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evrgrn3 · 03-09-2008, 06:21 AM

I have spent a long time studying, writing, researching and presenting about why Personal Core Values are so important to the individual, couples, groups families, teams, cultures, and etc.. I have a strong belief that the more in-tune we are with our Core Values, the more synchronous our lives are.

Since I am fairly new to the forum experience, I am not sure what type of response I am to receive...but I wonder what you all would consider to be your Personal Core Values. Mine are:

Balance
Creativity
Integrity
Innovation
Family

I think to work from a common slate, look at this list and pick your top 5. I am curious to see if there are trends, similarities, etc. BUT, if yours are not on the list, feel free to make up your own! Do not any push from me to have to use the list :-) If you have your own, please use that! Steve Pavlina also has one on his blog that has been referred to in the past but I do not have the link for that.

My List

Thanks for taking part! I will keep track and post results as time passes!

evrgrn3 · 03-11-2008, 05:46 AM

Being new to the forum, i am not sure If I have asked a question bit outside of the norm...if so -- I do apologize

Maybe the discussion has occurred before and I was not around to see it happen -- if so, please let me know.

Otherwise, i would still really enjoy hearing about peoples core values and why they are important to them. I will elaborate upon mine:

Balance - I strive to find natural balance like the symbolic balance of the Yin and the Yang. I find this balance through nature and quiet.

Creativity - Amazing how the most unique things can impact so greatly, a new twist on an old idea, a colorful way to see black and white...creativity is a constant revival of the soul.

Integrity - Say what you do, do what you say. That's it.

Innovation - To develop new learning, a new perspective, a lens to see the world as never seen before so that all potential can be engaged is my dream of innovation.

Family - Whether it be biological, chosen, communal, or even societal, family is the foundation of my life.

I look forward to others postings!
Leo

supertom · 03-11-2008, 11:27 AM

i would have to say purpose/meaning, But when i feel that the work im doing is not purposeful - i tend to get lazy, e.g washing dishes

jonarmis · 03-11-2008, 03:03 PM

My personal core values would have to include the following:

-Respect
-Compassion
-Consideration
-Understanding
-Family
-Honesty
-Worthwhile Relationships
-Self-fulfillment

These is an epitomy of myself and who I am in person and in real life.

TomSprewer · 03-14-2008, 12:05 AM

Mine are:

-respect
-gratitude
-honesty
-love

I try to apply all those elements to make the world a better place. I hope that the surroundings will be filled with respect and love.

All the best,

-Tom

JoeGoldfarb · 03-14-2008, 10:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jonarmis

My personal core values would have to include the following:

-Respect
-Understanding

these two i feel are core values to my existence. i feel these two are the roots to all other core values one may feel.

(i choose not to use an possessive words because these values cannot be possessed.)

Tamra · 03-15-2008, 05:44 PM

Freedom is my #1 and the only one I really concern myself with. I love my kids but they're going to eventually lead their own lives

Angela · 03-15-2008, 06:37 PM

Joy, Connection, Freedom, Inspiration.

Frankthetank · 03-16-2008, 03:28 AM

Hi Evergreen!

My core values are so far:

1.Integrity
2.Truth
3.Abundance Mentality/I am enough
4.Courage/Putting up with crap
5.Compassion
6.Love
7.Non-Judgement, Acceptance

These are never changing core values or I don't know if you can actually call them values because they come from understanding not from ego desire.
(Maybe frames is a better word.) And they are extremely difficult to attain.
For example if you don't practice awareness or truth, you might get caught up in stupidities and your integrity can bring non-integrity along with it.
Maybe I myself will not be able to get to love consciousness, but I think if you understand and live them you will get better and better and eventually get very astonishing results. I try to act upon them whether my personality values are humor, family, success etc.

After that I would put my priorities/purposes or qualities which are on the level of personality. They change in contrary to core values and are basically what lights my heart on fire at that time or what I love and care for.
There would be something like learning new things, fun activities, business, family etc.
But core values must precede them, because principle centeredness is a deeper and thus a more effective or beautiful way of dealing with life.
For example: Your level of integrity or the I am enough frame will determine how your familiy life is going to be way more than just making it a priority.

This is my understanding so far, hopefully i could help.

iambrian · 03-25-2008, 03:06 PM

Hi all!

My core values are (not in any particular order):

1. Lead by example
2. Integrity (ie. consistency and keeping committments)
3. Sincerity
4. Trust
5. Love

Challenge is living them out.

evrgrn3 · 03-29-2008, 05:28 AM

Here is the cumulative list thus far...as people write in their core values, I will continue to revise this list. Lets see how many people we can get to submit their values!

Integrity (3)
Love (3)
Respect (3)
Compassion (2)
Family (2)
Honesty (2)
Innovation (2)
Understanding (2)
Abundance Mentality/I am enough
Acceptance
Balance
Connection
Consideration
Courage/Putting up with crap
Creativity
Freedom
Gratitude
Joy
Lead by example
Meaning
Non-Judgement
Purpose
Self-fulfillment
Sincerity
Trust
Truth
Worthwhile Relationships

dezzo · 04-08-2008, 10:54 AM

Awareness
Truth
Proactive Action
Generosity
Synergy
Self-Actualization
Unselfonscious Joy

Jonathan Mead · 04-08-2008, 06:52 PM

It's really interesting to see what everyone's core values are here.

I've spent a lot of time meditating on my personal values and used to actually start every day take a few minutes to meditate on each one. It is a great way to start your day and to make sure you stay on track only doing things that are in alignment with your values.

Here is my personal list:

1. Clarity / Balance
2. Authenticity
3. Confidence
4. Health / Fitness
5. Excellence / Mastery
6. Love / Devotion
7. Productivity / Drive
8. Integrity / Honesty
9. Discipline / Persistence
10. Compassion
11. Growth
12. Focus

Jonathan Mead · 04-08-2008, 06:55 PM

I just wanted to add something really quickly.

I created this value list about 9 months ago, and would meditate on it daily for a good 3 months in a row every morning. I stopped doing this about 6 months ago.

2 months ago, I started my blog on personal development. I thought it would be a great idea for my tagline to express what the 3 top values were for the mission of my sites purpose. I didn't refer to my personal value list at all, as I said, it had been several months since I'd even looked at it. Somehow though, those values must have become ingrained in me, because I happened to pick the top 3 values on my list for the tagline of my blog. Strange huh?

Coincidence? I don't think so. Divine? Perhaps. =)

evrgrn3 · 04-11-2008, 05:18 AM

With 13 responses, here is the cumulative list. Lets see who else we can get to add to the list!

Leo

Integrity (4)
Love (4)
Balance (3)
Honesty (3)
Respect (3)
Compassion (3)
Authenticity (2)
Family (2)
Innovation (2)
Truth (2)
Understanding (2)
Abundance Mentality
Acceptance
Awareness
Clarity
Confidence
Connection
Consideration
Courage
Creativity
Discipline
Drive
Excellence
Fitness Freedom
Focus
Generosity
Gratitude
Growth
Health
Joy
Lead by example
Mastery
Meaning
Non-Judgement
Persistence
Proactive Action
Productivity
Purpose
Self-Actualization
Self-fulfillment
Sincerity
Synergy
Trust
Unselfonscious Joy
Worthwhile Relationships

Sam988 · 04-11-2008, 06:11 AM

I was trying to summarize it to a few words. I think that it all comes down to freedom. Freedom to do and be and live whatever way and as much as you want to.

If i had this sort of freedom, i would need nothing else. I'm constantly pursuing it, i hope some day i'll achieve it.

uberinquisitive · 04-13-2008, 07:36 AM

If I had to define the one, ultimate value:

Authenticity.

I strive for authenticity in everything I do. That means I'm going for that "comfortable in my skin, everytime, everywhere, in every way" feeling.

Frankthetank · 04-14-2008, 06:47 PM

Yeah, that's a good shot.

I think it's authenticity also, because what can we be here for if it's not discovering who we are? Nobody really knows who he is. And isn't this similar to freedom, because you can't really be free if you don't know who you are right?

So I think even the value of love must be second, because without freedom, love is only false, it is not unconditional thus not really love.

03-09-2008, 06:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
evrgrn3 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 45	What Are Your Core Values? I have spent a long time studying, writing, researching and presenting about why Personal Core Values are so important to the individual, couples, groups families, teams, cultures, and etc.. I have a strong belief that the more in-tune we are with our Core Values, the more synchronous our lives are. Since I am fairly new to the forum experience, I am not sure what type of response I am to receive...but I wonder what you all would consider to be your Personal Core Values. Mine are: Balance Creativity Integrity Innovation Family I think to work from a common slate, look at this list and pick your top 5. I am curious to see if there are trends, similarities, etc. BUT, if yours are not on the list, feel free to make up your own! Do not any push from me to have to use the list :-) If you have your own, please use that! Steve Pavlina also has one on his blog that has been referred to in the past but I do not have the link for that. My List Thanks for taking part! I will keep track and post results as time passes! Last edited by evrgrn3; 03-09-2008 at 07:39 AM.

03-11-2008, 05:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
evrgrn3 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 45	Bore Values? Being new to the forum, i am not sure If I have asked a question bit outside of the norm...if so -- I do apologize Maybe the discussion has occurred before and I was not around to see it happen -- if so, please let me know. Otherwise, i would still really enjoy hearing about peoples core values and why they are important to them. I will elaborate upon mine: Balance - I strive to find natural balance like the symbolic balance of the Yin and the Yang. I find this balance through nature and quiet. Creativity - Amazing how the most unique things can impact so greatly, a new twist on an old idea, a colorful way to see black and white...creativity is a constant revival of the soul. Integrity - Say what you do, do what you say. That's it. Innovation - To develop new learning, a new perspective, a lens to see the world as never seen before so that all potential can be engaged is my dream of innovation. Family - Whether it be biological, chosen, communal, or even societal, family is the foundation of my life. I look forward to others postings! Leo

03-29-2008, 05:28 AM	#11 (permalink)
evrgrn3 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 45	Simply Awesome! Here is the cumulative list thus far...as people write in their core values, I will continue to revise this list. Lets see how many people we can get to submit their values! Integrity (3) Love (3) Respect (3) Compassion (2) Family (2) Honesty (2) Innovation (2) Understanding (2) Abundance Mentality/I am enough Acceptance Balance Connection Consideration Courage/Putting up with crap Creativity Freedom Gratitude Joy Lead by example Meaning Non-Judgement Purpose Self-fulfillment Sincerity Trust Truth Worthwhile Relationships

04-11-2008, 05:18 AM	#15 (permalink)
evrgrn3 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 45	Core Values Cumulative List -- N=13 With 13 responses, here is the cumulative list. Lets see who else we can get to add to the list! Leo Integrity (4) Love (4) Balance (3) Honesty (3) Respect (3) Compassion (3) Authenticity (2) Family (2) Innovation (2) Truth (2) Understanding (2) Abundance Mentality Acceptance Awareness Clarity Confidence Connection Consideration Courage Creativity Discipline Drive Excellence Fitness Freedom Focus Generosity Gratitude Growth Health Joy Lead by example Mastery Meaning Non-Judgement Persistence Proactive Action Productivity Purpose Self-Actualization Self-fulfillment Sincerity Synergy Trust Unselfonscious Joy Worthwhile Relationships

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03-11-2008, 11:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
supertom Banned Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Homeless Posts: 3,548	i would have to say purpose/meaning, But when i feel that the work im doing is not purposeful - i tend to get lazy, e.g washing dishes

03-11-2008, 03:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
jonarmis Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 45	My personal core values would have to include the following: -Respect -Compassion -Consideration -Understanding -Family -Honesty -Worthwhile Relationships -Self-fulfillment These is an epitomy of myself and who I am in person and in real life.

03-14-2008, 12:05 AM	#5 (permalink)
TomSprewer Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 33	Mine are: -respect -gratitude -honesty -love I try to apply all those elements to make the world a better place. I hope that the surroundings will be filled with respect and love. All the best, -Tom

03-15-2008, 05:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
Tamra Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Arizona Posts: 17	Freedom is my #1 and the only one I really concern myself with. I love my kids but they're going to eventually lead their own lives

03-15-2008, 06:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
Angela Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 22,520	Joy, Connection, Freedom, Inspiration.

03-16-2008, 03:28 AM	#9 (permalink)
Frankthetank Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12	Hi Evergreen! My core values are so far: 1.Integrity 2.Truth 3.Abundance Mentality/I am enough 4.Courage/Putting up with crap 5.Compassion 6.Love 7.Non-Judgement, Acceptance These are never changing core values or I don't know if you can actually call them values because they come from understanding not from ego desire. (Maybe frames is a better word.) And they are extremely difficult to attain. For example if you don't practice awareness or truth, you might get caught up in stupidities and your integrity can bring non-integrity along with it. Maybe I myself will not be able to get to love consciousness, but I think if you understand and live them you will get better and better and eventually get very astonishing results. I try to act upon them whether my personality values are humor, family, success etc. After that I would put my priorities/purposes or qualities which are on the level of personality. They change in contrary to core values and are basically what lights my heart on fire at that time or what I love and care for. There would be something like learning new things, fun activities, business, family etc. But core values must precede them, because principle centeredness is a deeper and thus a more effective or beautiful way of dealing with life. For example: Your level of integrity or the I am enough frame will determine how your familiy life is going to be way more than just making it a priority. This is my understanding so far, hopefully i could help.

03-25-2008, 03:06 PM	#10 (permalink)
iambrian Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 6	Hi all! My core values are (not in any particular order): 1. Lead by example 2. Integrity (ie. consistency and keeping committments) 3. Sincerity 4. Trust 5. Love Challenge is living them out.

04-08-2008, 10:54 AM	#12 (permalink)
dezzo Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 21	Awareness Truth Proactive Action Generosity Synergy Self-Actualization Unselfonscious Joy

04-08-2008, 06:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
Jonathan Mead Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 245	It's really interesting to see what everyone's core values are here. I've spent a lot of time meditating on my personal values and used to actually start every day take a few minutes to meditate on each one. It is a great way to start your day and to make sure you stay on track only doing things that are in alignment with your values. Here is my personal list: 1. Clarity / Balance 2. Authenticity 3. Confidence 4. Health / Fitness 5. Excellence / Mastery 6. Love / Devotion 7. Productivity / Drive 8. Integrity / Honesty 9. Discipline / Persistence 10. Compassion 11. Growth 12. Focus

04-08-2008, 06:55 PM	#14 (permalink)
Jonathan Mead Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 245	I just wanted to add something really quickly. I created this value list about 9 months ago, and would meditate on it daily for a good 3 months in a row every morning. I stopped doing this about 6 months ago. 2 months ago, I started my blog on personal development. I thought it would be a great idea for my tagline to express what the 3 top values were for the mission of my sites purpose. I didn't refer to my personal value list at all, as I said, it had been several months since I'd even looked at it. Somehow though, those values must have become ingrained in me, because I happened to pick the top 3 values on my list for the tagline of my blog. Strange huh? Coincidence? I don't think so. Divine? Perhaps. =)

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Frankthetank Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12	Yeah, that's a good shot. I think it's authenticity also, because what can we be here for if it's not discovering who we are? Nobody really knows who he is. And isn't this similar to freedom, because you can't really be free if you don't know who you are right? So I think even the value of love must be second, because without freedom, love is only false, it is not unconditional thus not really love.

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