What you want is who you are

[allirowe23]

I believe that the best way to judge a person is by what they want, because actions don't always reflect intentions and thoughts are always changing, and contradicting, and being misunderstood.

So I made a list of the things I want, it was a really good exercise for me, I thought maybe some other people would want to try it.

Here's mine, and how they've changed in the last six months:

I believe who you are is defined by what you want. [Still true]

I want to wake up feeling the same way I did yesterday. [Still very true]

I want to never give up on anyone, ever. [I can accept that sometimes people need distance, but I’ll never be the one to turn my back completely]

I want to bring out the best in everyone I meet. [I’m doing a terrible job of this and it makes me very sad]

I want every single day to improve me in some way. [Days have become so unrealistic; I don’t even improve each month anymore. I feel so digressive]

I want to be more intelligent. [I feel educated. Not necessarily intelligent]

I want to be more motivated. [I could always use more motivation, but my GPA this semester was higher than it ever was in high school]

I want to want to succeed. [I don’t know what I want to succeed at]

I want to know what pressure feels like. [Check]

I want to be given an ultimatum. [Check]

I want to be held to a standard. [Still waiting]

I want that standard to always rise just before I get comfortable. [Well I’m certainly not comfortable if that’s any reflection]

I want to understand. [Still waiting]

I want to grow up, learn responsibility and independence. [Check]

I want to stay a kid forever. [Very much not check. Childhood is over]

I want to be told I'm unforgettable. [Check]

I want to know, beyond reasonable doubt, that someone has my best interest in mind. [Still waiting]

I want to know what's right and wrong. [Still waiting]

I want to be needed. [Check. It’s not like I imagined it]

I want to say what I mean, and mean what I say. [If only I knew what I meant]

I want to want these things until the day I realize I have them. [I stopped wanting most of them, or at least focusing on wanting them. Maybe that’s my problem]

And some new ones:

I want to be a vegetarian

I want to be able to balance alternatives and make intelligent decisions quickly

I want to have a direction for my education, or accept that traditional education is not my direction

I want to release all the resentment I have for people in my life

I want to learn a skill that few people have

I want to know where to go from here

I want to feel uniquely designed for a specific purpose again

I want to feel called by a higher power

I want to learn how to relate to the mainstream without lowering myself to their standards

[magi13]

Sir why don't you try this.

Choose one of these goals which you think is the most priority and think about it all the time till you get it. I find LOA works faster for me this way keeping my mind focused on that one thing then when it arrives I move on.

Desire and technique ^^

[Angela]

Funny -- when I read the title of this thread I thought, Right On! That's all you need to know. But reading the OP, I see that you don't mean it the way I read it. Oh, well!

And it's true: what you want is who you are, although it might better be expressed: who you are is what you want.

What I mean is: if you examine all your wants for the true heart's desire that lies underneath them, those true heart's desires are already yours -- not just something you have, but something you actually ARE, right here, right now -- and the "desire" process is the fun game of unconcealing that to yourself.

Sure, you can mess around and play with the signposts -- the "goals" and surface desires -- it's fun! And you can also cut out the middle man and go straight for what you want to have, and go ahead and generate it -- BE it (that is, notice more and more that it already exists as you in infinite abundance).

I love it! What you want is who you are. Not exactly what you meant, I don't think, but a beautifully succinct statement. Thanks!

[sk8joyful]

Originally Posted by allirowe23

I believe
the best way to judge a person - is by what they want.

Here's mine, and how they've changed in the last six months:
I want to wake up feeling the same way I did yesterday. [Still very true]

I want to know, beyond reasonable doubt, that
someone has my best interest in mind. [Still waiting]

I want to know what's right and wrong. [Still waiting]
I want to feel called by a higher power

I want to release all the resentment I have for people in my life.

I want to be more motivated.
[I could always use more motivation, but my GPA this semester was higher than it ever was in high school]

I want to want to succeed.
[I don’t know what I want to succeed at]

I want to stay a kid forever. [Very much not check. Childhood is over]

I want every single day to improve me in some way.
[Days have become so unrealistic; I don’t even improve each month anymore. I feel so digressive]

I want to bring out the best in everyone I meet.
[I’m doing a terrible job of this and it makes me very sad]

I want to have a direction for my education, or
accept that traditional education is not my direction.
I want to know where to go from here

Forgive that I re-arranged your "list" abit.

Now, go find someone, to help you achieve all these. God Bless you!

[Raymond Burton]

Originally Posted by Angela

And it's true: what you want is who you are, although it might better be expressed: who you are is what you want.

What I mean is: if you examine all your wants for the true heart's desire that lies underneath them, those true heart's desires are already yours -- not just something you have, but something you actually ARE, right here, right now -- and the "desire" process is the fun game of unconcealing that to yourself.

!

This is an 'AHA' post for me. I can't add any other comment then that this made an impact. Thank you so much Angela.

[Angela]

I'm so glad, Ray! By the way, two of my heart's desires are Vitality and Power, and your fitness website is inspiring on both counts. I'll be taking the "V-Sit" with me into the gym this morning.

[Raymond Burton]

lol... If you want some real kicks, try the v-sit on the Bosu, (the half swiss ball just in case we call it something different here up north :-) ) curved side up. THEN, you can do your dumbbell curls in the same v-sit balanced position as well... I'd better stop...

[Angela]

Why don't I just go do SEALS training, Ray? I'm having heart palpitations just thinking about it. I'm going back to bed.