do tomorrow and have a much better list. It's hard to come up with specific things to do before the day starts when you spend most of your day home alone! Will petting my kitties count?

[JohnnyJimJams]

Hi all,

My friends got together and chipped in around $40AU each and purchased me a copy of World of Warcraft, and a 3 month membership.

I thought about it for 2 minutes, and turned it down. It would definately occupy too much of my time, and my time can't be replaced.

It was a tough decision to make at the time, cause surprisingly, I like my mates , and I love computer games, but I have a young family and a lot of personal development that I really want to do.

As for good things I did today

1) Stayed back after work to help the boss for about 1/2 hour, even though it was gonna rain, and I ride a motorcycle. I'm such a swell guy

2) Turned my pregnant fiance's frown upside down.

3) Did some manual labor that everyone else was dreading, that was not my responsibility.

4) I went the extra mile to help out a customer that needed some info.

5) .....

6) .....

Maybe if I had of known there was a quota!



Johnny

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by JohnnyJimJams

I thought about it for 2 minutes, and turned it down. It would definately occupy too much of my time, and my time can't be replaced.


Maybe if I had of known there was a quota!

Johnny

You should be proud Johnny. I see that a game takes up too much of my time, and I quit, only to come back again in a couple or a few months. It's silly but I guess it could be seen as an addiction.

There's no quota, I think it's more of a state of mind for me. I'm always trying to think of how I can put others first. I'm writing an eBook on computer security for my clients free of charge. When I buy my first house (aka investment property with me living in it) I'm going to do my best to help the three stranger-families that live with me however I can. When I do business, my clients get VALUE and I get a livelihood. When I hold the door for people, they smile and I smile back. It's all win-win!

[Gautam]

Have you ever done a random act of kindness? Or have you ever been on the recieving end of a random act of kindness? Share with us...

My Story
Normally, I refrain from sharing whatever small acts of kindness with others. These are those moments in my life where I feel good in my heart and I keep them to myself. But generally speaking, my random acts of kindness are very simple and minute and I do it whenever I can.

Last year, I went to this restaurant to get some dinner and then after ordering the food somehow I really didn't feel like eating it. So I got that food packed and stepped outside in the cold. I saw an old lady sitting on the corner of the street asking for change. In true robin hood fashion, I put up the hood of my jacket, walked upto her and gave her the pack of hot food and dissappeared before she could recover from the sudden surprize.

Now I know it wasn't a major contribution but I felt good inside and I know that old lady had a good meal that cold night.

Tell us your story...

[Michael Chui]

Though I live in Seattle, there's an ice cream place on what we call The Ave. Earlier this year, in the afternoon, I went there to grab a bit of something to carry back down to the classroom while I worked on a school project.

When I got there, I ordered, got my ice cream, and forked over a $20, fresh from the ATM. But the cash register was broken. The guy seemed to be new on the job. So he fiddled with it--I didn't mind standing around and waiting; I was hardly in a hurry. But ultimately, he gave up and told me to just go. With my 20.

I assumed it would come out of his pocket. I didn't have change myself. So I left, carried on. It was nice of him.

But my story doesn't end there. I passed by again that night and noticed the place was busy. Which meant the register had been fixed. So I went, had dinner, came back and handed him the 20 again. I had to remind him what it was for.

I still wonder what he thinks of the experience. For me, it was about not feeling (irrationally) guilty, and not letting someone take a hit for me when it was well within my means to prevent that. I don't know if that counts as random or kind, but it's the story that popped into my head when I read the prompt.

[Gautam]

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

I don't know if that counts as random or kind, but it's the story that popped into my head when I read the prompt.

Well first it was kind on his part to take a hit for you. And then it was kind on your part to return the money. Sometimes us humans can be so beautiful to each other!