|03-22-2010, 06:09 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2007
What would you do if...?
Someone offered you a free car BUT you had to give up your current car to get it, and your current car is better than the free car...
Now, not sure it belongs in business and financial, BUT it's to do with something that costs $$$ and therefore it affects the family financially depending on the decision made.
Well, it's not QUITE that simple. The situation is that my husband is living 1.5 hours away from me, and last year he sold his car (we were living together then) and when I moved back to my home town, he was left without a car. Now I've had my car almost two years, I bought it myself and I'm very fond of it. It's not brand new (2003 model) but I like it, it runs well etc. etc.
Now, my parents have an old Volvo (mid 90's model), it's not a bad car, but hasn't run for a couple of years. They told me they'll get it running and give it to me, but it must be ME that has it not my husband, so I'd have to give him my car. Honestly, I don't really WANT to give up my car... cause it's mine, I chose it, I bought it, I like it! I would technically still own it, but not be driving it because my husband would have it.
(My parents say that it's because my grandmother bought the car for them, even though they paid for it eventually... and my grandma wants it for me to drive around town, not back and forth to where my husband lives...)
Well, am I being a stupid selfish cow for wanting to keep my own car?? It seems really stupid that I should be attached to a car and not really want to downgrade to an older car when I have a car I really like. The stupid thing is, I asked if I could buy their old Volvo two years ago BEFORE I bought my car, and I only bought mine because they were reluctant to sell it at the time because my grandma would be offended. Now I think... well Geez I bought a $20,000 car and I don't really want to drive around a car that hasn't even been used for over two years. But turning it down seems stupid too!
Sorry this post is so long and rambling
(Oh, and although I am still married, my relationship with my husband isn't 100% now... probably not even 50% and I'm really really not sure if it will last for the long haul... if things were better between us I'd probably be happier for him to be driving my car... He's actually been a bit annoying today and I had the discussion with my parents after an argument with my husband about stupid stuff that I didn't think needed rehashing... so I think that may be affecting my judgement too).
Last edited by votoshka; 03-22-2010 at 06:10 AM. Reason: Clarification
|03-22-2010, 02:49 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Mexico City
I would not take the car from your parents. It sounds like they are trying to use the car to tell you what you can and cannot do (go to your husband on the weekends) and I think that is just plain wrong.
I would not accept a gift that has strings attached to it like that.
And besides, you have a perfectly good functioning car, why would you want another one?
|03-23-2010, 03:44 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2007
Yes, everyone is right. I shouldn't feel obliged to take it, nor should I feel pushed into using it "their way". My husband needs a car, not me, and I think it's sort of stupid to give him my good car so I can drive my parents' old car.
I'm not sure about the insurance aspect either! Although I do think he was driving a car that was in my name a few years ago when he backed into someone, and I'm pretty sure the insurance was okay. I think the insurance may cover other nominated drivers.
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