Losing Job...Need Advice

[nealashley]

Need your advice....I'm no longer going to have a job in the next couple months. Part of me thinks this is a good thing and another part of me says this is a bad thing. Good because it may be the catalyst I need to make some necessary changes and bad because I need the money. I have a wife and two kids to support so I'm very motivated.

Part of me doesn't want to get another job because it's not the path with the heart. I've always wanted to do my own thing and am kicking myself for not digging my well before I was thirsty. I'm just overwhelmed at the thought of all this and would just like some advice on what others living consciously would do.

I know Steve has said he would rather have his family be homeless than do something that he couldn't committ his heart too. I admire this about him but would find this really hard to do...

I just need help right now.

[Dan.Linehan]

What sort of help / advice do you need exactly?

[Aleksander Krstic]

I have developed my method for something similiar as your problem-they'll probably kick me out of school for my grades.

I don't want to be rude, but the method is: Just enjoy the ride, you only live this life once.

[nealashley]

@Dan - I'm just looking for what others would do in my situation. Would they go into another job (for the short-term) as opposed to pursuing their passion (while putting your family under strain)?

@Aleksander - i think there is much wisdom in your answer. My wife said everything will work out fine; Perhaps, I'm worrying too much (i'm becoming like my mother )

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by nealashley

@Dan - I'm just looking for what others would do in my situation. Would they go into another job (for the short-term) as opposed to pursuing their passion (while putting your family under strain)?

What sort of short term job? What is your passion?

[Aleksander Krstic]

Originally Posted by nealashley

@Aleksander - i think there is much wisdom in your answer. My wife said everything will work out fine; Perhaps, I'm worrying too much (i'm becoming like my mother )

I'm very glad I could help.

[ken nubo]

Down to earth advice: get a job, then start an internet biz. even if you're "internet biz" makes you $50 a month, it's a start. Eventually you'll make a full time income on the internet, just like millions of people around the world.
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[MisterEThoughts]

Get a few hobbies and focus on those. If you have money saved over, use it wisely. If not, try to find a part time job if you are struggling with money.

[Eric Roosevelt]

Taking a break in the short term and making some changes can sometimes have a positive impact on your long-term income. However, it's not easy giving such specific advice over the internet like this. First you need to figure out what you want. I recommend mind-mapping your thoughts on a piece of paper.

[Gazzali]

Originally Posted by nealashley

Need your advice....I'm no longer going to have a job in the next couple months. Part of me thinks this is a good thing and another part of me says this is a bad thing. Good because it may be the catalyst I need to make some necessary changes and bad because I need the money. I have a wife and two kids to support so I'm very motivated.

Part of me doesn't want to get another job because it's not the path with the heart. I've always wanted to do my own thing and am kicking myself for not digging my well before I was thirsty. I'm just overwhelmed at the thought of all this and would just like some advice on what others living consciously would do.

I know Steve has said he would rather have his family be homeless than do something that he couldn't committ his heart too. I admire this about him but would find this really hard to do...

I just need help right now.

If everyone board the bandwagon of running their own business its like in a car and no one wants to drive. Someone has to do the driving. Think about it friend. Whatever business you want to do you need to withstand the risk. Capitalise your strength in what you do best. My suggestion is to get a job to cover up your fixed expenses for the month. Work and pursue with your dream. Dream and take action. Dream without action is just a fantasy.

Your first step now is to get a job. That is my sincere advice

By the way what is your strength? - What you do best?

[CubicleBailout]

It's hard to give advice when you have told us much about what you do. Do you have any hobbies or interests that could allow you to start a side business? What work are you doing now?

Providing for your family is important, but if things get tight, don't hold onto beliefs that you need to keep the house, 2 cars, etc. and the 'keeping up with the Joneses' mindset. Let all that 'stuff' go if need be.

Write down what you're good at, what you have passion about and then do some research to see if any of those could be a profitable business.

AND go get another job at the same time. Work both sides of the equation and try to find something to diversify your income.

[teatree]

Does your wife work? If she does, you can afford to take a month or two to see where your life is going. If she doesn't, you need to get a job ASAP. You have two kids who depend on you. With responsibilities like that you can't really take time to discover yourself because it will be at the expense of the little 'uns. Sorry if that sounds harsh. The time for self-discovery is either a) before you have kids b) if you have savings or c) your kids have left the nest and you no longer have responsibilities.

[Richy]

If you are ending the job soon then

Start looking for an even better paying job,
the experience you have at the old job will
make you more marketable.

If you also have a Business idea you can
think of ways to implement part time.

Money is important for you and your family.
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[mercuryrising]

Originally Posted by nealashley

Need your advice....I'm no longer going to have a job in the next couple months. Part of me thinks this is a good thing and another part of me says this is a bad thing. Good because it may be the catalyst I need to make some necessary changes and bad because I need the money. I have a wife and two kids to support so I'm very motivated.

Part of me doesn't want to get another job because it's not the path with the heart. I've always wanted to do my own thing and am kicking myself for not digging my well before I was thirsty. I'm just overwhelmed at the thought of all this and would just like some advice on what others living consciously would do.

I know Steve has said he would rather have his family be homeless than do something that he couldn't committ his heart too. I admire this about him but would find this really hard to do...

I just need help right now.

Since I am in the same boat as you (family, job, everything), this is what I came up with for myself:

0. I put my emotions aside and thought about this whole thing from a logical position. I want to respond and not react. That, I believe, is what being response-able is about.

1. I went back to school. I get financial aid and as long as I maintain my grades, I'll continue to get financial aid. I can count on that income.

2. We are cutting expenditures to the minimum. We also have a clear idea how much income we need to survive.

3. Part of the reason that we are in this mess in the first place is because, as you put it, I didn't dig my well before I got thirsty. Time to go into the well digging business or we can plan on staying in this financial position.

Turn Steve's quote around: you and your family will be homeless if you do not follow a path with heart. That's why you and I are facing this decision now.

4. With that said, I'll do whatever I have to do to survive. But I realize that even if I have to get some job at McDonald's, this predicament will come up again until I make the other choice and follow my bliss.

Hope that helps...

By the way, what is your bliss?

[Channing]

You have plenty of time to figure out what to do next. You do not have to make a decision right away.

Take time out to meditate or otherwise calm yourself down.

Stay on the lookout for opportunities, inspirations or sychronicities.

Ask for and have the expectation that you will receive guidance. Solutions may not appear until the very last moment.

[mysticmadness]

Steve is right. however it does not mean that you should quit or not try for job till the time you start on your own. I have plans of my own but to be succesful and to sustain for today I need money and hence I am doing a job. You have priorities in life and you need money for them. Let your job create money for your daily needs and in parallel start something which you really need to do. ANother option is to save money and then start on. You need a backup for sure.

[Lauxa]

Get a job where you will learn something that interests you. Maybe you can get paid to develop the skills and connections that will allow you to start your own business.