Somethings about us are just fine the way they are!

[sonicpunk32]

About two years ago, I started going to these personal developement sites and forums, reading all these articles of wisdom from sites by some guru or enlightened person. And it just dawned on me, that there are somethings about our personality that are just fine the way they are.

For example, I just read somewhere about how great being independent is. In terms of love. Not needing another person to make you feel complete. Or how great it is to be egoless. To live life unaffected by people, to live a life where you're unaffected by any situation that comes your way, good or bad.

Most of these concepts I just sit there and judge how these gurus can do that, and how come I cant. Thinking that I'm somehow living a worse life because I cant be as advanced as these gurus. I realized somethings are fine just the way they are. If i'm in a dependent relationship with my girlfriend and we're both happy about it, then we're fine just the way we are. If I cant hug and thank a person who punches me in the stomach, then I'm just fine the way I am.

[Daniel Becerra]

Not everything a "guru" says is true. In fact, most "gurus" understand things, but don't know them. Others just have a way to make things sound really well. Find your own truth.

[garym]

I think it's helpful to accept yourself as you are and to understand your own path based upon what you value the most. Take everything with a grain of salt, hold all ideas lightly. However, if you feel a tug towards a direction espoused by a guru, explore that. People like Steve Pavlina and Tony Robbins have incredible ideas, and you can pick and choose what is right for your situation. If you really want something, accept that there is a gap between what you want and where you are, and do something to move in that direction.

Easier said than done, I am the master of procrastination

[Fullcrum]

Whatever works for you.

But keep in mind these people have felt pain before and have consciously chosen their path to what they consider a better life.

If you don't think you could possibly be happier, then personal development may not be for you. But if you think something could be made better, than it is.

[Evan]

When we understand what attracts us and repels us in something or someone, then we have gained in understanding of ourselves. This brings a lightness to our interactions.

My way of saying it is that every part of ourselves is good, but not all behaviour is.

Awareness of who we are and what drives us is the first step to freedom.