Wow, I didn't mean to sound so crappy in that last post, but my point is that, despite your misconceptions ALG, children leaving their parents is not abandonment. WE COME BACK or BRING THEM HOME when they need help. The fact is, most parents are perfectly capable of caring for themselves when their children leave home. They are still young and want to lead their own independent lives as well.
For example, when my children are grown and move out, I want to travel. I cannot do that while they are here and in school and I didn't have the finances to do it before I had children. Therefore, when they are established, I WILL DO IT and I also would like to have nice parties, child free nights, a hottub that I can get into naked, and walk around my house in complete disclosure if I damn well please, which I'll never be able to do with my children living in the house.
However, like my family has done for my grandparents and like I'll do for my parents, when the time comes, I know my kids will be there when I need help. If they aren't, all I ask for is a nice nursing home with cable. LOL.
And it's not like we move out just have nothing to do with our parents at all until they are on their deathbed. Most of us still get together for major holidays and, in my family and most of my friends that I know, still live close to each other so that we can have dinner whenever we want or get together for lunch, visit on the weekends, or have support on either side when it's needed.
I just feel like you associate moving out of one's parents' home with complete abandonment when in fact a person can still maintain a loving and caring relationship with his parents and live independently. There is nothing wrong with staying in your parents home if that's what works for you and your parents, but it just doesn't work like that here most of the time. Steve's article really doesn't apply to you because it's a cultural norm to remain with your parents.
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