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toasterwater · 08-13-2007, 10:22 AM

okay... i havent posted on this in a while, so i figure ill update you guys. First of all, thank you all for your advice and insight, it is all appreciated.

now... this is my current situation. I met a nice japanese girl less than a week ago. I have gone out with her a couple of times, and we talk on the phone and text eachother. I havent made a "move" yet, but i think i will sometime soon.

Heres the part that you will all want to stone me for: ... I am still seeing my ex every once in a while... you know, the "poisonous snake". Yeah, i dont see her often, but more often than usual, and we text/talk on the phone more often than usual.

BUT... I dont believe that i am emotionally attached to her anymore. I enjoy being with her... and i enjoy the physical pleasures that i can have with her, but i wouldnt say i love her anymore. Actually, I would really say that deep down inside i hate her.

I know that she has been cheating on me the entire time she has been with me because i have read correspondence between her and her other lovers/boyfriends, or whatever you wanna call them.

I am quite confident that she is currently with another woman. She wont admit it, but I have read correspondence between the two, and im pretty sure that good friends dont go on about how much they love and miss eachother as these two do (when they have only been apart for days at the most). And... good friends dont usually talk about being in a "serious relationship" with eachother...

regardless... this is my situation now: I am at the very beginning of what may be a relationship with a japanese girl. She is nice, and she actually acknowledges my existance (maybe this is something girls do only when they first meet a guy.. i dont know). BUT, i also still see my "ex". Now... technically, we have never actually broken up, but i know she has referred to me as her ex, and i would definitely not consider us to be in any kind of healthy boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. We do talk more often than before, and she does seem to at least make an effort to see me... but once again, that is irrelevant... I AM JUST USING HER FOR SEX!

Okay... so i said it... Maybe you all think i should be stoned for this, but what can i say, i miss having sex with her, and so if i can get it... i will. Now, at a max, this can only last another couple of months, because she will leave in a couple of months, and i will likely never see her again.

So thats my update... oh, and emotionally, im not nearly as depressed as i was when i started this thread. Im still a little ****ed up, but i can manage in this state.

08-13-2007, 10:22 AM	#30 (permalink)
toasterwater Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: San Diego, California Posts: 247	update okay... i havent posted on this in a while, so i figure ill update you guys. First of all, thank you all for your advice and insight, it is all appreciated. now... this is my current situation. I met a nice japanese girl less than a week ago. I have gone out with her a couple of times, and we talk on the phone and text eachother. I havent made a "move" yet, but i think i will sometime soon. Heres the part that you will all want to stone me for: ... I am still seeing my ex every once in a while... you know, the "poisonous snake". Yeah, i dont see her often, but more often than usual, and we text/talk on the phone more often than usual. BUT... I dont believe that i am emotionally attached to her anymore. I enjoy being with her... and i enjoy the physical pleasures that i can have with her, but i wouldnt say i love her anymore. Actually, I would really say that deep down inside i hate her. I know that she has been cheating on me the entire time she has been with me because i have read correspondence between her and her other lovers/boyfriends, or whatever you wanna call them. I am quite confident that she is currently with another woman. She wont admit it, but I have read correspondence between the two, and im pretty sure that good friends dont go on about how much they love and miss eachother as these two do (when they have only been apart for days at the most). And... good friends dont usually talk about being in a "serious relationship" with eachother... regardless... this is my situation now: I am at the very beginning of what may be a relationship with a japanese girl. She is nice, and she actually acknowledges my existance (maybe this is something girls do only when they first meet a guy.. i dont know). BUT, i also still see my "ex". Now... technically, we have never actually broken up, but i know she has referred to me as her ex, and i would definitely not consider us to be in any kind of healthy boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. We do talk more often than before, and she does seem to at least make an effort to see me... but once again, that is irrelevant... I AM JUST USING HER FOR SEX! Okay... so i said it... Maybe you all think i should be stoned for this, but what can i say, i miss having sex with her, and so if i can get it... i will. Now, at a max, this can only last another couple of months, because she will leave in a couple of months, and i will likely never see her again. So thats my update... oh, and emotionally, im not nearly as depressed as i was when i started this thread. Im still a little ****ed up, but i can manage in this state.