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remoteguy · 02-22-2009, 08:56 PM

hello everybody, iam a 21 years guy which is suffering of empty life, like i dont know what to do.. i feel really weak in sense that i can't hold anything without saying it, which caused me a weak relation with the girl i like, and it was destroyed before it begins, since i say everything i feel, and also iam so emotional which also makes troubles, and i feel that i dont have a real goal.. iam interseted il finance, but even iam majoring in it, iam not giving it the things that a normal person provide to serve his perpose.. i need help to have courage and motivation, i used to read books and now iam not, iam using the internet in an addictive way that is not healthy.. but my life is empty, and iam single also .. :S

remoteguy · 02-22-2009, 09:07 PM

btw i have a strong personality infrot of people, that makes me remarkable in the societies, but i feel between me and myself that all of that is to hide my weakness.. any suggestions?

Susanna77 · 02-22-2009, 09:13 PM

Meditate. (the answer to what you want to do in life may come then)

Or...

Is there something you used to love as a child and now totally forgot about?

Or...

this might help: Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change your Life | Wise Bread

DJCT · 02-22-2009, 10:02 PM

Are there any small things in your life that you could do to build some positive momentum? This will sound like a simplistic suggestion but in the past I faced similar internal conditions and doing even small things like getting rid of stuff I didn't need anymore, cleaning my house and car or tackling small projects helped me feel better. Just small things that helped me understand that I had power over my life. Once you can get some positive momentum it helps give you better perspective.

I know some people on here are fond of the big questions: what do you love? what is your passion? what inspires you? etc... I envy the people that can jump into those things. For me though I found I had to start simple and build up to that.

SimonaRich · 02-23-2009, 05:49 PM

The more you talk about how weak and unhappy you are, the more weak and unhappy you will become. You should use positive affirmations and always look at positive aspects of life rather than negative.

So instead of concentrating on how weak you are, focus on your best character features and improve them even more, so that you would become unique to the point that you are attracting other people to you without any effort from your part.

Once you get more self - confidence you will most definitely find some kind of passion, because you will relax a bit and take your mind off depressing topics.

remoteguy · 02-23-2009, 11:18 PM

thank you all for replying .. and iam really feeling better when doing so.. like improving my skills i already have, and i think it may work with time.. but what is bothering me right now is not having a relation full of passion and care and tendency, like i know a girl, but iam not doing well in sense to make her love me .. ( .. any suggestions??

Parthon · 02-24-2009, 02:30 AM

Do you dance anymore?

I think you used to dance, but you haven't for a while, you should do it again, even if it's just in your own ... I want to say living room, but I think I'd be more correct in saying appartment.

I may be way off, but dancing could be your opening into expression, and not having to keep everything bundled up inside.

02-22-2009, 08:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
remoteguy Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 6	S.o.s hello everybody, iam a 21 years guy which is suffering of empty life, like i dont know what to do.. i feel really weak in sense that i can't hold anything without saying it, which caused me a weak relation with the girl i like, and it was destroyed before it begins, since i say everything i feel, and also iam so emotional which also makes troubles, and i feel that i dont have a real goal.. iam interseted il finance, but even iam majoring in it, iam not giving it the things that a normal person provide to serve his perpose.. i need help to have courage and motivation, i used to read books and now iam not, iam using the internet in an addictive way that is not healthy.. but my life is empty, and iam single also .. :S

02-22-2009, 09:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
remoteguy Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 6	also btw i have a strong personality infrot of people, that makes me remarkable in the societies, but i feel between me and myself that all of that is to hide my weakness.. any suggestions?

02-23-2009, 11:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
remoteguy Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 6	thanks:) thank you all for replying .. and iam really feeling better when doing so.. like improving my skills i already have, and i think it may work with time.. but what is bothering me right now is not having a relation full of passion and care and tendency, like i know a girl, but iam not doing well in sense to make her love me .. ( .. any suggestions??

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02-22-2009, 09:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
Susanna77 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 286	Meditate. (the answer to what you want to do in life may come then) Or... Is there something you used to love as a child and now totally forgot about? Or... this might help: Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change your Life \| Wise Bread

02-22-2009, 10:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
DJCT Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 29	Are there any small things in your life that you could do to build some positive momentum? This will sound like a simplistic suggestion but in the past I faced similar internal conditions and doing even small things like getting rid of stuff I didn't need anymore, cleaning my house and car or tackling small projects helped me feel better. Just small things that helped me understand that I had power over my life. Once you can get some positive momentum it helps give you better perspective. I know some people on here are fond of the big questions: what do you love? what is your passion? what inspires you? etc... I envy the people that can jump into those things. For me though I found I had to start simple and build up to that.

02-23-2009, 05:49 PM	#5 (permalink)
SimonaRich Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London, United Kingdom Posts: 912	The more you talk about how weak and unhappy you are, the more weak and unhappy you will become. You should use positive affirmations and always look at positive aspects of life rather than negative. So instead of concentrating on how weak you are, focus on your best character features and improve them even more, so that you would become unique to the point that you are attracting other people to you without any effort from your part. Once you get more self - confidence you will most definitely find some kind of passion, because you will relax a bit and take your mind off depressing topics.

02-24-2009, 02:30 AM	#7 (permalink)
Parthon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Perth, Australia Posts: 1,532	Do you dance anymore? I think you used to dance, but you haven't for a while, you should do it again, even if it's just in your own ... I want to say living room, but I think I'd be more correct in saying appartment. I may be way off, but dancing could be your opening into expression, and not having to keep everything bundled up inside.

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