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Old 11-13-2006, 04:53 PM
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Default Wealth = Success???

I don't know if you agree with the following title, but it seems like we all measure success with respect to how much money someone made. It's not that they have a good heart or are living their passion, it's all about the money. "How much money have they made pursuing their passion?" If it's not much, even less than they were making before, outside observers will comment by saying that this person is not successfu, when indeed, they may be very successful in finding their passion, doing their passion, and living their passion. Money si obsolete when compared to someone living their passion. As long as they have enough money to live and keep living their passion, there really isn't a need for more money. If you have excess money that you're not using, what's the point of having it? Maybe you could give it to charity. But if you really want to become a millionaire just to do it, how much money will you make before you stop being greedy, always wanting more?

This is a conflict I'm having. Sure, it would be nice to make millions of dollars for an easy life, but if I do it not following my passion, then it will be pointless. But even if I do make millions following my passion, it will feel like I really don't need a lot of the money, so I'll most likely end up giving it away to the point where I survive and I guess it is a good thing to give money away. But even if I don't make all that money and I do follow my passion, I'll still be successful in my mind and I will not let materialism warp my sense of success. If I make a good living doing it, enough to support myself and eventually my family, then I've done what I need to do. Just some thoughts I thought I'd get out there.
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Old 11-13-2006, 05:08 PM
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Spot on, Andrew. I think before one wants a certain sum of money, s/he has to know what does s/he want it for. I mean, what we really want is what we can do with that money, what we can use it for, not the money itself.

money = medium
what you do with that money = message

That's how I see it.

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Old 11-13-2006, 05:28 PM
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This is a conflict I'm having. Sure, it would be nice to make millions of dollars for an easy life, but if I do it not following my passion, then it will be pointless. But even if I do make millions following my passion, it will feel like I really don't need a lot of the money, so I'll most likely end up giving it away
If you follow your passion, I think you have a chance of making as much money as you need to achieve what you want to achieve. If your long term goals don't require a lot of money (which is perfectly fine), you won't feel motivated to be making a lot of money. As you climb the consciousness levels, you one by one lose the most common desires people have for making money: security, materialism, clinging to your physical possessions which are ultimately dust anyway. Your values change, and so do your priorities. Sounds like you're at a level already where you're questioning materialism, and that's good.

However, money is not bad in itself. You just have to be clear why you want it. If you really do need the money to accomplish something worthwhile, it'll come to you eventually. You'll take the appropriate actions consciously or subconsciously for it to happen. But if you think that you'd only use money for selfish needs, then you'll never make millions. Doing that would require lowering your level of consciousness.
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I think a primary reason most people equate money with success, is that they usually start out wanting money simply as a means to be able to do the things that make them happy and fulfilled. But eventually, they get so wrapped up in the pursuit of money itself that somewhere along the line a disconnection devlops. They eventually forget why they wanted the money to begin with. That ultimately leads to the money itself being equated with success.

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"Money doesn't solve all of your problems, but it does solve the problem of not having enough money." - Me

If someone is following their passions, is considered "poor" by someone else's standards, but feels like they are rich, then they are successful.

If someone is following their passions, but complains about not having enough money, then they are not successful.

If someone has plenty but doesn't realize it, then they are also not successful.

Just some simple guidelines that I live by.
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I think it's a valid point you're making. The happiest and most fullfilled people I know of, namely the zen buddhistic munks, don't even strive for money. Three meals a day, peace of mind and love is all we need.

To be honest, I think it's quite weird that the positive psychology movement put so much weight on making money, which is absolutely irrelevant to your personal development.
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No way money=success. Or money=happiness. That may be the biggest lie ever. Just get to know some rich ones...

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I think this is one of those things that we are constantly told, that money doesn't equal happiness, but we don't listen until we do get the money and then we realize. It's like running your hardest in a circle and you're right back where you started.
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Most of my clients at my day job are very wealthy....yet I'd say 95% of them are just downright miserable.

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This was a good enough topic that I had to blog about it.
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Sometimes I really do wonder why there is such antipathy and conflict about wealth or money? And yet the majority of this planet could not function without it. Economies would grind to a halt and the world would go back to the Stone Age.

There is absolutely nothing wrong or evil in having money. If you pursue your purpose and add value to people's lives then inevitably you will be rewarded. What is wrong with that? I fail to comprehend this sackcloth attitude of people towards money. I find it very strange.

Money is not evil. A lot of good can be done with it. Peoples lives have been changed because of it. It's only a tool. You have more choices and freedom when you have wealth and that is not a bad thing. If you are conflicted about wealth, then perhaps you should opt out of the Western society and go and join Hare Krishna or become a Buddhist monk and live in a monastary somewhere because the world ain't gonna change anytime soon.
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Sometimes I really do wonder why there is such antipathy and conflict about wealth or money?
I think the real issue people have with money is not the belief that it's evil in itself, but the belief that to be wealthy they have to either do something unethical, or do something they don't enjoy doing. Society is great at conditioning both of these into us. Steve has a blog entry about such limiting beliefs, in Overcoming Limiting Financial Beliefs.
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I think the real issue people have with money is not the belief that it's evil in itself, but the belief that to be wealthy they have to either do something unethical, or do something they don't enjoy doing. Society is great at conditioning both of these into us. Steve has a blog entry about such limiting beliefs, in Overcoming Limiting Financial Beliefs.
Thanks Baltar....that's an awesome blog post by Steve...just when I think I've read this site "cover to cover", someone points out a new one I haven't seen before.

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The problem lays not in wealth, but what one associates with being wealthy. To the title question "Wealth = Success???" I answer with a resounding YES!

But I do not limit my view of wealth to riches and money. Wealth is an abundance of that which one seeks. So when one knows what one seeks, and has that in great abundance, they are, in my book, successful.

You can't know what to seek unless you know your purpose.
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Money and wealth is just one part of life. If you focus on that part too much, then you become unbalanced. I agree with Erki - "money = medium
what you do with that money = message".

Another way to look at success might be:

Success = number of people you help * amount/value/difference you make in their lives.
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The problem lays not in wealth, but what one associates with being wealthy. To the title question "Wealth = Success???" I answer with a resounding YES!

But I do not limit my view of wealth to riches and money. Wealth is an abundance of that which one seeks. So when one knows what one seeks, and has that in great abundance, they are, in my book, successful.

You can't know what to seek unless you know your purpose.
I agree, it's all subjective. According to Steve our entire reality is Subjective anyway.

For example, I have the goal of becoming the world's first trillionaire. Not that I need that much money, I just think that creating income sources, investments, & businesses are fun. So it's probably my purpose to do so. So to me, the amount of wealth I create is like a "score card." The more wealth I amass, the better the score, the better the score, the more successful I feel!

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I love making money. I love doing things with that money too, like travelling to new countries, treating myself to an extraordinary dinner or having a brand new coat I feel comfortable in.

I don't see why someone should mean I am on the "lower end" of the consciousness ladder, just because I value feelings like security and materialism. Money sets you free from a lot of negative feelings, and gives you a lot of new opportunities (like starting a new business).

Money is happiness if you cherish it.
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I love making money. I love doing things with that money too, like travelling to new countries, treating myself to an extraordinary dinner or having a brand new coat I feel comfortable in.

I don't see why someone should mean I am on the "lower end" of the consciousness ladder, just because I value feelings like security and materialism. Money sets you free from a lot of negative feelings, and gives you a lot of new opportunities (like starting a new business).

Money is happiness if you cherish it.
Couldn't have said it better! There are people out there that'll disagree. But I don't think that being broke is very "spiritual." I do think that being happy is. And if money adds to that happiness, then why not!

Don't put to much stock on people thinking you are on the "lower end" of the conciousness ladder. If you're happy (isn't that the main objective anyway), then their opinoin really doesn't matter much.
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Who was the guy that said : Money is not the root of all evil but having no money is the root of all evil.

I want to increase my wealth to secure me and my family of anything that could happen in the future.
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It sounds like you are having one hell of a conflict with the idea of completely pursuing your passion and other people judging you for how much money you'll make.

You mentioned the idea of making money and everything over enough money is excessive and you would have to give it away. It seems giving money away is not something you would enjoy doing when you have your million dollars.That's not a bad thing it just does not motivate you or make you feel good about having that amount of money. If you don't want to give the extra money away, you could find a purpose for using that money to do something that is in harmony with your passion and your wants -- you mentioned that making a good living to support yourself and your eventual family.

Pursuing your passion to the point of making more than you need to have a suffecient living could be used towards building a secure future for yourself and your loved ones. Like a nest egg where you can be sure to live off the interest of your money and take care of the financial needs of your future. That's only possible when you are making more than what you need to survive on. But you have to want that deep down, that's really all you'll put your money to use for otherwise you'll just get rid of it accidentally or not. And that's not any better place to be than not having money in the first place.

Another concept you mentioned that you weren't too happy with is the idea of being sucessful and having money and materialism distract you from your passion and goals. I have no problem having nicer things when I've earned the right to buy them by doing things that are in line with my passions.

I do have a goal to make over a million dollars but its not just a number figure or a means to an easy life. It's my journey to pursuing my passion, discovering what my limits are and pushing them to being a better person, growing beyond what I am comforatable with right now. Inertia is the surest roadblock to reaching my goals. That million dollars isn't just money its a representation of the value I bring to others and relfection of value I hold inside of myself with my character, my heart, my love and my actions. I would say that if I had to put a number on what good I have inside myself a million dollars is not nearly high enough. But it's a start because the money I am making now is not reflecting that inner value I place on myself.

I also believe that money is a by product of value I create by living on purpose, I intend to create more and have seen the amount of money I make increase too.

I strongly believe that other people's beliefs about me and money are none of my business. It's theirs. My only concern is am I being true to myself, my passions and my goals. That's my measure of success and no one else's take on what is success distracts me. Other people will always have good, bad and indifferent things to judge you by. It's just noise to what really matters.

Pursue your passion whole heartedly and success as you determine it will follow.
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My take on the situation is I don't need a lot of money, what im aiming for is passive income of enough for me to live on so I can pursue whatever I want without wasting time idling at work or wasting my days to make someone else rich.
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For me that income can be active as long as I am doing something I like. But of course, I see the power of passive income.

Does anyone here have any income that is really truly passive, meaning they don't do anything to preserve it? How long do you estimate that stream of income will continue?
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I made a list a few years ago, in an old tattered journal, of the goals I wanted to try to achieve in my lifetime. Some have been accomplished (traveling through most of Europe), and some have yet to be accomplished (swimming with dolphins, climbing parts of Mount Sinai, and becoming a millionaire). I didn't know at that point why I wanted to become a millionaire. I think I enjoyed the challenge of the thought. I also knew that if I ever accomplished that goal, I would probably turn around and give almost all my wealth away.

Now fast forward from a few years and my goal is starting to gain more clarity. I am very passionate about the environment and humanitarian issues. I try to do small things to make a difference, but I also realize that if I'm able to gather money through wise financial choices, I also have the freedom to make a much stronger impact overall.

I'm also not too attached to material things. It's the spiritual aspects of my life that really count for me. So in a sense, I feel deeply blessed and thus very wealthy all ready.
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Hold it right there. It seems like most of you are missing a crucial point when it comes to wealth. Wealth is definitely one w