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Old 11-08-2006, 07:37 PM
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Default 35 y/o and Don't know what I want to be when I grow up

Maybe I've hit my midlife crisis but I don't enjoy my work and really have no idea what I want to do.

I have a BS in Civil Engineering. I've spent my entire career in the Transportation Engineering (Highway Design) field.

I think that I need help to determine where my passions lie. Would a career coach be able to help me with this?

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Old 11-08-2006, 08:20 PM
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I'd suggest trying a bunch of stuff. Adult short courses are great for this (eg. it turns out I like to oil paint - who knew!?).

When you're trying to figure out what you'd like to do with your life, you're only able to consider the options you're aware of. If you experience more, you'll have more options (and a better idea of which ones you like).

Also, have a listen to Steve's Podcast on solving frustrating problems. It's not 100% targetted to your issue, but its message of keeping your mind open for 3rd options is pertinent.


P.S. No advice re: a career coach, sorry.
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Would a career coach be able to help me with this?
A couple of years ago I saw a career counselor. It was a worthwhile thing to do but they don't have a magic wand or have all the answers. She affirmed what I think are my passions. However, it's been difficult trying to switch from information technology to construction. The potential change in income and lifestyle has been the biggest obstacle to overcome.

In the end it comes down to taking action. You need to outline your interests, evaluate career prospects and start making headway into a new career. It sounds easy but is a very difficult thing to do. I'm 32 and have been going through with what you described for over 3 years now.

I agree with Keith, try different things to see what you like. Take classes, volunteer, take a leave of absence from work, etc. You could be burned out and just need a new hobby or change of scenery.

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Old 11-09-2006, 04:39 AM
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Are there things that you enjoy doing? It doesn't have to be much, but something that you find happiness while devoting time to it. That could very well be a passion for all you know, and may be one you can work on.

A long time friend of mine, somewhat younger than you by a couple of years had a passion for photography. He knew he enjoyed doing it, but never really thought he could capitalise on this passion of his. Whenever we spoke of this topic, he always had more things to say than anyone of us.

After several discussions we had, he finally decided to enrol himself in a professional photography course. He started out late in this trade, but is today a freelance photograper with the nation's press.

Take some time off to think about your interests in life. It could be anything like spending time with children, wake-boarding and etc. When you finally decide on one, then it's time to write down how you can capitalise on your interest.

It works for me, and I find it to be a beneficial tool.
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Old 11-09-2006, 04:47 AM
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Yeah, take some time off and spend a lot of it in the library. Start working your way through the periodicals and books. Make it your job to find something that sparks a passion!
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I would try two things. The first is thinking back to your childhood and trying to remember the things you really really enjoyed doing, often that's where the spark of your passion lies but often we ignore our passions for so long that we forget what they are. When you were a kid what did you want to be when you grew up??

The second, more drastic measure, would be to take a few months off work and just do nothing for a while. Creativity generally requires rest to function so if your passion - which may be yet to reveal itself to you - is creative, rest will really help. Take it easy and notice what you naturally gravitate towards each day and that should give you a good idea of what you're naturally passionate about.

I hope that helps
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The second, more drastic measure, would be to take a few months off work and just do nothing for a while. Creativity generally requires rest to function so if your passion - which may be yet to reveal itself to you - is creative, rest will really help. Take it easy and notice what you naturally gravitate towards each day and that should give you a good idea of what you're naturally passionate about.
I'm currently doing this right now (I'm 25). When I got out of college, I worked for a year and a half as a software developer, and generally didn't like it at all. So I just up and quit with no plan, and sold the shiny new car I bought. My advice is to take up a hobby, and see where it goes. Last year, I started taking salsa lessons, and after a year I became pretty good at it. Now, it's playing Irish music. I'm getting into it pretty heavily now and I am finding it is something I really enjoy.

If you're like me, you might be one of those people that learn quickly, and are pretty good at whatever they try. I was just working under the assumption that I had to major in something tough, I had to get the high-paying development job, but quickly found out that its not what you can do, its what you want to do and what you truly enjoy doing. Just because you are capable of doing some complicated stessful job for high pay, doesn't mean you have to. I used to feel that I would be wasting my potential so to speak if I did something else, but now I know that life is too short, and that is a crock of bull.

So what do I want to do? Some options I'm debating:

1) freelance web design, or graphic design. I know I have an eye for design, but do I love it enough? I also thought about photography as well.

2) Something with music. Maybe teach guitar lessons.

3) Travel. I've always loved traveling.

But as each day goes by, I'm pretty sure my passion is music. I grew up with music, and it was always really important in my family and throughout my life. How I can monetize this, I don't know, but I'm working on it.

So try a bunch of stuff, and see what you like. And don't worry that you are 35, it is never too late to try something new.

Oh, and in regards to the career coach, I'm finding that you are your own best career coach. Of course you want someone to give you the answer, but you need to spend some time listening to yourself, and I think you'll eventually get the answer.
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Old 11-10-2006, 04:30 AM
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Maybe I've hit my midlife crisis but I don't enjoy my work and really have no idea what I want to do.

I have a BS in Civil Engineering. I've spent my entire career in the Transportation Engineering (Highway Design) field.

I think that I need help to determine where my passions lie. Would a career coach be able to help me with this?

Thanks.
I had to check to make sure I didn't post this. If you cross out 35 and substitute 38, I'm in the same spot you are, word for word.

I think I really like the transportation field because I'm helping the traveling public every day. However, that's more of an academic argument than one I feel viscerally. I'm not charged up about going to work the way I used to be.

So I don't have any answers, but I appreciate what others have had to say so far, and look forward to other insights.
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Default Good; 'cause I don't know either, but I'm only 25

Here's what I'm trying, and have advised my 23-year-old brother-in-law to try also.

I've determined that I need to earn $1500 after taxes in order to meet my committed expenses and have some to save/invest. But rather than try to find a single job that pays $1500, I've decided to try the multiple-streams-of-income theory. (Steve has an article on this, but I can't remember the title.)

Any day now, I'll find a part-time job that pays at least half of what I need ($800 or so). Then I'll try to generate $100/mo from 6-8 other sources, seeing how I can turn my hobbies into income. What I have so far:

Hobby: Music Income Stream: 1-2 singing gigs each month

Hobby: Spreadsheets (I know this makes me sick and wrong): Income Stream: designing spreadsheets that people can download for a small donation; computer consulting

Hobby: Photography Income Stream: 10-15 prints or 1-2 framed pictures sold each month

Hobby:
Coming up with wacky ideas Income Stream: Consulting for people who need brainstorming help

Skill: planning and organizing Income Stream: Business consulting for operations departments

Skill:
doing something exactly the same way every time Income Stream: business consulting for entrepreneurs who've read E-myth

Obviously, these won't all be making me $100/month instantly. I'll be living off of my savings for a while, and my family will recieve homemade Christmas gifts this year. But none of these is especially outrageous. Selling one picture/month? One gig/month? If I can charge $1/idea, I only have to come up with 100 ideas/month. They're very realistic goals.

And while none of them is (right now) passive income, it is income that I got by doing things I enjoy. And as I get more experience, I'll learn how to tweak them into passive income.

To help with your brainstorming, here's what I'm recommending to my brother-in-law

Skill:
Basketball Income stream: coaching? Tutoring?
Skill: Guitar Income stream: gigs, teaching
Skill: Comedy Income stream: stand-up, freelance marketing
Skill: Magic tricks Income stream: children's birthday parties
Skill: Outdoor sports Income stream: tour guide

If anyone wants help brainstorming ideas for your hobbies and skills, PM me. (I won't even charge you. )
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I forgot to post why I'm doing it that way. That allows me to try out different things, without feeling like I have to commit to them, have to make them work. If I decide I don't like singing in front of crowds, I drop that line of income and start another. If it turns out that people really value my spreadsheet knowledge, I expand that to be more than $100/mo. It gives me a lot of freedom to mess around and see what I like, without committing myself to go in any single direction.
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I forgot to post why I'm doing it that way. That allows me to try out different things, without feeling like I have to commit to them, have to make them work. If I decide I don't like singing in front of crowds, I drop that line of income and start another. If it turns out that people really value my spreadsheet knowledge, I expand that to be more than $100/mo. It gives me a lot of freedom to mess around and see what I like, without committing myself to go in any single direction.
Ahimel, that's a great idea. I need to get out of the all-or-nothing mindset.
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That's indeed a very nice system, Ahimel! Writing down skills and hobbies, and trying to find small income streams for each, simple and effective!
I'm going to explain this to some people I know...
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Well, you have a 10 year advantage over me.

I’m 45 and I still don’t know what to do with my life. I have recently left the corporate world after 20 years as a cubicle dweller. I was very unhappy in my job, so at least I know what I don’t want to do.

I think the “multiple streams of income” model is the smartest way to go (and I believe the way of the future for many people).

My focus right now is to try and figure out what I am passionate about, and hopefully create one or more viable income streams.
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Hobby: Coming up with wacky ideas Income Stream: Consulting for people who need brainstorming help
How do you find anyone who will pay for wacky ideas?

I'm full of ideas, but I have yet to find some people who wants to pay for them... and I have no idea about how to find such people.
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I'm full of ideas, but I have yet to find some people who wants to pay for them... and I have no idea about how to find such people.
Well, sit down and brainstorm about it. Let me know what you come up with.
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How do you find anyone who will pay for wacky ideas?

I'm full of ideas, but I have yet to find some people who wants to pay for them... and I have no idea about how to find such people.
I'm one of those folks that need brainstorming help. I don't know if I'd pay for ideas... if I got stuck on something for an extended period of time and my friends couldn't help, then maybe. But I do have a good network of friends.

As far as finding such people, I've learned the term "idea flow" to describe a scale by which you may be able to identify people to help in this arena. People with a high idea flow (most likely you) tend to come up with ideas very quickly and have little trouble brainstorming. The trade-off is that they cannot focus easily on one subject for a long period of time. People with a low idea flow (like me), however, can concentrate and focus themselves quite easily - they often will "beat a dead horse" (for lack of a better term) in conversation. The trade-off there is that it is very difficult to look at an object or idea from different angles... and even when this is done, it isn't quickly.

I do hope that helps.
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I'm one of those folks that need brainstorming help.
See! I knew they must exist.

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I don't know if I'd pay for ideas... if I got stuck on something for an extended period of time and my friends couldn't help, then maybe. But I do have a good network of friends.
I figure it will depend on the pricing and ease of use. Would you pay $5 for 5 good ideas for a term paper/project/advertisement/business?

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Yep! That's me!

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People with a low idea flow (like me), however, can concentrate and focus themselves quite easily - they often will "beat a dead horse" (for lack of a better term) in conversation. The trade-off there is that it is very difficult to look at an object or idea from different angles... and even when this is done, it isn't quickly.
That's probably my target market. People who can come up with ideas, but have things that they'd much rather do. Any ideas on how to find them? (OK, that's probably my job, right?) How about, "Where can I find more information on this concept and the characteristics of high/low idea flow people?"

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It helps lots -- it proves that there is actually a market.
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People with a high idea flow (most likely you) tend to come up with ideas very quickly and have little trouble brainstorming. The trade-off is that they cannot focus easily on one subject for a long period of time.
So true... get lots of ideas, but have problems implementing them because I loose interest (and I loose interest because I get some new ideas)
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Any ideas on how to find them? (OK, that's probably my job, right?) How about, "Where can I find more information on this concept and the characteristics of high/low idea flow people?"

Well, like I said before, I'm low idea flow, so you're not going to get much automatic info out of me. However, I can suggest that you start where I first found the idea: a book called "The Pathfinder" by Nicolas Lore. It's supposed to be a career self-help book, but is actually quite useful in terms of defining one's own traits and qualities. It may even be a resource for the starter of this thread to look at.

As far as the $5 for 5 solid ideas thing - it'd have to be a time crunch for me - the most likely scenerio being in school with a term paper due in a week. Good luck!
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$5 for 5 ideas is nothing... don't forget that a really good idea is worth millions.

I would never work for such little money, but maybe that's just me.
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$5 for 5 ideas is nothing... don't forget that a really good idea is worth millions.

I would never work for such little money, but maybe that's just me.
The million-dollar ideas I keep for myself.
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Perplexed -

Join the club, but don't think you have to know. Life is a journey, so you may have to continue the pursuit for a long time. Surely there are one or two things you enjoy but may never have considered those things as something to do as a vocation (not a job). But to be honest, you may not want to do anything specific, but just keeping trying new things. That's a valid thing to do with one's life too.
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