How to make a choice to our self

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It’s a simple question like what many people think, but as what I always share to my articles that I learn from books, podcast and from my first hand observations the simplest is what the hardest discipline, rules or principle many people can’t do. Like for example DO NOT STEP ON THE GRASS or THROW YOUR GARBAGE OVER HERE AND NOT OVER THERE simple instruction but we are the witness that many people still don’t follow such a simple rules and also we got to admit that we are one of them sometimes or often.

Making choices in life has a lot of ways to do, it seems easy for us to make if we are not the one who are in the hot seat but I know and you know that we all have experience to have sleepless night thinking “which is which”, I can also agree that there are times in our life that we made a choice quickly and seems we are very confident to what we decided to choose even in critical situations.

So HOW TO MAKE A CHOICE TO OUR SELF? Is there any clear answer to this question? Or this is situational and there is no really exact answer for this?

Well I think I have the exact answer…

I believe the reason why we are so quick and confident to make a choice, sometimes; even in a critical situation is because of two reasons A.) We are detached to what others opinion and B.) We know what we really want.

So simple if you are not a type of person who needs the external approval… and the letter B will be easy for you. Most of the people I knew who have a hard time to make-up their mind is those people who are so easily convince on what the commercial advertisement says and people who are very sensitive on what is the latest trend and what is the opinion of others.

Let us remind our self that EVERYBODY IS UNIQUE and BEAUTY IS UPON THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER what is good for you may not appeal to me. We have different needs and wants in life some people value quality time to their family instead of high paying salary or some people put amount of their time to hobby rather than on finding their future other half. So we must not be offended if someone makes an opinion that is not favorable on our choice… because probably they are not on our exact situation.

Let set an example here; let say you will buy a car, people usually ask WHAT IS THE BEST CAR TO BUY?

The word BEST is very general if you ask a person who value practicality he might say buying a 94 Corolla XE will be a bang for the buck because its economical in gas since it’s a 1300cc engine and the parts of Toyota is very available everywhere, if you ask person who value performance and style he might answer any series of Mitsubishi Evolution is the best buy because of the turbo engine and have impressive history in rally races plus the aggressive looks! or if you ask a person who value full comfort he might answer nothing will beat to SUV’s or Vans. You see all of them are correct answer or not it depends of what you really want, same thing if you buy a professional camera, what do you value? budget, performance or comfort and the list goes on…

I also realize that sometimes after making your choice you need to be brave enough to face the pros and cons of your choice… of course we all know life is not a bed of roses and we must learn how to deal with the thorns and figure out how to be our asset.

REGRET IS NOT THE ANSWER

It may happen that what we choose yesterday we do not need anymore today, remember this, growth is part of life we progress and we make improvement. It doesn’t mean that last year you choose to buy car and after one year you need to upgrade for a van because your kids are growing and then you whine around saying that you should buy van since before instead of buying the car first. Instead of being regretful, for me we must accept changes in life and rejoice that we are growing! We also don’t know sometimes we buy the whole pie and in the end of the day we realize we just only need the ¼ of it.

Be detached to the opinion of others and if someone gives you a word of disapproval to your choice you can say it nicely to your self or to the person who made the opinion that

Your opinion is not my business… and then move on