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JE Gonzalez · 01-14-2009, 08:30 PM

I can sometimes be judgmental. I don't try or mean anything, but a part of me can be quick to judge other people (from years of ostracizing and bullying as a young child). At my age at 25, I find many people unfocussed and foolish. But I always tell myself that you never know where life will take these people. One of my best friends, who I find to be very talented and charismatic hangs around what seem like dumb losers to me. Yet I always remember that Steve Pavlina and many admirable individuals were once delinquents (Tim Allen comes to mind) and some people had totally different intentions at youth (The creator of Spongebob Squarepants was a marine biologist, and many of my favorite artists went to medical school!).

Just a thought.

dice · 01-14-2009, 11:09 PM

To add:

Young people catch on to judgemental older people. Fast. No matter how subtle you think you are, they'll always see right through you. Its a really good way to earn some hardcore hatred. I had a drama teacher who was condensending in a passive-agressive manner. Everyone knew, although she was never upfront about it.

Nobody liked her, or tried to see past her 'judgement'.

Young folk are much less forgiving of people who are supposed to be their role models.

silicon toad2000 · 01-15-2009, 04:24 AM

I prejudge everyone as complete morons, most of the time I am pleasantly surprised.

jtracy · 01-15-2009, 11:21 AM

I don't think you should judge anyone at any age. First of all you can never really know them, since you "haven't walked a mile in their shoes". People may be struggling with problems or issues you are completely unaware of, and this can affect a great deal how they come across. Second of all, it is true that people can change, even at an old age. Nobody is static, unless they're just existing. Some people have done amazing things even when they were in their 70's, often for the first time. I certainly wouldn't want to think that now I'm 50 I aren't going to change, that there's no way I'll accomplish anything more significant and there's nowhere to go but down. And it's true that when you judge young people they pick up on that very fast and they unconsciously do their best to prove you right. If you have judged them negatively, that's not a good thing!

SimonaRich · 01-15-2009, 05:27 PM

You cannot use an excuse that others were foolish to be judgemental. To judgement of others have roots in separatism mentality, and that's agains the universal laws. If you want to have an unsatisfying life full of failures, you can continue looking at others through your limited lense and judging.

We are all one consciousness so if you judge someone, you judge yourself. If you do harm to someone, you are harming yourself. It's silly to do that as you lower the consciounsess in all people.

magi13 · 01-15-2009, 05:58 PM

I'll play the devil's advocate in this group for the sake of a good academic discussion.

^^,

I don't mind judging someone on first impression, how they look, smell or act. I've always trusted my instincts. I am sure your inner self will not lie to you if you listen.

It's there job to prove the contrary. I don't mind being bias unless in a hypothetical or academic discussion in class, but in the real world, if you are not judgmental you'll be an easy prey to those who have malicious intent. Trust your gut or your intuition, if you judge someone just keep it in your head, but keep that person in check so you will not forget.

Besides memory works this way too. ^^

A friendly warning on the downside of being to not judgmental.

Peace

"Be one of the good guys."

lifetimelearner · 01-15-2009, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by magi13

I'll play the devil's advocate in this group for the sake of a good academic discussion.

^^,

I don't mind judging someone on first impression, how they look, smell or act. I've always trusted my instincts. I am sure your inner self will not lie to you if you listen.

It's there job to prove the contrary. I don't mind being bias unless in a hypothetical or academic discussion in class, but in the real world, if you are not judgmental you'll be an easy prey to those who have malicious intent. Trust your gut or your intuition, if you judge someone just keep it in your head, but keep that person in check so you will not forget.

Besides memory works this way too. ^^

A friendly warning on the downside of being to not judgmental.

Peace

"Be one of the good guys."

believe it or not
I am going to agree with you on this one

01-14-2009, 08:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
JE Gonzalez Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Colombia Posts: 77	Its wrong to judge someone at a young age I can sometimes be judgmental. I don't try or mean anything, but a part of me can be quick to judge other people (from years of ostracizing and bullying as a young child). At my age at 25, I find many people unfocussed and foolish. But I always tell myself that you never know where life will take these people. One of my best friends, who I find to be very talented and charismatic hangs around what seem like dumb losers to me. Yet I always remember that Steve Pavlina and many admirable individuals were once delinquents (Tim Allen comes to mind) and some people had totally different intentions at youth (The creator of Spongebob Squarepants was a marine biologist, and many of my favorite artists went to medical school!). Just a thought.

01-15-2009, 05:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
magi13 Family Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Philippines Posts: 1,421	I'll play the devil's advocate in this group for the sake of a good academic discussion. ^^, I don't mind judging someone on first impression, how they look, smell or act. I've always trusted my instincts. I am sure your inner self will not lie to you if you listen. It's there job to prove the contrary. I don't mind being bias unless in a hypothetical or academic discussion in class, but in the real world, if you are not judgmental you'll be an easy prey to those who have malicious intent. Trust your gut or your intuition, if you judge someone just keep it in your head, but keep that person in check so you will not forget. Besides memory works this way too. ^^ A friendly warning on the downside of being to not judgmental. Peace "Be one of the good guys." Last edited by magi13; 01-15-2009 at 06:04 PM.

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01-14-2009, 11:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
dice Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 435	To add: Young people catch on to judgemental older people. Fast. No matter how subtle you think you are, they'll always see right through you. Its a really good way to earn some hardcore hatred. I had a drama teacher who was condensending in a passive-agressive manner. Everyone knew, although she was never upfront about it. Nobody liked her, or tried to see past her 'judgement'. Young folk are much less forgiving of people who are supposed to be their role models.

01-15-2009, 04:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
silicon toad2000 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 728	I prejudge everyone as complete morons, most of the time I am pleasantly surprised.

01-15-2009, 11:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
jtracy Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 159	I don't think you should judge anyone at any age. First of all you can never really know them, since you "haven't walked a mile in their shoes". People may be struggling with problems or issues you are completely unaware of, and this can affect a great deal how they come across. Second of all, it is true that people can change, even at an old age. Nobody is static, unless they're just existing. Some people have done amazing things even when they were in their 70's, often for the first time. I certainly wouldn't want to think that now I'm 50 I aren't going to change, that there's no way I'll accomplish anything more significant and there's nowhere to go but down. And it's true that when you judge young people they pick up on that very fast and they unconsciously do their best to prove you right. If you have judged them negatively, that's not a good thing!

01-15-2009, 05:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
SimonaRich Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London, United Kingdom Posts: 912	You cannot use an excuse that others were foolish to be judgemental. To judgement of others have roots in separatism mentality, and that's agains the universal laws. If you want to have an unsatisfying life full of failures, you can continue looking at others through your limited lense and judging. We are all one consciousness so if you judge someone, you judge yourself. If you do harm to someone, you are harming yourself. It's silly to do that as you lower the consciounsess in all people.

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