Need advice: Human situation in business situation

[ar81]

There is a VIP who wanted to form an association to promote projects. He does not have the time to take care of it.

I enrolled in the group that would be the board of the association. Many people are interested about becoming members. However formal legal paperwork has not been in place because a member had a tight and busy schedule and the VIP wanted him there to some extent. There was another person in charge of coordinating this.

But it seems that the date for the legal paperwork has been delayed becuase of this guy several times. If it happened once, why not another one? I proposed in the forum of the future members that I considered that it would be better on december because people have a different spirit and they also have the money they saved for december to celebrate whatever event that is needed.

It seemed that the VIP did not like it, so I am afraid I might be excluded form the board. Normally I should be happy, becuase it means less responsibility with no pay, but for some reason I feel disappointed. Probably it is my ego. Probably it is that I have a VIP interested in something and from my currently sad and asleep view, it means a tragic end for a dream (in a theatrical way). I really had some ideas about collaborating with this VIP.

The VIP summoned us to a gathering in the next days to express his feelings and also to make a decision. He feels the board is not working.

After one of these delays, I had warned that during novermber I'd be very busy with US Q4 paperwork at work. So I would not be able to work a lot during that time. December also would be convenient for me, if I was to commit to something.

Also, there is a guy in the board who expressed his non conformity with the way it has been working. I hate indirect and negative feedback. If he had to say something, he had to say it before, but he is in politics, a very changing mind who serves convenience. From my view, I cannot trust him (one reason why I do not regret about not being in a board if I am excluded).

However there is also the possibility that I am mistaken. It may be possible that the VIP is not happy with the delay, which is not my responsibility. So there is a possibility that it is not me who would be excluded.

I am not depressed in the absolute sense, but I feel a bit of regret for what happened. I never should have proposed it, but in the other hand there is nothing wrong with proposing. Not sure if I am overreacting becuase I have been very asleep these days due to excess of stuff to do. No sure why I feel like that, and what could be a nice way out to this situation.

Any advise? Being asleep doe not let me think clearly.

[vartann]

drop it

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by ar81

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Any advise? Being asleep doe not let me think clearly.

Check the facts, instead of assuming things (and maybe worry about nothing).

What can you do to make it work? What can you do to inspire others to make it work?

[ar81]

Now I have a more clear view.
I decided that resigning would be the best.
That would give others the chance to be directing it.
After the initial shock to the ego, I realized it was the best way.
I talked to the VIP and we clarified things.
It was hard for him to say what it was said.
I learned to work via electronic means just like people in US, but he feels that's not the way to work here because we need to engage people, face to face.
So in this particular situation the dynamics we had in place would not meet the objective.

I decided also that staying aside from the role is the best, because I do not need to be in the board to be a leader, and ultimately I am more concerned about making it to work than to show off about a top position anywhere.