Help. Im giving up.

[Nyx]

Hi,

I think I've given up on life. I've quit my job for 4 months now. At that time, I felt guilty and stayed at work really late everyday. I got fed up and quit. I've been playing online game since I've quit.

I can't find something that I want to do. I am so afraid of failing. Any advice.

Everyday is gaming, eat, sleep. It is affecting my relationship with my hubby as well.

[mercuryrising]

I checked out the book "What Color Is My Parachute" from the library which was very helpful in understanding who I am, where I want to go and how I can get there. It is written to people who are unemployed, perhaps this will help you as well.

[silicon toad2000]

Perhaps ease back into things, volunteer for a charity somewhere for a while and get back into the swing of things. All you need to do is turn up and do your best. Could help get your confidence back, learn new skills and all that.

[wolverine]

You say you can't find anything you want to do, yet everything you do is gaming (sleeping and eating are not counted in the 'doing' category unless you want to become a food taster or sleep experiment guinea pig). How could you possibly find something you want to do if you're not doing anything! What if you really (gasp!) don't want to be playing games, but it's an easy time-filler so you do it? What if you really don't like playing games very much when you compare it to other things you do like to do (even if you don't know yet what they are)?

To find out what you like, I don't think there's any better way than to get out there and do things, just try them to see what they're like and if you like them!

Talk to your husband too! Who else knows you as well as he does? Who else would be able to give you insight into what they can see you being happy doing? If nothing else, it might give you somewhere to start.

If you find that you don't want to be doing anything other than sleeping, eating and lazing around, see your doctor/therapist/priest/magical cat -- whoever it is that you go to when you're not feeling right. You may be depressed, you may not be eating the right foods, exercising enough (for that matter, exercise gets the endorphins and other chemicals in your body, which can get you feeling more positive -- try it!), you may have a chemical imbalance in your body, you may be clinging to childhood memories of something -- who knows! But if you don't want to do anything, don't just sit there are feel bad with yourself about it. I've been there, I know how hard it is, but it feels a hell of a lot better to dig yourself out of the hole and get going again, believe me.

Or come post on an annoymous message board, where at least you can see suggestions and maybe have the light come on in your head at last as to where you should be going next.

Fare well!


Wolverine

[NickW]

What kind of work did you quit? If it was exceptionally stressful, maybe you need recovery time.

You married less than a year ago, correct? What's your husband's reaction to this?

[andyoyo]

Damn, I want a wife that play VG 24/7 , all the girls up here just talk away on their phones & gossip with no imagination.

Gaming is such an amazing thing, but you need to understand how persisting in that direction, from how you worded it, will negatively effect your relationship with him. In that case, you need to consciously state to yourself that you want your husband to be satisfied, and if that means giving up a strong hobby of yours that makes me happy then arrrgh gotta make the sacrifice for your marriage

[Nicketas]

Originally Posted by Nyx

Hi,

I think I've given up on life. I've quit my job for 4 months now. At that time, I felt guilty and stayed at work really late everyday. I got fed up and quit. I've been playing online game since I've quit.

I can't find something that I want to do. I am so afraid of failing. Any advice.

Everyday is gaming, eat, sleep. It is affecting my relationship with my hubby as well.

EMDR Therapy. Look it up. Safest and most trusted & effective form of therapy available today.

[LoraleighV]

Well, you've made a good start by recognizing you have a problem and reaching out. Good for you.

There's been a lot of good suggestions here already, now you just need to make a decision about what to do.

I was in the same spot as you and decided to go back to school. I took a business admin course where the second year switched into accounting, marketing or stayed with business admin. It opened my eyes to more possibilities than I'd previously been aware of. School or different training might be an option for you as well.

Whatever you decide, keep us posted. We're rooting for you.