What have you learned about yourself, recently.

[Calculusaurus]

I've learned that, for me, a steady, easy-going life does not bring about intense motivation, desires, or progress.

And that low points in life can make the whole process more interesting. And that low points are often good springboards for success.

[dktang]

I suffer from anxiety and it deals with social situations. I avoid lots of social things like family gatherings (dinners), bbq's, shopping for clothes, going out to eat, and the norm. When I force myself unto doing so, like going to school for instance, I am not really "there." It's real unfocused cloudy consciousness and I sort of autopilot. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety and add, but I stopped going to the psychiatrist because I feel that his intent is to clock in the hours and sell me medication. As for the therapist, she always seems to forget me and the sessions are too similiar. I don't feel a genuine intent to help me out. I understand that she might have many many clients, so it's not entirely her fault.

I have a huge problem with getting started and sticking to things. There's at least a handful of books that I have started and not finished. Same with a lot of the articles on this site.

I live my life as a recluse. The only time I come out is to meet up with friends that I know alcohol will be involved. When I go to class, I try to be as unnoticed (sp?) as possible.

On a positive note, I work out alot and eat a pretty healthy diet. I consider myself pretty knowledgeable in the health and fitness area.

I am still having trouble getting started with journaling and meditation. I do see a bright future for myself. It's just I feel that the social skills is a step I need to conquer (relationships, career) before I can head onto the next.

[BChris]

I've learned that I don't know anything about me and I don't want to because Im afraid of discovering my true potential. (Fear of success)

[Chado2423]

Originally Posted by jsot

I've learned that my insecurities often get in the way of doing what I want to do.

I've also learned that I depend too much on other people, which is ironic because I don't have that many friends.

Likewise I learned that I have many insecurities, but I also have relied too much on other people and webistes. I have a hard time accepting the "answers are within" theory, because I've also been searching within but not getting very far if at all. I've learned that I have a lot of good wisdom in my brain, but that much of it is unused because when I try to apply it I'm terrible at it. Yet I also learned that I am "learning and growing", even if I don;t want to grow, life happens, and I grow anyway.

I'm reading Total Self Confidence by Dr. Robert Anthony, which has been very informative and is similar to the idea of the manifestation principle.

[NotesMaeve]

Things just don't bother me the way they used to. I had a conversation with my dad this evening that lasted all of five seconds:

"Hi, Dad. Is Mom there?"

"No. She's gone with your sister-in-law."

"Okay, I'll call later. Bye."

We hung up.

Normally, this would have bothered me. My father was abusive and still is to my mom. I've really grown beyond hoping for a relationship with him. Though through no choice of my own I went through some tough stuff, it really feels good to be able to be okay.

I talked to my boyfriend afterwards who gave the best support and reaction I could have asked for: He pointed out I am really okay. I am not mousy as a result of this. I am not weak. It just feels really great to have someone in your life who will walk you through these things.

[phoenixmama]

Originally Posted by Chado2423

Likewise I learned that I have many insecurities, but I also have relied too much on other people and websites.

Wow, this describes me also. I have realized that I expect others to fix my problems and didn't realize how much I don't take responsibility for my bad decisions in life.

[Livgivare]

I've learned that I love being silly and giving away positive vibes to people I do not know in person. I feel so silly but I love it...

Hehe.

Love Leelene

[averyescape]

I have learned that I try to run away from my problems, but that even moving 2000 miles doesn't change the fact that I am still exactly where my own mind is. I have also noticed I use social situations and alcohol as a means to cope with things I don't want to face. I've learned that I have a desire to do something pretty outrageous in order to improve myself that I know would be good for me, but I am afraid to try because I think that others will disapprove.

[Lisa McGregor]

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QUOTE=Honeywith4bees;106356]I've learned that I love reading most of the threads on this forum, and that I'm incredibly nervous about finally posting a reply of my own. What in earth am I so afraid of!?!?

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You're afraid of being judged. We all are. Join the club (forum)
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[Livgivare]

That I really do not feel that advice is for me all the time but sometimes more for the person who gives them away...but how to deal with that?

[backpocket]

Wanting to impress girls increases my creativity, and I find it easier to write and make songs.

Being disappointed by girls increases my creativity, and I find it easier to write and make songs.

[jsot]

This week I learned that I hate school dances.

[triplelight]

I have done a lot of past life work recently and I've have spent many past lifetimes seving the common good in some capacity. My lifetimes seem to have been filled with a strong sense of responsibility and duty and this lifetime has been no difference.

I've learned that this time around, I am here to have fun - to follow my dreams and fantasies - to follow my bliss! I'm have started to have a blast and I think I will end up helping many more people to boot by following my bliss as opposed to dutifully helping.

Kevin
http://themediamessiahblog.blogspot.com/

[frogcat]

I've been dissatisfied at work lately, though I have an enviable situation.

I've been pushing myself to figure out "what I really want to do" and feeling discouraged because I haven't felt any clear calling.

I got the audio series "The Ultimate Anti-Career Guide" and have been listening to it, how to get alignment with your Self. (I recommend it!)

I've also been journalling, keeping lists of long term goals as related to work, health, family, etc.

And over the weekend, I started discussing all these life goals and my passions and seeking my calling with my wife.

And you know what I realized? At this phase in my life, with two very young children, my passion, my calling, revolves around my wife and children. That's where my heart and desire and creativity and vision are aligned.

And when I realized that, I could see why I felt dissatisfied at work. It wasn't the work, nor the people. It was because I felt out of control about the time and attention I could spend with my family. And I could see why I was having such a hard time figuring out "what I really wanted to do" because I kept intellectually pushing for a career/work type answer, and disregarding what my heart was saying.

Now that I understand my "problem" with work more clearly, I can take concrete steps to developing a solution...

[geekchic9]

Being angry is so much better than suppressing anger and being depressed. When I suppressed my anger, it turned inward into depression, and so I would find myself crying and having no idea why. This was happening fairly frequently for many years now. Facing the anger I have toward myself and others means I can deal with it and change it into more productive energy to improve myself and become more successful in my endeavors.

Oh, yes, and the "You Deserve It!" Paraliminal is wonderful.

[lightthecandle]

Originally Posted by dulaney0330

I have learned that loving and accepting myself really means going back to my inner child and wrapping my arms around her. I need to love and accept the little girl who was abused, neglected, and ridiculed.

THANK YOU.

I've been having somewhat of a bad day, days, and beating my self up for the past 2 weeks to a certain extent. what you said has got to be one of the most beautiful lines I have EVER read(and I've read ALOT). It really made me tear and cry ...and I will be using this as my affirmation every time i'm feeling down. I don't mean to sound cliche, but you've really changed my life.

[Livgivare]

that I have to stop thinking about bad stuff that can be toxic to me, I get nothing done with my studying and I overeat bad stuff because of it...so out with Mr. Tixic-thinking!

Love Leelene

[LuckyBuffie]

I learned that I am a commercial producers dream! lol, All those commercials about quacamole, desserts, pork, whatever you name it. I dont have to be even watching tv and if I hear a commercial in the background, 5 min later I am craving whatever was on tv! I figured it out and , although I dont give into those cravings, i need to turn off the TV!! I asked my husband a few days ago if he wanted me to make pizza bagels. He asked me why b.c he just saw that on tv and that was weird. I was watching in another room, but thats when we figured out my little problem. TV OFF= eat healthy, haha.

[Danyelle]

I learned that I had a fear of success and feared my powerfulness. I'm getting better though, slowly but surely.

[LifeFirst]

That I am scared of success

My mind isn't where it needs to be


Most of the time I start out the day very focused, but as the day drags on, it gets worse and worse. I need to keep reminding myself to keep focused. Sometimes when I waste time, I am very dissappointed. But it happens almost everyday. Sometimes not even consciously, I don't know how I can change this.

[Livgivare]

I am also somewhat affraid of success but more and more I find out that I can't handle stress. I hate that and that I give into others advices too fast even if it feels wrong doing that...

Love Leelene