My mission: to be a guardian angel

[Cat Dancer]

I was starting to reread The Singularity Is Near this morning when a little voice spoke up in the back up my head:

your role is to be a guardian angel for people to help them through this transition

Gulp.

Um, er, eep, well I'm glad to hear my mission in life isn't something small or trivial!

My second thought was: as a "guardian angel", do I still get to have sex? LOL

The good news is that it's in alignment with my new career path for giving advice.

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Cat Dancer

My second thought was: as a "guardian angel", do I still get to have sex?

I don't see why not.

[Dating Specialist]

Guardian Angel in which aspect specifically? I would love to hear this really

Because for me, my mission is to be the shining star for people who are lost in their journey of love. That's why I'm writing on this area and also providing love coaching for those who may be in need of a pulling hand at certain times of their lives.

[Cat Dancer]

Originally Posted by Dating Specialist

Guardian Angel in which aspect specifically? I would love to hear this really

What I notice most often is people making decisons based on false beliefs or incorrect information. For example, someone may say that they can't get a date because they are ugly, or unlovable, or women / men don't like them, or all the good women / men are taken. And, looking at this particular person, I notice that their belief in this instance is incorrect, that the reason why they are having trouble is because they don't know how to date. So I will say, "actually, what you really need to do is to see a dating specialist"

[placebo]

It's very nice of you, Cat Dancer to wish this kind of thing.
I believe that helping someone becoming from "ugly" to "beautiful" is hard job to do. O.K.,you maybe can convince someone to change their beliefs, but what happens if nothing happens to that person in area of relationships. He starts to believe that he deserves someone but never actually get someone. What to do then?

[Nicolle]

IMHO, the only thing you can do to help people get what they want is to provide them tools for seeing what (in themselves) is in the way, and how to get those things out of the way.

A dating specialist isn't going to do someone much good if they go into each and every date with the fundamental belief that they are ugly and unlovable. Similarly, a money coach will do someone little good if their fundamental belief is that they are going to end up penniless.

This might sound a little harsh, but I don't believe that advice in and of itself makes much a difference for people. Someone could advise me on how to handle dating, and that advice might provide be useful tools, but until I deal with the fundamental conversations I have about dating (i.e. "I don't have what it takes") then putting that advice to action is like putting icing on mud pie.

One of the things I like about Steve and Erin's site is that they do put tools into peoples' hands for this. But for me, honestly, that's not enough. I take and lead seminars at a company organized around the principles mentioned above, and in that community I am able to do this work on myself in areas where there are blocks to me having what I want.

YMMV and all of that.

[Cat Dancer]

Originally Posted by placebo

but what happens if nothing happens to that person in area of relationships. He starts to believe that he deserves someone but never actually get someone. What to do then?

If this was a real person, I'd ask questions until I had discovered the next step that was best for them.

[Cat Dancer]

Originally Posted by Dating Specialist

Guardian Angel in which aspect specifically? I would love to hear this really

Hmmm, reading over my first reply to you, I don't think I answered your question.

I think the answer is I don't know yet.

[Alvin]

Originally Posted by Cat Dancer

I was starting to reread The Singularity Is Near this morning when a little voice spoke up in the back up my head:

your role is to be a guardian angel for people to help them through this transition

The singularity transition specifically? Interesting! What do you think it is about the singularity that draws you so?

[fourthdan]

Cat Dancer - do you plan to have sex with the people you're being a guardian angel to?

Maybe you should keep them seperate - the people you get intimate with, and the people you help. Else the relationship might become one of lop-sided emotional dependance.

[Cat Dancer]

Originally Posted by Nicolle

IMHO, the only thing you can do to help people get what they want is to provide them tools for seeing what (in themselves) is in the way, and how to get those things out of the way.

As a strategist, I would go along with that "often" the way to help people is to help them remove things that are in their way, but I'm not going to agree that that is the "only" way to help people in all situations.[/quote]

Originally Posted by Alvin

The singularity transition specifically? Interesting! What do you think it is about the singularity that draws you so?

I'm not sure I'd describe myself as being "drawn" to the singularity. I suspect most people's reactions to the singularity will largely reflect their current level of consciousness: someone who is predominately at the "fear" level will be fearful of the singularity, and so on. I'm currently primarily at the "neutrality" level, so it is perhaps not surprising that I might feel like I'd be just as happy if the singularity were to go away and not bother me.

Why might I be drawn to helping people with the singularity transition? Perhaps because I would like help and I'm projecting? Or perhaps because there's self-help available on a lot of topics but not much on the singularity yet?

Originally Posted by fourthdan

Cat Dancer - do you plan to have sex with the people you're being a guardian angel to?

Am I "planning" to "have sex" with the "people I'm being a guardian angel to"?

Um, no, no, and no.